I am very shy person and don't have friends.
2007-11-07 18:39:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all depends how old you are.
If you are young, and in school still, then I would suggest one option and one option only: Grow some balls and start chatting it up more in class. Show people your personality and spark up conversation with different people.
If you are in college or university, you can start a study group.
To make friends in any situation requires you to gain some confidence in yoruself, and to let go of your fear of approaching people.
JUST REMEMBER:
The people that you're too shy to approach are humans just like you. They don't have anything more special about them overall. We are all humans. You should never be nervous abotu another human being. Those who are have a hard time in life. You have to change your mentality, and gain more confidence in yourself before makign friends.
Often times, when a person is confident, they attract people. In this case, you may not even have to initiate friendships, people may possibly with you.
CONFIDENCE IS KEY IN LIFE
2007-11-07 18:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Advice Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're still very young, you will most likely grow out of it (I'm not just saying that; I used to be shy in elementary school). I know how it feels, and the best thing to do is to inch progressively each day "outside your comfort zone." I read about this in a book along time ago, forgot the name of it. Basically, the author stated that a shy person should do small things each day, like ask a stranger on the street (or in the hallway if you're a student) what time it is (5-10 second conversation). The next day, ask a different question or offer a compliment, but make the conversation last alittle longer (like 2 minutes). On the third day, try to initiate another conversation, but make it last even longer. Keep at it. Make it a habit and eventually you'll be used to speaking to others. You don't need to be a social butterfly; just open up sometimes. Regarding friendship, be the type of friend you'd want to have yourself--unselfish, thoughful, a good listener, etc. If someone doesn't open up to you, don't force it, just move on. Also (this might be a bit easier), smile to someone (when he or she sits across from you, for instance). If they smile back, they're nice and approachable at least. If not, then you might have a tougher time with that person. Good luck.
2007-11-08 02:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say the first step is to gain some confidence. You can do that by taking up a hobby or start looking for things you are good at. To make friends you must be a friend, learn to take an interest in other people. Ask them about themselves.
2007-11-08 02:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Amzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find out what you do, and enjoy. Then go and be around people with the similar interests. If you like skating hang out at the local skating park, if you like video games, go to ebgames or whatever the names is now. Just immerse yourself in the environment in which u like, and then u will have friends who like the same thing you do.
2007-11-08 02:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by steven c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online is a good place to meet people in ur area....but dont get to comfortable with it cause u might turn into a couch potato....meet people online get to know them and then go out have a good time with them. IF your shy person. thats a good way of establishing communication....but like i said dont become to comfortable with it.....cause u will become a freak....
2007-11-08 02:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bugz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a go at online chat sites. There are chat sites online that dont involve "adult Friends".(even though they are hard to find...LOL) there are sites like yahoo , who have heaps of various chat rooms. Bigpond also has chat rooms for just friends.
Or if you are a little younger try www.bebo.com
The best thing about bebo is its connected with School databases and you can find people you went to school with and start chatting with them again. Also Myspace is good for that too!
2007-11-08 02:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by sgreenslade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to get out there! Join a club, church, group find something you enjoy that will connect you to other people, and remember no one will like you until you like yourself.
2007-11-08 02:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by dforestman_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should get ur self out der... just start talkin 2 sum peoplez u dnt even got 2 kno dem.. just let ur mind flow.. let people kno bout urself.. uhm.. get involved in sports and n social events..
2007-11-08 02:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
join a group or something ull meet lots of nice people there
2007-11-08 02:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to get what you want from people, you first need to give it away.... as the great Dr. Phil says...
2007-11-08 02:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by DebS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋