Put in special ed!?

Question

Ok, so I have put my 7 year old daughter in public school and we aggree that sh must try it for the rest of the year and if she doesn't like it she can go back to homeschool. But they have put my daughter in special ed just because she's in diapers(she has a kidney problem and cannot control her bowel movements). My daughter is saying they're like tossing her balls, talking to her like she's 1, her school work is to easy, and they're not giving her books at her level. She say's the only person that's treating her normal is the school nurse(to get her changed) and that really makes me nervous.
What should I do?

Answer 1

She shouldnt be in special ed for a medical condtion that does not interfer with the leraning ability. Furthermore, even if she is in diapers, she is old enough to know how to change and clean herself. Why even mention to the school she is in diapers? Who made this decision? I would try discussing this with the school board. Have IQ tests and what not to prove there is not a learning disability, simply a medical condition that may mean she needs to be excused to the bathroom more often. If they dont comply to your needs, find another school or district that will.

Answer 2

That is ridiculous. I can't even imagine why they would come to the conclusion that your daughter should be in special ed because she has a medical condition. I agree that the diaper thing could cause a little disturbance in a regular classroom, kids laughing at her, teasing her, etc. I think she should be put in a regular classroom and that the kids should be told that she has to wear diapers and why. I know it kind of sucks to have to divulge that kind of information to a bunch of kids, but if they know that she has a medical condition and can't control the circumstances, they'll be less likely to give her a hard time (as long as this is really explained by their teacher and he/she says in no uncertain terms that they children are to treat her no differently than anyone else). But prepare her to hear the kind of comments that will no doubt be coming out of these kids' mouths.

Special ed teachers are trained how to handle and teach children with learning problems, whether it's because of retardation, autism, or some other kind of mental development syndrome. They are not trained to teach children whose learning abilities are perfectly fine.

I'm almost outraged at this. My mom is a teacher and I have a cousin with a form of autism, so I know how special ed works. Your daughter should NOT be there. If I were you, I would have a conversation with the principal (possibly include the special ed teacher) and tell her you believe your daughter should be in a regular classroom because she does not have any mental disabilities. She really doesn't have any physical disabilities either, at least in the eyes of the school (or so I think it should be). She just has to leave now and then to get a diaper changed. It's just like when a kid has to leave throughout the day because they're diabetic and need to check their blood sugar and get insulin. But you don't see diabetic children in special ed. This is just ridiculous.

Good luck. If they don't budge on the issue, try a different school in your district (if you can do that where you live), and if that doesn't work, try private school if your daughter wants to. And if THAT doesn't work, go back to homeschooling. I wish you all luck.

Answer 3

Hey. I've personally been to a public, private and homeschool and have my nephews and neice homeschooled.

You have already been making a negative impact on your young daughter by sending her to a public school, look at what you're telling us. " they're like tossing her balls, talking to her like she's 1, her school work is to easy and they're not giving her books at the right levels" This is teaching her that's because she has a special need, she's not smart or good enough to be like the other kids. When the truth is ...she's VERY SMART and JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE.

I personally, would homeschool her because the education is better. She'll be getting alot more one on one attention. I would not full comfortable with a nurse changing my seven year old. I would want my daughter to realize she can fly and soar through the sky no matter what special needs she has. I would want her to realize that a diaper or not, she's the best and should not be looked down on because of it. I would want to nurture and feed her sense of curiousity and desire to learn before it dies out.

If you put her into the public school for the social, you can enroll her into different activivies or attend homeschooling groups in the area. There are plenty of other options, plus look at the statisics, homeschooled children score higher on tests. And it's not because the parents help them...it's because they have higher standards for them.

Answer 4

Fight ! Fight! Fight! That is just simply wrong . If she is in special needs program I would call for an I.E.P. meeting asap and I would go above the lead teachers head if you feel she is not meeting your childs needs. If you know that she should be in a regular classroom because she meets the levels of other kids her age or even a resource class where she is in a smaller group but if you do not feel they are being just then be her voice and as far as special needs you can have her put into a different school that may have better judgement than this one seems to. You have alot of rights leaning your way so look into them and use them. God Bless.

Answer 5

I would be talking to the counselors and principals. If they can not get the school nurse to pull her out of a regular class to help her then it is time to look for another school. She is not a special ed child but a special needs child there is a difference. In my state (IL) there is a law that states the school is to provide an aid for a certain amount of time for special needs children so that they can be treated as normal as possible. Did they do any testing on her to make sure she is in the appropriate class. If not contact your local state board office and ask them how to handle this with out an attorney. I would be up there fighting for her rights. You may find a lawyer that can advise you of them with out a fee.

Answer 6

Kidney AND bowel problems? She's better off in Special Ed. The other kids would crucify her.

The teachers will soon gauge her learning level and adjust accordingly. They're just used to a different level of care, and once they've established your daughter's strengths, they will build on them. They might just be taking it slow to get her comfortable with her environment, not wanting to add stress to a big emotional adjustment.

Talk to the teacher about your concerns. Communication is paramount, second only to--you got it--cooperation.

Answer 7

If there's nothing wrong with her mentally, then she should be back in home school. I don't think special ed is the place for her b/c of kidney & bowel problems. Good luck!! =)

Answer 8

Did you do the whole IEP meeting thing? A round-table discussion from all the school professionals and you who decide what is her best, least-restrictive environment? If you did and she is still too restricted, be a squeaky wheel.