My brother is overweight--more like, obese. I'm very worried about him, and I don't really know what to do. I tried talking to my dad about it, and said, "Can we PLEASE do something about it?" And he's like, "There's nothing we can do." And I said, "What do you mean?" And he's like, "Didn't you hear me the first time, I said there's nothing we can do. Now go away."
I've approached him multiple times with this issue and his response was the same each time.
Does this mean that he doesn't care about his children?
2007-11-07 14:39:48 · 7 answers · asked by head in the clouds 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've talked to my brother MANY times about the issue. He doesn't seem to care. And he's 13...He's definitely old enough to take care of himself.
2007-11-07 14:53:30 · update #1
No it does not mean he doesn't care about his children. How old is your brother? Is he old enough to just go into the fridge and get what he wants? does he live at home still? Sometimes, all it takes is to just keep healthier foods in the house instead of junk, and limit portion sizes. And you being the big sister, can help. if your brother is younger, tell your parents that you'll fix his plate for him, or go shopping with your parents and opt for yummy but healthy foods for the entire family. If you all start eating better it will set a good example for your brother and he won't feel singled out.
2007-11-07 14:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 1st I thought you were talking about an overweight adult.
If that were true then I would have to agree with your father, when he says that there is nothing anyone can do if your brother isn't ready to lose the weight on his own.
But if your brother is only 13 and is seriously obese, then the responsibility for your brothers health and well being ultimately falls on his parents. (not his sister)
I am sure your dad really does care about his son. But what is going on in your family is probably far more complicated than just a simple determination of who cares about who.
At 13 your brother probably looks to his dad as his best model for himself. If he's overweight, then I wouldn't be the least bit suprised to learn that your dad is overweight, and probably your mom too.
If that is true then looking to your dad for the answers to this problem is possibly the very worst thing to do about it, since your dad likely doesn't have the skills necessary to take care of it. That's why he tells you there's nothing that can be done, because he doesn't have a clue about what to do. So he tries to put it out of his mind. You coming around and nagging him about it only serves to irritate him, so I suggest you look for another approach to this issue.
Perhaps if you tried to lead by your own example you might get better results. If you feel you could benefit by losing a few pounds yourself, then start educating yourself on the right foods to eat, and watch the amount of your intake. Find new ways to exercise as well, and when your family sees how you are looking after your health and the good results you are getting perhaps the rest of them will want to join in on your programme.
2007-11-07 15:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's that he doesn't care about his children, I think maybe he understands that there is a problem and he's upset about it and rather not discuss it. Sometimes when people are upset or feel like that can not do something about a certain something they get sensitive about the topic and try to push people away or change the subject.
2007-11-07 14:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is too lazy to get involved especially if it is going to take him setting an example.He probably cares but has left the responsibility of your brother's weight all on your brother.
2007-11-07 14:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't know how to direct the situation.
or possibly he feels to upset to even talk about it, i mean parents at times when their worried about kids can try to push away the problem rather than resolve it because they dont even want to believe there's a problem.
2007-11-07 14:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by ☮ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad knows his boundries and its upto your brother to get the help he needs if and when he wants it...............you need to tell your brother your self that you are worried about him and that you dont want to loose him to a heart attack cause he isnt taking care of himself........and leave it at that
2007-11-07 14:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe but he might also be stressed out idk maybe he has a lot on his mind
2007-11-10 12:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋