when i share my social life with my single mom such as shopping with girlfriends or hanging out with a group of people she starts comparing our lives and acts almost jealous as opposed to when i don't share she acts like "good your life is as boring as mine"...I want to share because it is my life and in a way i feel like i am lying when i act like i have been doing nothing all night or weekend and it's something positive i want to share...but i don't like the almost 'jealous competitiveness' i sense from her when i do share...she does a lot for me in my life and i want to remain close because i feel the need to give back, but this aspect is frustrating when i am trying to just enjoy my twenties and sense my stories almost bring her down.
2007-11-07 14:34:24 · 3 answers · asked by bbt375 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is your Mom and I know you feel obligated to her but you are a child under her (20 yrs. old) and you both should have separate lives whereby you do your thing and she does hers. Then you both share through talk. The best thing you can do for Mom is find her a few friends she can hang with without you and your friends. But do talk to her before you just spring the newness on her, so no resentment.
2007-11-07 16:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Da B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share. It's what kids and parents do. Sure your mom will get jealous, any human being would..it's natural. Your mom just shows it a bit more then most.
So she has a boring life....that is her fault. Nothing is stopping her from going out and getting friends.
You might want to spend some time with your mom...do some fun girly stuff together. Then her life will not be so boring. Even better is to take her somewhere where she can meet people and hook up with them. Maybe even your girlfriends moms...
2007-11-09 22:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to get too emotional about it. Ask her if your sharing annoys her. If she goes on with the same behavior, then she's being selfish about this topic and you have to be selfish too, no matter how harsh that sounds. Be polite but share less. If she doesn't want you to share, then don't. If she wanted you to share she would express more positive feelings when you did. Or instead of sharing what you did with your friends, try spending time with her, going out.
Coping with family is not always easy..
2007-11-09 23:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋