ever so sad:(?

Question

My bf constantly has been making me upset lately, so i texted him and told him i cant take how he treats me anyore and he didnt reply so i said well if thats how u feel about us is nothing, than dont ever talk to me again, i feel like im the only one trying anymore, and then he talked to me today and i asked him what he thought about the texts, and he said i dont remember reading them, i was drunk, i'm like well didn ur ead them today/ he's like no.....what is up with him? he seems so oblivious and tries to avoid everything it makes me so depressed help??

im 20 and he is 26 b y the way

Answer 1

Um... girl, he is controlling you! If I'm mistaken, you can let me know, but I'll bet he is taking you on an emotional rollercoaster by denying your concerns, but making his own concerns a big deal, then you go running to him like a little lost puppy dog because you want the relationship to work out. He doesn't seem as interested in things working out. I've been in your shoes... one day he would say he didn't know what he would do if things didn't work out, then another day, he would ignore me. Mixed messages!!! And that is emotional manipulation.

Answer 2

u need to move on hun. apparently he wants nothing to do with the relationship anymore, move on and find your self a man that deserves u. a man that will treat u great, the way u should b treated. get rid of the zero and find your self a hero.
don't sit and be upset and cry over a guy that could give 2 sh*ts about u. he isn't worth it. so cheer up go out and have fun.

i hope this helps u out.

Answer 3

You need to have the discussion with him face to face.. text is a terrible way to communicate. Chances are you'll be moving on shortly and he's not ready for mature commitment. I'm sorry that you are so sad but he isn't worthy if he doesn't care enough to at least commit to a conversation about where the two of you are headed.
:)

Answer 4

That's so sad! He's not respecting you because he can't respect himself. There's obviously some issue he has but lacks the courage to speak out why he's unsatisfied with the relationship.
He needs to grow up if possible. I'd move on (and I'm a guy).

Good luck! Smile, for life is ahead of you waiting to be explored!

Answer 5

If he chooses being drunk than talking with you or spending time with you he's not much of a boyfriend. Can you imagine life with him if you were married. See that's what having a boyfriend is you're seeking a mate . If he can't cut it as a boyfriend let him go, give him to mate up with a girl that would rather be drunk than talking and spending time with him. They'll desire each other. lol

Answer 6

Sadly it sounds like things are getting stale between you guys. Hope you can salvage it but it sounds like it will take alot of work. Your frustration is totally understandable, nothing worse then a partner that just doesn't seem to care.

Answer 7

Give him the flick ... I mean really ... someone who won't even read text messages from you ????

What's the matter with people today ... getting upset over an unread text ... doesn't anyone TALK to anyone anymore???
Communication ... it 's how we survive ... less texting and email and more heart-to-heart actual conversation for goodness sake

Answer 8

Re-appraise your intelligence and confidence by dumping this negatory loser. Then sit back and relax. The right boy will find YOU and treat you properly from square one!!! Good luck.

Answer 9

let me guess...does he show up at your place late at night and never seems to have time or money or an interest in taking you out, meeting your friends, meeting your family?

hmmm...what if you just decided to walk away? could you do that?

Answer 10

im sorry.. confront him IN PERSON and demand that he expresses his feelings. give him an ultimatum..it's either you or his alcoholism. he must be going through some stuff as well and offer him your support ( and he should do the same). let me know how it goes