can you help me??????

Question

ok so i was going out with this girl casually, then things got complicated cause of my attempted suicide. everything i try to do to talk to her doesnt work, this thought of me not resolving something anything with her is torturing me and soon i know im gonna see another picture of her and i will end my life.please i need advice from people.like what should.im so close to killing myself please i need your help

Answer 1

First remember, even if you don't feel like it now, that this WILL get better. You WILL eventually come out of this depression. Your job is to hang on until you do.

Second, it is likely that you scared this girl and she doesn't know how to handle it. If you need to resolve what happened, write her a note. Explain what happened and resolve it that way. We can't force people to listen to us and we can't force them to be in our lives. Sometimes the best thing we can do is just write them a note to explain and then leave it up to them to decide what they can handle.

Lastly, DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. If some Christians are right, you will end up in a place far worse than you are now. If they are wrong, then you don't have a problem but do you REALLY want to take that chance?

I assume you are getting therapy or counseling. You need to contact them and let them know you are having suicide thoughts again. Maybe they can get you in and help you deal with this in a better way.

Answer 2

I expect that you are feeling deeply depressed at the moment: I know I was when I went through a similar situation, so I have some idea of what you are going through, but surely you can remember times when life was good. It can be again, and soon too, but you will have to accept that you need help to deal with this, because you don't seem to have been coping well, lately. See suicidal thoughts, and depression, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 5, and 2. All you have to do is reach out for the help that is being offered. What if you change your mind partway through? What if you are found and have to live in a brain damaged, semi-vegetative existance, as some do? Surely there are people who care about whether you live, or die: how do you think they would feel? Suicide often devastates the lives of other people, who were so self absorbed in what was going on in their lives at the time, that they didn't realise you needed help, but wish they had been there to offer it, if only they had known. Do you want to put them through that? Firmly resolve now to stop thinking about her, and use the negative thought reprogramming technique, on page 2, and/or page 2L. Make yourself exercise, and go out, even if you don't enjoy it, at first: it will provide one way of stopping you from thinking about your present life situation. Understand that memories fade, with the passing of time, and ask yourself where you will be in 5 years time, and 10. Most people go through similar things, though not to the same extent, and it's common for many relationships to begin, and end, especially when younger. It's a good idea to only emotionally invest in a relationship, according to its length of time, and the degree of commitment from BOTH of the people involved. Express your feelings in a letter, and either post it, unaddressed, or have a ceremony, and burn it in a metal container, and flush the ashes down the toilet, symbolically severing the relationship, which has zero potential for anything , except causing you further distress. Give time a chance to heal, then open yourself to the possibility of a relationship with someone new.

Answer 3

Ok first of all, think about the pressure you've put on this girl by attempting suicide on her account. That's a big load to carry. At this point, she doesn't know how to relate to you, if she thinks she is the one who caused you to try and end your life.

As hard as it may be, pull away from her and let her go. Nothing you can do or say will help right now. If you do that, chances are, she will wonder why you stopped fussing over her and come to you.

In the mean time, please get some mental help. There are plenty of people who have gone through the same type of thing and can help.
I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Yeah, honestly, been there done that. I've even talked to a suicide hotline & the guy asked me how old I was & how many relationships I've been in. He said he was married 5 times! That it'll all just go away. My advice is to move on. You will find someone else & next time don't tell her bout ur suicidal thoughts cuz it doesnt really work out that great, like ur current situation. Hang in there :)

Answer 5

Darlin, if you have life issues which are so severe that you have thoughts of suicide, right now you need to take care of YOU... and another person will not solve your problems.

Our feelings of happiness and distress come from the INSIDE... not from others, technically. And i'm sure your feelings of suicide right now are from distressors which have evolved over the years... the girlfriend problems are just an added issue....

PLEASE talk to your doctor... and find a therapist. You deserve good help.

I have posted a good website, which contains a lot of helpful links and information. It's helped many, many people. Please take a look, if you will.

hugs

Answer 6

Sometimes those who attempt to take their own lives feel like there is no where else to go. Your life doe not reolve around one person. Your life doesn't end because the one you love doesn't love you. There is an issue you are trying to deal with and the best advice I can give you is to seek professional help to try to understand the answers to your questions.

It takes a very strong person to do what you have done, so you are by no means a weak person. The road does not end in a dead end. Seek professional help.

Answer 7

First of all you need to love yourself, and no one, a girl or any one else for that matter, should make you want to kill yourself, because you cant get their attention. You need to work on your self confidants, You need to go to the doctor, and express your feelings, he may put you in touch with someone who can help you! Remember their is more then one girl in this world. Keep yourself busy, join some clubs, meet new people.

Answer 8

Suicide is an attempt to stop anxiety and emotional pain. The problem is, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is never the answer. Please go NOW to the nearest ER and tell them the thoughts you're having. They can get you the help you need. Your life is a gift from Almighty God and it is sacred. Please get help and save your own life. There are so many good things ahead for you if you don't throw them away. God bless!

Answer 9

Suicide isn't the answer you need to tell this girl how you feel and how sorry you are if she doesn't want to resolve things then your best opition is to try an aviod her. Please don't commit suicide as this outcome isn't worth ot as this wouldn't just upset her but your whole family you have to consider all your options

Answer 10

You need to find something productive to do with your time. Think about your future and what you want to do with your life. Killing yourself is not the answer because after all what does it solve...will you have the girl then?