Can I have some advice please?

Question

Assalaam Alaykum

I started a job in Islamic school and was put on trail to see whether I was suited to it. Alhamdulillah they agreed I was. However the head wanted me to work 5 days but I cannot as I am at uni on Friday (doing my degree). He asked me to drop my degree so I could work there full time. I explained I couldn't. He then had a word with the teacher and said it may not be possible for her to have the job.

So I thought Alhamdulillah it doesn't matter. So I didn't turn up the next day (as I needed to look for another job as it is linked with my degree) yet the teacher said the head is upset you didn't come in, he can't beleive you did that... I was shocked as I didnt do anything worng. I misunderstood the situation and assumed he was going to tell me to leave.

I rung and texted the head apologizing, yet he hasn't got back to me. Th teacher really needs me there but I dont want to go till it is cleared with the head. What should I do? Leave it how it is or ring again?

I have rung him again but he didn't answer..

So I don't know what to think?? I don't care if I have the job or not, but I just don't want to leave it in a bad way...

EDIT @ ibrahim: Brother during the interivew I explained my degree to him and what I was able to commit which was only 4 days, he had no objection at that point. I explained to the teacher I would not be coming, If I just dissapeared then that would have been wrong. From their converstaion It seemed that I would be asked to leave, that was my misunderstanding, however at the end of the day I did go to look for him but he wasn't tehre and also he assured me he would give me a final answer on tuesday but he didn't. So I belived he had another assisstant. To be honest I have given so much of my time up and not done my degree related work, as I was reassured I would have the job!

Please note I was not giving the job as yet but was assured I would be given it, I signed no contract or any thing.

Answer 1

Salam

An experience of education it seems. Al hamdoullah its not always us, and those who are guided have guidance and so it could have been a blessing and a mercy to you that what you thought was good for you was really bad for you and vise versa.

Because Allah SWT has assued us of those of the book and protected by the book, we have examples where manytime we had to approach things from different ways, and usually it was and still is not us that make the problems, but we are working hard to find solutions everyday for our direcrtion.

Overqualification also could be a problem and or financial indifferances or you can go back to its who you know, not what you know. :)

Answer 2

As salaamu 'alaikym, my young friend.

Insha'Allah, you made several mistakes regardless of the reason for the same.
First, you obviously did not explain you university classs schedule and your personal goals as reagrds your degree work, etc. during the interiview and hiring process.
Second, you did not ask about the requirements of the position during the same interview and hiring process such as what is the work schedule, etc.
Third, you were not told that your had been terminated, only that such was a possibility if the scheduling conflicts could not be address and resolved so as to be of mutual satisfaction to all parties involved. However, you acted as though you had been terminiated.
Fourth, you did not return to work the next day and did not show the common courtesy of calling in to explain why you were not coming in. Basically, you just "disappeared"!
Fifth, assuming that you did not do anything "wrong" because you "misunderstood" is unproffessional and immature. You did make several mistsakes.

Insha'Allah, there might be little if anything that you can do so as to resolve this situation that you created however, there are several things you might try.
First, arrange a meeting with the head of the school so as to apologize for the misunderstanding, as well as taking responsibility for the same (even if you do not believe it was your fault).
Second, besides apologizing during the meeting, you should also write a formal letter of apology that can be (and probably will be ) put into you file. Such will show a level of professionalism and maturity that will help in the future as you seek other positions.
Third, as you have not been officaly terminated, go back to work, unless you have given them both written and verbal notice of your intention to resign as well as a two week notice.

Defintely, you should ring the dean again, or his or her secretary, so as to schedule an appointement.

Ma'a salaam.

Answer 3

Salaam alaykum, Firstly Masha Allah on getting the job...Insahalla it will all work at. It appears a slight misunderstanding. Either way if you must make a sacrifice and then things will work itself out and you are able to do both...1.explain the reason for your confusion 2. apologize and express your wholehearted interest in working at the school and pursuing your studies. Then whatever decision they make follow all of the advice of the posters especially about burning bridges...maintain a good relationship with them...so later after you obtain your degree you will have a valuable resource later on your CV/Resume. It seems like a perfect situation if you can get a firm agreement between with them that would be ideal...Mubarak!
Wasalaam

Answer 4

If they want you, they will try to resolve this. I think you were clear from the beginning that you were only able to commit 4 days, if they do not like it, they can decline giving you the job, but one thing I advise you is not to sacrifice your degree at any cost.
You will regret that later.

1) not having a degree is an excuse for an organisation not to pay you well now and in your future.

2) You do not know that your job with the organisation is permanent. You might like to change your employment and you look more attractive to a potential employer if you have a degree.

Answer 5

I think you need to be brave and go straight there. See the Head and explain that you misunderstood. Tell him that you are sorry that you got your wires crossed but presumed that you were not needed.
You need to also let him know that you are doing your degree and that you cannot work this day.
If you dont go the head will just think that you are unsuitable and you will have lost the job.
As far as the head is concerned he sounds like he could be stubborn and does not feel the need to contact you, he is waiting to see what you do. I would not leave this too long or it will be too late.
Good luck...

Answer 6

Salaamz sis,
If you have tried contacting him by phone and text, I think you should make an appointment to go and see him in person. Then just explain that you misunderstood the situation. InshaAllah he will understand. You still have a good chance, especially if they need you there. Don't miss the chance!
Good luck sister, may Allah help you.
PS - I work in an Islamic school, I absolutely LOVE it there! SubhanAllah, praise be to Allah, I am blessed to hear adhan there every day. Best job I've ever had.

Answer 7

Be there for her and attempt and get her to communicate to her mothers and fathers... by using her chatting with them provides her extra recommendations on wether or no longer she desires to maintain it or perhaps adoption she has extra recommendations now than she will later. Her mothers and fathers will locate out ultimately only be certain it incredibly is to no longer late. And be a good chum and attempt and help/handbook her to make the recommendations she needs and not what all people "needs" her to do by way of fact she am has to handle it later on in life no remember what she decides... and prefer the girl earlier suggested her mothers and fathers will boost to the assumption and confident there's a wager they're going to unfastened it however the won't harm her or the baby. So inspire her to make her judgements which will income her interior the top.

Answer 8

Irregardless of your reasons for not showing up to work, you should have done one of two things. First would be express yourself straight fowardly, tell them you in no way will give up your education because this is what is important to you and that if they could not handle it let you know and be firm about it. Secondly, You should have shown up for work and then told them you quit. By not showing up you have made yourself look bad. Don't burn your bridges because you never know when you will need to cross them.. In the future just be professional.

Answer 9

the head wanted you to give up your degree? what kind of head is he?

your only mistake was to assume something, which you should never do unless u have explicit facts.

you need to explain that no mater what, your education comes first so there will be no compromise in that department. what the school decides to do with that information is really upto them. they cant really tell you to quit your education, i think that is very irresponsible of them to do so

Answer 10

Dont ever be afraid, speak up for yourself. Go back and solve the problem. Dont shy away. Your education is top priority always, all else is secondary.Dont ever drop your degree you will regret it in the long run. Education is very very important.