He got really depressed when I broke up with him after I found out. He stopped going to work for a week, he showed up at my job unexpectedly everyday.....he called me at least 100 times telling me how sorry he was, he didn't eat or sleep. He cried.... he says that after he cheated on me he felt so bad and ashamed, and it made him realize how much he really loved me. Opinions?
2007-11-08 01:17:48 · 35 answers · asked by ♥вєαυтι♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend did the same.
Him cheating made us closer, so everyone who says "OMG HE ISN'T GOOD TO YOU LEAVE HIM", don't listen to.
Seriously, it brought my guy and I soooooo much closer.
It was a mistake, and everyone makes them.
I would just be concerned if it happened twice!
2007-11-08 01:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by giiiiiiiiirlfrien' 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
I don't know how things work between you guys.
But what you are describing tells me the same story we heard 10000 times. He LIES! He cheated, he must be sorry, but he will probably do it again. I forgave my gf some years ago, she did it like 10 times more!
People never change! I've been going out with a girl for 3 years also, and I got tempted, and could have the change to cheated, but it is a balance: on one hand love, on the other hand lust.
I'm sorry to tell you this, I just hate people that are worth get snaped once and again. Somebody else will come, he realized what a good girl he lost, but it's too late now.
Good luck girl!
2007-11-08 01:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chico Migraña 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Taking him back is not so much a test for him, as it is for you. Can you take him back and trust him again? Can you not assume bad things are happening when you aren't around?Will you be able to believe anything he says again?
If you cant answer yes to any of the questions above, then taking him back will just be a big waist of time.
I personally think that if he cheated once it is very likely he will do it again. I would question how much he really loved you, considering it was so easy to just sleep with someone else.
2007-11-08 01:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on once by a guy he apologized and all that crap however he still cheated and if he really respected and loved me hed of never done so, hed of never put himself in that situation to disrespect me so much and hurt me. And i do believe that once a cheater always a cheater you took him back and though you broke up with him that tells guys that though you were mad you did take him back so that says to guys "if im sorry and apologize alot and put on the best show i can ill get away with anything" and being a guy i can tell you that is true to a degree we know how to get away with things we should never get away with....do whats right for you and only you, dont worry about him do what your heart and mind say not what he wants. Best of luck!
2007-11-08 01:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is genuinely sorry then maybe it may be worth giving him another chance, but make sure that he knows 100% that if it happens again then it is over 4 good. I think that everyone deserves a second chance as none of us are perfect and we all do things that we deeply regret. Also if it is going to work then try not to bring all of this up everytime you have an arguement and through it back in his face, as that would definately be destructive to the relationship, as we all when we get annoyed always bring up things from the past, and believe me it is not good for the relationship.
Also he has got to prove himself all over to you again and build the trust up again, which will not of course happen overnight
I really hope that things work out for you both
2007-11-08 01:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you shouldn't take him back because what's to say he won't do it again? I mean any person can feel bad at the moment but when he stops feeling the guilt, then what? You have to ask yourself, am I ready to put myself in the position to possibly get cheated on again? If you can handle that, then by all means honey take him back. Only you can judge whether or not it was a sincere apology, so I don't know, but if you do take him back you should really make him prove that he will never do it again.
2007-11-08 01:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by nh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a tricky one. He might really have learned his lesson from the cheating thing and realised how much he loves you and missed you, however, the best way to deal with this is to sort out what drove him to do it in the first place.
Have you been neglecting each other? Are there issues in the relationship you haven't really looked at? It would be best to try to work out why it happened in the first place and then go from there.
2007-11-08 01:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Serge B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ask him why he went withthis other woman when he jknew he was in a relationship with you ?? also ask him why he did not stop and what was he looking for in her that he did not get fron your present relationship?? then make him do the things he says he misses the most andthe reason he went with her .... cheating is not only a sexual thing its a mental thing... he knew what he was doing but could not stoip WHY that is the real question because he wanted to try it ?? is that the answer... why?? did he enjoy it ?? why ?? did he not realize the consequences.... why??? did he not realize how much this would hurt you and your relationship with him... WHY?? there are mnay questions that need to be answered and when you get the answers not the excuses or the I am sorrys then you should consider your actions
2007-11-08 01:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Fabio G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bah! Back in my day, when someone cheated, our whole family joined in the butt kicking to the curb!
And when they called us 100 times, we realized they were nuts instead of some idealized romantic! If they didn't eat or sleep, we called them crazy and had them committed!
You young people need to stop watching so much TV because it makes everything a big drama. Life is not so complicated. If someone appears to be a nutjob, he is!
2007-11-08 01:26:37 · answer #9 · answered by Beb B 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It has been three years...where are you in this relationship. Examine that.
It sounds like he is just feeling bad and guilty becasue he got caught. If you want this to work, he needs to re-earn your trust. Set some boundaries, limit the calls, no just showing up at work, etc. But he may have just screwed up, after all we all are human. But he was wrong in cheating.
Go to a counselor or your minister for guidance. Good luck
2007-11-08 01:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by tone 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear but once a cheat always a cheat they don't deserve a second chance he is playing you but that is just my opinion.Just ask yourself one question will you be able to trust him not to do it again or are you always going to have a little doubt . Without trust there is no relationship that will last .Good Luck
2007-11-08 01:31:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋