Will I lose him forever?

Question

2-year relationship (completely devoted, shared friends, all free time). He call/emails everyday ending note saying that he loves me. Family likes me, and his sister invited me to her wedding.

So… He dumped me suddenly without giving me a reason. He also said I’m his best friend, he’s attracted to me, thinks I am a very good person and hates to see terrible things happen to me. He said he was unsure and needed time. Later at a party he said that he did not love me in a callous, drunken way. He apologized the next day (saying could not remember), but w/o taking it back. 2 weeks passed, I’ve e taken my things from his place (he was not there) and tried to get on with my life.

I feel he still loves me and just got cold feet (his buddy said he’s miserable and uncertain). He’s not good at expressing himself. I’m afraid if I contact him he will push me away and that he will only realize his mistake if I move on. Yet, I am also afraid that if I don’t I will lose the chance! help

Answer 1

Obviously this relationship is something you've invested tons of time and feelings in, that you care about and not something you want to throw away easily. Sorry about the douchebags with the 1 liners. They are friendless, desperate virgins who hope by telling every girl to leave every guy, they'll somehow increase the odds of them actually touching one besides their moms someday. This is a complicated scenario. Cold feet happens.. how old are you two? As vicious as it sounds, as you get deeper into adulthood and the idea of the sort of life you'll settle into becomes more clear, it can cause a sort of depression when you realize how far away it is from the life you had envisioned as a kid. He might not know how good he has it. If it's been 2 years, he knows it's not something he should throw away quickly but the feelings of regret are there for his life in general and they are clouding his view of everything else, even the good stuff. Do you still want to be with him? Take a week or two off, and then tell him about this. Good luck.

Answer 2

Honey sometimes all people need is space to decide what they want...give he about a month or two and if he doesn't know wat he wants after that then move on with oyur life cause its not worth pining over one person trust me been there done that...not a happy ending. Now with the whole thing @the party they say, "sober minds speak sound thoughts" whenever people are drunk or angry the truth about how they feel about people always seem to some out and they say they don't mean it but and sometimes they don't, don't get me wrong but he say he doesn't remember...so give him the benefit of the doubt. Now with his friend saying he's uncertain sometimes the bestfriend either knows cause that who he tells it all to...so give him a couple days and then if you haven't gotten an answer move on and when you do and your single make him work to get you back and regain your love.

Answer 3

hmmm...sounds very familiar. the same thing sort of happened to me not so long ago. he is probably interested in some other girl who is pursuing him which makes it a big problem for you. you would do best to let this guy go. why stay with a jerk who has doubts or is insecure about being in love or in a committed relationship? i dont choose to be with a doubting, insecure man so, as i look back on it now, that was the best thing my ex could've ever done. i wouldn't be with my current b/f now if the old one hadn't have wimped out on me like he did. i believe in love and falling in love but i believe in looking out after myself also and being with an emotionally strong, confident, positive self-assured, man who believes in openly communicating in a relationship. ask yourself? do you want to be with a man who claims to love you but takes off, away from you, at the drop of a hat because he's not good at communicating his feelings to you? pa-lease...not me. good luck to you in any case.

Answer 4

if you love something set it free if it comes back to u its yours to keep if it doesnt it wasnt meant to be. He needs time. Move on ! there might be someone else and his friend is just trying to console you, but b4 you get real serious with someone else give it at least 6 months so you are over this guy and just in case he does come back you wont be overly attached to someone else, but if you do meet someone else and fall in love chances are mr walk away was not THE ONE to begin with. yes you will hurt for a while over this guy, but it will pass

Answer 5

IS THERE SOME TREND SELF ABUSE THROUGH TERRIBLE RELATIONSHIPS GOING ON!?!?!?!
read your question as if some one else posted it and figure it out.
The man is an insecure, never-going-to-committ loser.

Why are you afraid he will realise his mistake if you move on? If you move on you will find some thing better and he will look that the jackazz he is.

Move on.

Answer 6

Leave him sweetheart!!! Still many boys in the world with a certain way of life, where to go and who will be the companion!!!

Answer 7

Sounds like he's been looking around and wants something different. You need to come to grips that he may not want to reconcile.

Answer 8

No one changes his or her feeling from one day to the other, something must has happened, definitely you have to talk to him, demand an explanation, he owes you that.

Answer 9

his buddy is probably right. if you can wait it out without holding it against him, you probably should do that.

Answer 10

if you really want him, contact him, you will never know until you talk to him.