mom's not supporting me?

Question

All I wanted was some support for what I was doing with my life. I’m not a drug dealer or a career criminal or anything like that. My own mother doesn’t support my decision to become a police officer before I graduate college. All I want is a good job that I love and can support me and my 2 kids. She keeps telling me that I will fail and never go back to school, that I will never let her live her own life as she wants to. She tells me that she is stuck using her entire retirement fund to help me out and that she is giving her life up for me. I am doing my best. I am a single mother with 2 kids and this sh#t is hard. She tells me all the time that she had to do it. I just want to scream in her face that at least she had a great man (my father) to help her out and parents that didn’t throw mistakes in their faces every chance they got. I can’t help but sit here and cry for the one thing I ever wanted and will never get. The love and support from my own mother.

To add to this i do not wan Monetary support. i was support in the way that she believes that i can do this. i do not want to "bleed her dry" i just want encouragement. if some of you had actually read this then you would have understood that. now i feel like jumping off of a bridge.

Answer 1

it's expected sometimes for a mother not to support her children. sometimes it's to try and guide them where they want you to go, and others is because some are just inconsiderate and if you want to call it, selfish. no one is perfect, but if being a police officer is what you want to achieve, then you need to make yourself happy because no one can get you where you want to go besides you, and your mother cannot always be with you every step of the way. if your mother is not supportive, of course it is hard and it's an emotional problem which is hard to cope with. independence is the key...once you learn to be independent, and not reply on your mother for support, things usually will get better and help you emotionally to accept it.

Answer 2

I know your mad hon but try to see things from your mom's eyes just for a moment k?
All she has to go by from you is what you have done up to the present.If you get like a dispatcher job thats one thing, but taking on a career that puts your children's ONLY parent at risk as in a cop walking a beat or highway patrolman is NOT a good idea.
If you can finish college do it!If you can become an attorney or even a paralegal you can help more, and if you could become a law maker then that'd help a lot!We NEED people who will do a good job in the court systems and do something about the sorry laws and sentencings we have for repeat criminals.
Theres MANY thing you can do, and if you didnt have any kids, I would say ignore your mom and jump on it because I believe you can do ANYTHING you set your mind to, but your putting your kid's future at risk by taking a dangerous career, unless you work as a dispatcher or something, you could maybe be a probation officer, and you could help a lot of kids.

Answer 3

It sounds like your mother is scared. Being a police officer is very dangerous so she maybe doesn't want to see you get hurt or even get killed. In addition, maybe she wants to see you go to school because she didn't do it herself. Therefore, with this decision she will never support you. It is difficult being a single mom, but you can do it. I am a single mother and have less than 5 months in school to graduate with a BA. So do what makes you happy, but also think of your kids at the same time. Hope this helps (o;

Answer 4

I guess your mom is afraid of you failing again, you are a single mother of two, you failed and she doesn't trust you. Your mother is using her entire retirement fund to help you already, isn't that enough, do you still wan to squeeze the life out of you mother? I you were my daughter, you'll be out on your own buddy.
You don't have the right to be angry at her, much less demand more from her.

Answer 5

This sounds like something my mom would do, deflect, it is maybe not that she actually thinks all of these things, She is just trying to find ways to get you out of the job because she is scared for you, Your job is hard and could be dangerous. I am not saying that you should not keep a job you love, because that is what we are all looking for, but maybe there is something else your mom is worried about, loosing you to your job... I could be wrong but something to think about

Answer 6

perhaps you should get help and support from the father or fathers of your kids. your mom sounds like she is at her breaking point.
you say that you have two kids and "this sh#t is hard"
sorry, they are your kids, and your right, this is your life you are the one to make it work. your mistakes your problems to solve.
you are an adult, grow up and start acting like one. stop crying about "my mommie doesn't love or support me" it makes you sound like a dependent crybaby not a functioning adult.
sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear.

Answer 7

my mum was very tough on me never helped me what so ever with anything so there for i didnt expect it................ you may have to try and support your self with out her help ............ there for if you dont expect her help your feelings wont get hurt............... i wish you luck with your future career prospects ............