is abortion bad - religion??

Question

about a year before i became a christian i had an abortion. recently people at my church ahve found out about this and they dont understand what i was going through at the time as non of them knwe me then. they have now started to be really judgementle of me and all want to know why i didnt tell them from the off.
i know what i did was wrong and i would change it if i could turn back the clock. i just dont know how to behave around these people who are supposed to be my friends and are supposed to be forgiving. i am dont want to be judged for something that i done in anouther life.

Answer 1

God views all life as sacred, even that of the unborn. (Note Psalms 139:16, Exodus 21:22-24 to see how God feels about the unborn)
You now know that abortion is wrong. You did not know it then. God does not judge you on what you do not know unless you have deliberately closed your ears so as not to know. (see Hebrews 10:26 and 2Thessalonians 1:6-8) In any case you can acquire a clean standing before God on the basis of Jesus Christ ransom sacrifice. (John 3:16, Matthew 9:12-13)
EDIT
There are no instructions for abortion in the Bible.

Answer 2

Abortion is a means of choice...one that each individual involved in such circumstance has the "God-given" right to make...and you are right--people who have never experienced this decision process truly don't know. I'm sure you made the best call for yourself at the time...never regret--simply learn & move on.

You now have the unique ability to empathize with another who may come across this experience...you may also have the opportunity to be that person's "angel"...maybe you had someone like this during your experience...someone who listened & understood what you were going through. Nonetheless, you can be this for another...how great is that?!!

I also understand what you must be going through with your congregation being judgmental of you...not much practice in the preach, and this is unfortunately the usual...but worry not...reflect the best of you in this scenario, and all will be fine...through your experience do you have a wisdom that others may not...be thankful for that.

You are on quite a Journey, Little Glitter...as are we all!!!

Answer 3

Wow, wow, wow....what the in the world is your church doing?!?!? Find another church!! No where in the Bible does it say we are to judge one another, in fact it says the opposite. What your church is doing is really wrong, who are they to judge you, even if it happened last week, it is between you and God, that's it!

And even more so because this happened a year ago, before you even came to know God...I am appalled at how your church is acting.

I don't believe in abortion because I think the child is very much alive in our wombs; however, I DO NOT judge you at all. I don't know you and even if I did, I have no right to judge you. You said you know what you did was wrong, I'm sure you have talked to God about it, then its done. You can move on, if those other so-called Christians cannot, then that's their problem and God will Judge them on your behalf.

I would find another church, one that will encourage you, not put you down.

Answer 4

ABORTION - In Catholic morality, abortion is the two direct (led to) or oblique. Direct abortion is any destruction of the made from human theory, no count number if till now or after implantation in the womb. an instant abortion is one that is meant the two as an bring about itself or as a skill to an end. As a willful attack on unborn human existence, no count number what the reason, direct abortion is usually a grave purpose evil. oblique abortion is the foreseen yet only permitted evacuation of a fetus which could't stay to tell the story outdoors the womb. The evacuation isn't the meant or immediately willed effect, however the facet effect, of a few valid technique. As such it somewhat is morally allowable. the fundamental sinfulness of direct abortion is composed in the homicidal reason to kill harmless existence. This element places the controverted question as to precisely while human existence starts off, outdoors the ambit of the ethical challenge; because it additionally makes the now many times held Catholic place that human existence starts off at theory the two outdoors the heart of the church's coaching with regard to the grave sinfulness of direct abortion. Abortion has been condemned by utilising the Church considering that apostolic situations. The coaching of the Twelve Apostles, composed till now A.D. one hundred, instructed the undemanding "You shall no longer procure abortion. You shall no longer spoil a newborn toddler" (II, 2). Direct abortion and infanticide have been from the beginning up placed on the comparable point of malice. 1000's of ecclesiastical archives from the 1st century by using to the modern-day testify to the comparable ethical doctrine, with such nuances as time, place, and prerequisites indicated. the 2nd Vatican Council declared: "existence could be secure with the utmost care from the 2nd of theory," so as that "abortion and infanticide are abominable crimes" (shape on the Church in the well known international, IV, fifty one). Pope Paul VI shown this coaching in 1974. "appreciate for human existence,' he wrote, "is stated as for from the time that the technique of technology starts off. From the time that the ovum is fertilized, a existence is started that's neither that of the father nor of the mum. it somewhat is extremely the existence of a clean individual with its very own boost. it would never be made human if it weren't human already." consequently, "divine regulation and organic reason exclude all good to the direct killing of an harmless individual"

Answer 5

It's not for them to judge you. God values all human life, including unborn children, but what you did is between you and God. The role of a church should be to love and support each other, especially someone who's been through what I'm guessing was a really hurtful situation for you. If they aren't helping you to build up your life and your relationship with God, I'd try to find another church that is more accepting of hurting people. God loves you, and you need a church that reflects that. I really hope you find a good way to work this out.

Answer 6

Catholics believe that arbortion is wrong, however protestants believe that it is ok in certain circumstances eg if you are not finicially stable or it will cause damage to eithe the mother or baby. You had your reasons for what you did and at the time you believed it was the right thing to do. If people are going to judge you before knowing what you were going through at the time then how are they going to fully understand the situation you were in? No one has the right to judge you for this. If you feel guilty now for this ask God for forgiveness

Answer 7

Who are they to judge you?

I appreciate people thinking that abortion is morally wrong. But they should also respect other peoples choices.

If you are dealing with guilt and are going through a hard time, planned parenthood can lead you in the right direction to counseling. I'm sure there are people you can talk to that are also in the same bind.

Answer 8

Let me tell you something, I wish I had been aborted, I was a unwanted pregnancy. And I have lived 46 years in that shadow. My family still to this day consider me the black sheep, the unwanted one. So next time you are faced with the decision to abort think of the child you will screw up if you keep it, I do not wish MY life on anyone

Answer 9

Dear Beccy, I am so sorry to hear of your experiences at that church. Their behavior is wrong toward you. Stealing, lying, abortion, adultery, all sin is sin. When Jesus forgave your sin He forgave it all. Not one of the people who are judging you are any different spiritually than you are. He forgave them, He forgave you, He forgave me... That is it!

I don't know if these people are ignorant of scripture or if they are just sinning by being judgmental of you. This leaves you in a tough spot. Is there someone on the staff at this church that you trust enough to tell about this problem? I think you need some help to deal with all of this. If these people can't get past this you may want to look for another church to attend. It shouldn't be like this. We the church are supposed to help each other when things go wrong in our lives, no matter what it is. Their behavior is wrong and you need some kind of help.

When you had the abortion it was wrong and it also wounded your heart; I'm sure you felt sad and guilty over it. When you met Jesus and gave yourself to Him, He had already forgiven your sins, past-present-future! He will never hold it up to you and mention it again. The Bible says that He puts our sins as far away as the east is from the west - which is someplace you can't even get to as east/west NEVER MEET! We all have things in our pasts that we wish we'd never done! I became addicted to pain pills after I was a Christian, not my finest accomplishment! But Jesus forgave me and has helped me get over my addiction. I just wish we lived in the same town where I could be your friend and supporter. I will pray that someone will stand with you and help. There is a Bible verse that says Mercy triumphs over judgment! Mercy is more powerful than cold judgment.

Spend some time alone with Jesus and tell Him how you feel, pour out all the stress/feelings/worrys that are hurting you right now. He wants to hold you close and hold you up in this hard time.

I wish I knew what to tell you to say to those who question you, all I can think of is things that might start a fight if you said them! That wouldn't be so helpful, hmmm? This hard time will pass. I don't know the name of any books, but there are Christian books/Bible studies that are meant to help those who have gone through abortions. You might be able to look up something on Amazon.com. Romans 8:28 promises that God will rig everything to bring about good for those who are His, meaning He will bring something good even out of the hurt/misery of your experience of abortion. Someday in the future, you may be able to help another woman to recover from her experience.....(but not of course until you are healed yourself). I do wish you the best and hope that you will find comfort. Oh, by the way, this is very Important!! Please choose to forgive them for their judgmental attitudes. Forgiveness will free you from anger/resentment. Forgiveness is not a feeling; its a choice to ask God to do good to them, even though they haven't done good to you. When you do this it opens the way for God to do even more to help you and heal your wounded heart.

Answer 10

What you did wasn't 'wrong' so don't let anyone pull any guilt trip on you. You did the best thing with what you had to work with at the time.

It sounds like you are learning many people need a new belief system because they one they have isn't working for them (they are judgemental, etc). Take it as a lesson learned and perhaps find a new one yourself.