why does my friend want to kill herself?

Answer 1

You may want to ask her if you are looking for the most accurate answer.

Answer 2

Ask her, and print/refer her to the following: "I expect that you are feeling deeply depressed at the moment: I know I was when I went through a similar situation, so I have some idea of what you are going through, but surely you can remember times when life was good. It can be again, and soon too, but you will have to accept that you need help to deal with this, because you don't seem to have been coping well, lately. See suicidal thoughts, and depression, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 5, and 2. All you have to do is reach out for the help that is being offered. What if you change your mind partway through? What if you are found and have to live in a brain damaged, semi-vegetative existance, as some do? Surely there are people who care about whether you live, or die: how do you think they would feel? Suicide often devastates the lives of other people, who were so self absorbed in what was going on in their lives at the time, that they didn't realise you needed help, but wish they had been there to offer it, if only they had known. Do you want to put them through that?" Advise her to seek help, ASAP!!!

Answer 3

There's a number of possible explanantions and we'd only really be guessing.

However - the people who have suicidal thoughts tend to fall broadly into one of two categories:

(1) Those for whom life stressors and recent events are too overwhelming for their coping mechanisms and therefore they contemplate killing themselves as the best way out.

(2) Those who inexplicably, possibly through alterations in brain function, thought or biochemistry, have these thoughts.

In either case, the treatment really involves a lot of "talk therapy" (psychotherapy), support and then depending on what else they need
+/- antidepressant medication
+/- ECT

Beyond that, your role as a friend would predominantly be to talk with her and support her as much as you would feel comfortable to. Encourage her to talk to others - adults she can trust, counsellor(s), doctor(s), psychiatrist/psychologist.

In a crisis situation, try to talk with her and if need be, call an ambulance.

Answer 4

Like one person said there can be numerous reasons why but that's a lot of stress to put on yourself how to help or stop it.

So many people look at suicide as a sin and it's bad and selfish but those people need to realize how badly that person must feel to do something so extreme.

I would call a self help hotline and talk to them, they might be able to give you tips on how to approach him/her without upsetting them. Maybe even going to his/her parents so they can get the help they need.

Answer 5

Be a true friend, spend time with her talking to her and educating her that its not worth it killing yourslef.You have been created for a purpose in life, dont let disappointment turn you to suicide. Its not worth it, notbody is worth, its your life, love and respect yourslef and care about yourself always. No one is worth it. Be strong minded please. Help your friend see the light.Dont be discouraged. Fight it.

Answer 6

you schould ask her