My boyfriend and I were arguing after a night of drinking. It got heated and when I went to leave I kicked the corner of the sliding glass door in anger. I was not indending to break it or cause damage, but I did. It is costing me 500 it replace it. I have paid all but 50. I am a single mother and am struggling right now. I feel that he was at least 10 percent of the problem during the arugement and 50 dollars is not much to ask him to pay. I do have a career but it is slow right now. I am trying to juggle a career, school, and daycare and every other expense. Am I asking too much? I know it sounds pathic but it was really hard to come up with 450 and really don't have the other money.
2007-11-07 14:54:31 · 15 answers · asked by sharnajax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I completely agree with everyone saying that alchol should not have been an issue. My son was with his father for the weekend and I went out. It DEFFINATLY is not something I do on a regular basis. It should not have happened and I wish it hadn't. I was so fustrated and I kicked it in the corner on the metal part I didn't expect it to crack, but I should not have done. I have broken up with him. I have to many important and wonderful things in my life to have this kind of drama. Thank you for all your imput. I will probaby pay the 50 and be done with it, but he with have to wait till pay all the other bills then I will give it to him. I can't go broke becuse of this. I feel I made a huge mistake but it was just a mistake and I am doing my best to make it better.
2007-11-07 15:16:45 · update #1
you shouldn't have paid a penny honey! couples fight and me and my ex fought brutally! don't listen to people preach about your drinking...they're not in your shoes. tell your boyfriend to be a man and pay for all of it.....i think he should be more of a man. dump him...maybe he's not man enough to handle you...women are compley!!
2007-11-07 22:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You owe your boyfriend the 50. You broke the glass door. If you are struggling to make it, stop kicking doors. This wasn't accidental. You were drunk and angry and took out your anger on the door. Your boyfriend might have been involved in the argument, but he had the sense not to break anything. Now own up to your mistakes and pay the man.
2007-11-07 23:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, 10%? Try 50%!
You were both as responsible as each other, you were both arguing, sure you were the one who kicked the door so maybe that makes you a TINY bit more responsible than him.. but seriously, he should have to pay more than the $50... especially since you are a struggling single parent.
Don't feel guilty about 50 dollars, honestly, it's not like it's a lot of money for him to come up with, you've paid more than your fair share of it...
2007-11-07 23:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what he may have said to you to make you mad, you still had no right to kick his door and he shouldnt have to pay a dime.If he had busted your windshield instead of you breaking his door,would you have volunteered to pay for it at all?
I dont think so.If your a single mom, why are you getting drunk and damaging people's property?
Your supposed to be setting an example for your kid's arent you?
If he takes you to court the courts will rule in his favor and they will not even look at your reasoning twice, it'll just make them mad and they may fine you extra.Pay the last 50$ and quit drinking and find a guy you get along with.
2007-11-07 23:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry kid. You aren't going to wriggle out of this one that easily. Really, what does all that "Oh poor me" stuff about being a single mom, juggling a carreer, and daycare have to do with accepting responsibility for your actions?
It was YOU who elected to take a kick at a glass door. It was YOU who got herself drunk and angry enough to damage a door. If you can't afford the consequences of your actions when you drink, then don't drink!
2007-11-07 23:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are struggling to make ends meet as a single mom and your boyfriend is going to squeeze you for the last $50, he is not the man for you.
Ditch him and keep your $50.
And, oh yeah, no disagreement is ever solved when you have been drinking. Better to agree to take it up in the morning rather than let it get heated and have doors breaking.
2007-11-07 23:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by xxxxxxxxx 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think your bofriend should understand what you did was accidental and therfore grateful that you even paid the $450 so no i dont think your asking for too much. If he truly loves you, he wouldnt mind you not paying the rest of the $50 tho he shouldnt hve made you pay the whole of it in the 1st place.
2007-11-07 23:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by trendy_gal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have paid him anything..
but let me ask you something............
single mother, so many expenses, too much duties... but how come you are always online?
reduce the use of internet... most of your problems will get solved.... LOL.
Coming to the question... it has to be 50% .... its all the mutual understanding that takes your life ahead....
2007-11-08 02:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Vinu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you'll do the right thing and it will make you think before you let your emotions control your actions next time.
2007-11-08 10:49:43 · answer #9 · answered by slim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke it in anger you pay for it.
thiink of it as a $500 lesson well learned.
i'll bet you will NEVER do that again.
2007-11-07 23:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋