I cheated.....should I tell the truth?

Question

Recently I cheated on my boyfriend with a jerk who really doesnt care about me, I really regret what I did but you know spur of the moment and stuff happened, truth is I told my bf that I went out with the guy (lied at first, told him I was going out with a girlfriend) but I didnt tell him that we had sex...now that he forgave me for lying to him and we have moved on I dont knwo if I should tell him what actually happened......what should I do, tell him and risk it or move on and pretend it never happened?

Yes we used protection and I am not interested in him anymore

Dennis H...we are all human and we make mistakes, are u trying to make me feel worse that I already feel

Answer 1

sweetie..... u need to tell ya man now before...... yes there is a chance that it will never come out in the light....... but then there's a bigger chance that it will come out later on..... and him finding out later on is gonna be worst than it will be now.... yes he is gonna have to learn to trust u again and yall might have to take a break....and things might be odd for a lil bit.... but its better for it to happen now then later....

Answer 2

You have done the wrong thing all a round,going out with this
jerk,telling the b/f THAT you only went out with him,and not the
g/f first off,then having sex the b/f is going to find out sooner or later,and dont forget
a r/ship is built around truth, honestly and trust,how would you
react if it happened to you but only found out later on down the
track my god GIRL you should be absolutely ashamed of your
self,dont pretend it didnt happen because IT DID.

Answer 3

You really can't pretend.. why? because you know the truth. Before you talk to your boyfriend.. go over in your mind why you cheated on him in the first place.. the problem may not be that you cheated... but more of rather why you cheated.. the truth will come out sooner or later. It may be best to be honest now and figure out exactly where your realtionship stands..

Answer 4

Thats a tough one. I guess you found out that grass isn't always greener on the other side huh? I myself would have to be honest. However, I could never do that to my husband. But since he is just a boyfriend, I think honesty is the best policy. Whether or not he will forgive you is another story. But he atleast deserves to know that he was decieved, and then go from there. Lesson learned I hope? Good luck.

Answer 5

i think that you should tell him, for 2 reasons

reason #1
if ur man cheated on you, wouldnt u want to know? i mean u lied to him and he forgave you and now he thinks that you are totally honest with him, now put urself in his place, how would you feel? each day that u arent tellin him is yet another lie, its not fair for u to mess up and not tell him he has a right to know!
reason #2
if you dont tell him and end up spending ur life with this person the guilt is gonna eat u up inside and ur always going to be afraid of him finding up, waht goes around comes around i mean karma is a BI*CH, the guilt is gonna get to u, fess up! he needs to know!
Good luck with whatever u decide to do!

Answer 6

It's obvious that it's eating you alive. This is hard, because you will probably reall crush him if he knows. Did you use protection with this other guy? If not, I would get tested for STD's, you could pass something on. Do you vow never to see this guy again? Is he the type to talk and tell people and it could get back to your BF? these are all the questions I would consider.

Answer 7

It will eventually come out. It always does. You can lie for years, but it will eventually come out. Would you rather suffer the consequences of losing your boyfriend's trust 5, 10, 15 years from now? Or lose it now and possibly have the opportunity to build it back?

Your choice. It'll hurt for him either way. And it will haunt you until you confess.

It's a shame. Really. It is.

Answer 8

NO NO NO NO NO NO tihs sneppah U have 2 B practical, talking about past sex partners (if u can remember them all) is not good 4 a relationship. Just drive it out of ur mind and get on with ur life.
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Just concentrate on giving ur b/f the best sex in the universe, and if u really still feel guilty bring another female to bed a few times.
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Answer 9

if you could live with the lie and really can stand on your conscience then so be it just deny, deny and i doubt if the guy who you think is a jerk will say something about what really happen and if anyone will believe him. the important thing is if you really can live up to your conscience on what you did then so be it. everyone has a little secret or secrets that they keep on their closets that only them knows. so just move on and make sure to learn from this incident and not commit them again.

Answer 10

are you crazy?
Please keep this to yourself.
If the jerk tells your boyfriend, tell your boyfriend that the jerk is lying.
Deny, deny, deny
(unless of course you are pregnant!)
If you feel the need to cheat on your boyfriend again, do both of yourselves a favor and just break up with him.
He deserves to be treated better.
Since for some strange reason he trusts you, don't do anything that will make him feel differently. If you tell him that you cheated, everytime you leave the house he will wonder where you are and who you are with and if you are telling him the truth THIS TIME! Neither one of you need this....
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