i like this guy who seems to have an interest in me also. he's sporty and all and great looking and rich and kind. hes just waaay too good for me. People tell me im very pretty and sexy, but i just do NOT even remotely think so. AT ALL. When i look in the mirror i cant help but think people are somewhat blind.
I feel like i am insulting this person (or anyone for that matter) by liking them. What should i do
2007-11-07 16:55:58 · 36 answers · asked by newsatin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-11-07 17:09:09 · update #1
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2007-11-07 17:09:49 · update #2
see a psychotherapist to find out why you have such low self-esteem.
You won't find anyone to love you if you don't love yourself.
Sure you might find people to love you physically, but you deserve much more.
2007-11-07 16:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is...
1) Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Yes the words are harsh but I know that you know you are feeling sorry for yourself. It's not getting you any where, so quit it.
2)If every is saying these things than maybe they are on to something. Why do you differ? are you comparing yourself with some one else? who cares about them, the last time I've heard you were leading your life and no one Else's.
3)Look deeper into people and yourself. Why did you describe this guy as 'rich, sporty, and great looking' and only kind. I'm pretty sure there is more to him than that. And yourself as well.
4)Read your passage out loud. Do you know how much you are belittling yourself? starving yourself from what you deserve?
You should try the opposite of what you are doing; love yourself. If you try this at least twice you will see a huge difference. Try adding some spark to your clothing, a cute hairstyle and even a smile when you go down the road. People will notice and will even compliment you on it. Hiding your face and your emotions like you are right now aren't getting you far so try to see what it would be like if you dared to dream.
and your not insulting the person. You deserve to like him whether or not he likes you back.
2007-11-07 17:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by aleasha_Sam01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are very visual, but many guys are also turned on by a confident girl and one who is pleased with her own looks. If he has any kind of interest in you, even friendship, then at least you have some chance. Keep in mind, he may have a girlfriend or he might prefer to date around, or who knows?
My suggestion: treat him like a casual buddy, tell him about all the other activities you have going on or about how guys have been hitting on you, etc. Guys love the chase; also, it's an easier way of figuring out if he likes you or not without risking rejection. But--make sure he doesn't have a girlfriend already (you wouldn't want someone to steal your boyfriend from you either).
2007-11-07 17:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget that when you look into the mirror you are seeing yourself the exact opposite of what you really look like. So, you must be pretty if you think you aren't. Now, smile at yourself and remember to respect yourself. Guy (and everyone for that matter) like a upbeat confident person. Complainers (pesimistic people) and people with low self esteem don't end up having very good lives....so, if you want to have a good life you better start improving your self-esteem and confidence. Look at the world more optimistically.
2007-11-07 17:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Gottaloveher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take a chance if he likes you, it's for a reason and if they tell you that your beautiful, it's because you are, he likes you , so the only way you can hurt him or insult him is if you don't take a chance on him. This is coming from a guy when i got with my girlfriend i kind of had that feeling because she's so beautiful, but i took the chance and it's a really good feeling when you have someone so attractive and so many other people don't have someone like that so take a chance, and if you do i would say good luck bu tit seems that you don't need it.
2007-11-07 17:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Stormrider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not trying 2 be mean or anything but u should get plastic surgery if u feel that bad about ur self
if not then Just forget how u look like and accept who u r and go ahead and ask him out cuz no should ever be too good for u u r the one that should be too good for them
i hope i didn't confuse u
and i really hope u make the right choice
I also hope i helped
2007-11-07 17:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont think of it as im not good enough. Think - Im going to earn being by his side by treating him perfect.
Just return the love he gives and your a perfect match for him.
Money, and looks are just part of the total package. Dont put yourself down. If hes wants to be with you then he has already determined you are worth his time.
just chill, even if you have a past your not proud of... it has nothing to do with him. you have a chance to earn your worth in this relationship by doing the right things in the relationship.
Everyone deserves happiness.
I always seem to date outside what i would consider my level of attractiveness. im short at 5'6" and im balding...but i have other things to offer like romance and stability...
You are putting yourself down for no reason. If you ever treat him badly, then you can go ahead and put yourself down.
until then, offer him your best traits and enjoy it!
2007-11-07 17:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by David Parker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if everyone in the world says the man on the corner says drugs well then he must especially if everyone says that you should always believe the majority of people and you should never feel ashamed everyone is beautiful and if the guy likes you well that means that he finds you attracted also so i think you should make the first move
2007-11-07 17:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Eza redadeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a loser. Every person has his/her own unique characteristic that makes him/her handsome or beautiful. Once you feel that you are beautiful, you will feel good and everything around you looks & feels good.
Positive thinking can lead to good thoughts and good thoughts can yield positive reluts.
On the contrary, negative thoughts will never do you any good.
2007-11-07 17:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Leonie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself and get some confidence! Love yourself more and you'll actually be able to enjoy life rather than hate yourself for liking someone who may be a good guy.
2007-11-07 16:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by מימי 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE CONFIDENT!!! Look in the mirror and tell yourself you're hot. If other people think so, it must be the truth. If you keep hearing yourself say it for long enough, you'll believe it too.
2007-11-07 16:59:22 · answer #11 · answered by Kat* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋