So my ex was supposed to visit me this weekend in an attempt to be friends I guess? Not sure anymore. (We've been broken up for a month). We were/are long distance and I asked him if he was planning on visiting me at some point. I told him this weekend is the only time I have free, which is the truth. He said he'd like to visit. He said he'd be willing to come down this weekend, but late, although he can't make any promises. He asked me how that sounds. Although I'm the one who broke up with him, it was pretty mutual. It's not that I didn't like him anymore (I do), he was just bad at the long distance and I frankly couldn't take it anymore.
Does he still have feelings for me? What does he want and/or expect by coming all the way here?
2007-11-07 14:44:46 · 16 answers · asked by laconversacion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him that I didn't want him to visit if he felt pressured into doing so. He told me he wanted to know if it was going to be wierd. I told him I didn't think so on my part, he said it was the same with him, and that I hadn't pressured him into visiting.
But I think I'm ready to be friends now. I think I've realized that it is truly over, talking to him about this. I'll see how it goes I guess.
2007-11-07 17:58:31 · update #1
Well it sounds like he likes the freedom of being in a different city, but wants to keep you strung along enough to not lose interest, that way he's got you when he wants you, and the rest of time is free to do and see whomever.
Are either of you planning to move to the other's city anytime in the near future?
If yes, how soon?
If you answered yes, and within a few months, you may be able to salvage the relationship, provided that's really what he wants.
If you have no plans to move to his city or he to yours, then why are you wasting your time?
2007-11-07 14:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by whiskeyman510 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to come during the weekend "late"? sounds to me like a booty call if he means 12 am, 1 am "late". even if he doesnt hes still not worth the hassle. if he sucks at long distance relationship, chances are he sucks at short distance relationships too and at "friendships". There's always going to be a weirdness in the atmosphere when two exes try to be just "friends" no matter how much you try to act "normal" around each other (its amazing how the crickets seem to grow louder when 2 exes are alone in a house). dont waste your time and try to be friends. move on. im sure there are plenty of other men in your area to drool over. =P
2007-11-08 18:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is feeling the same way you are id say, still likes you but cant deal with the long distance anymore,
whats the point in going out of your way to stay friends, if your long distance relationship wouldnt work then a friendship would not be any differant, you would both move on with your lives eventually any way so save yourself the heart/head ache and move on now.
2007-11-07 15:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy wants sex or something close to it......
He does have feelings for you, but he wants sex. Trust me on this.
Why would this guy take time out on the WEEKEND to spend time with you when he can use that time to hang with friends or look for other chicks or whatever he does??? Answer those questions and then you will REALLY see what he wants.
2007-11-07 14:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your ex. wants to try again, thats what it sounds like to me. yes long distance relationships don't always work, but if you both put in some effort it could, but it all depends how you both feel about each other. i bet he still likes you and still has feeling for you.. let us know what happens
2007-11-07 14:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by hppy2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he still love you and want to get back with the girl that broke his heart (you) just because he loves you and have feeling for you. If he ever ask you out you better say yes.
2007-11-07 14:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by Izzy wizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, I am a guy too. IMy ex broke up w/ me last month. I still like her a lot. But, he probably knows u just wanna be friends, but you shouldn't lead him on. Make your intentions clear.
2007-11-07 14:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by Aaron D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one of two things. Either he's pretending to not be upset abou the break up and he's playing it cool and acting like he doesn't miss you. Why did he come out anyway? Or he's playing you. Be careful.
2007-11-07 14:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ONLY one who can tell you what he wants or expects from you is HIM. If you still have feelings for him, tell him that, and the reasons YOU feel you broke up. Then ASK HIM how he feels and what he wants from you.
2007-11-07 14:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he must have some feelings for u because he wouldnt drive all that way to just be friends with you he probably loves you and is hoping that u feel the same way
2007-11-07 14:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by *TiFfAnY*<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋