He does not listen but he is very smart. He knows what he does is bad and that he will get in trouble. So things he does is gets in the fridge and breaks all the eggs, pours drinks in the sink and he might ask me for chocolate milk and I say no so he gets the syrup out and pours it on the floor. He puts rolls of TP in the toilet, puts toothpast in the toilet or where ever, breaks stuff on purpose, ect. What can I do?
2007-11-08 00:41:45 · 20 answers · asked by lilac27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
LAY DOWN THE LAW AND TELL HIM WHO'S THE BOSS!!
IT'S AN AGE KIDS GO THROUGH AND THEY TEST THE WATERS BUT, YOU ARE IN CHARGE AND THAT NEEDS TO BE UNDERSTOOD.
START WITH SMALL PUNISHMENTS LIKE NO T.V. AND THEN TAKE AWAY TOYS. I PUT THE TOYS IN A GARBAGE BAG AND STICK THEM ON MY BACK PORCH AND MY SON GETS REALLY MAD HE THINKS IM REALLY THROWING THEM AWAY.
YOU HAVE TO STICK TO THE PUNISHMENTS THOUGH TOO.
BEST OF LUCK WITH THIS!
2007-11-08 00:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As his mother you have already considered in your mind what the problem may be. The answers you get here will all be from someone outside of your homes perspective. I browsed thought the answers and the majority are sound answers even the answers saying to spank him (beat is a harsh action). A spanking may help- but if the problem is an influence at home or if the child is being neglected or just wants MORE attention a spanking may cause more hurt than help. But if he's testing his boundaries a spanking does allow the child a chance to know that the consequences of his bad behavior may hurt.My suggestion is to make sure his environment at home and daycare is nurturing,and that you reinforce that you love him and are disappointed in what he's doing if you spank him---But whatever you do be consistent and don't let him slide from time to time. Positive reinforcement takes longer than negative influences!! Good Luck
2007-11-08 01:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing now? When he goes in the fridge and breaks all the eggs how do you react? He's looking for attention and at the age of 3 he'll get it in whatever way he can. "He knows what he does is bad and that he will get in trouble." He knows when he does bad things, Mommy pays attention to him.
If you want to change his behavior, you have to change yours. Show him positive attention. Spend time with him when he's being good. Praise him when he does good things. Play games with him, read to him. Show him that you enjoy being with him when he's being good. When he does bad things, don't yell or hit. Take him away from the thing he did, tell him it was wrong and that you're not happy with what he did. Be careful not to tell him that he's bad. Tell him what he did was bad. Put him in his crib or in a time out corner for 10 minutes and when the time is up teach him to apologize for doing something that was bad. Like you said, he's very smart and right now he's got you trained. It won't take long for him to catch on to a new routine.
This sounds easy but it isn't. It takes consistancy and constant awareness of where he is and what he's doing at all times. If you are consistant, he'll eventually learn to not do bad things. Raising kids isn't easy but it's worth the effort. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-08 00:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They don't often listen at 3 and they are often smart.
Sounds like you've got something positive to say about him and thats a good start.
Perhaps that might be the root of the problem..he's smart.
Smart kids need lots of attention, occupying and firm bounderies ( without shouting / smacking )
Stay calm , talk quietly, have boundless ammounts of energy and patience.
Talk with him not at him, play and reward good behaviour with a smile or a cuddle or some nice words. Praise him, even if its for something small. Ignore really bad behaviour (by this i mean don't shout, punish, or go on and on about it.
Keep your words simple..."I'm sad you've done that," should be sufficient.
Make sure he is getting enough exercise and enough sleep.
Make sure you have pleasant times together each day..
Most of all make sure you have time out to recharge your batteries.
You are probably doing all of these things....they will work out
He will grow out of them and i can guarantee into something else.
Have fun, enjoy him and good luck
2007-11-08 02:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by aaah h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He’s old enough to understand/know that what he’s doing is unacceptable.
What can you do? Discipline him. Why would you even have to ask that?
Part of your job as a parent is to teach your children that there are rules that must be followed and if the rules are broken, then there are consequences that have to be paid.
Right now, here’s what he’s learning--what YOU are ALLOWING him to learn--I can do whatever I want and never have to face any consequences. That’s not what you want him to learn. If this continues, then you can expect to be bailing him out of jail at a very young age.
2007-11-08 01:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever watched the Nanny? They love to use rewards such as stickers but being a retired first grade teacher, I love just hugging them and telling them I don't like what they are doing and then with my own son, giving him a severe pop on the bottom. I still believe spare the rod and spoil the child, as long as it isn't done in anger.
2007-11-08 00:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation.Except mine is grandbaby I normally keep fulltime til her mom gets mad and leaves her at everyone elses house for a week til she brings her back to me.
This totally confuses the baby.I have to tap her rear end doesnt help ive tried thinking chair it wont help i have learned to be consistant and stay on top of her and tell her its not appopriate.
So right now its santas watching you and not going to bring pink car..seems to be working ..and if we are in store i leave the minute she throws fit(dr phil advice)we dont buy anything we leave buggy where it is.
exlain santas watchng her/him 24 /7 so he will see all thats bad and you dont get treats ..(u have to mean it)if you are not good.like if theres a car he wants and is bad you cant get it..explain because you have acted out.
good luck im trying...after four of my own who never acted like this its a mess.The grandbaby keeps me on my toes.
2007-11-08 00:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by hugsandhissyfits 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the boy needs an extreme amount of mental stimulation, he needs to be tired out some how, so he'll sleep and be more mellow. You might want to watch it with thinking that he knows what he is doing is "bad." Sounds to me like he's just making his own fun, unfortunately it pisses people off.
Be careful with those labels, he's so young.
2007-11-08 00:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does does these things to get your attention. He pushes the limit to see how far he can go and get away with it. 3 yrs old are old enough to make some sense to be aware of what is acceptable and what is not. It is the parent who can't cope with disciplining their child.
2007-11-08 01:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my little boys just gone 2 and were having the same problem he wont share and hes always attacking his elder brothers ive tried telling him but he desnt understand so i make him sit on a naughty chair until he calms down problem is he seems to like the chair lol
2007-11-08 01:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋