i am bipolar and married a wonderful husband for 8 yrs and i wanted to know more or less how it feels to be on the other end. please don't say ask my husband bcuz he always tell me "you're diffucult but I love you" which i think he just says that to keep the peace.
2007-11-07 13:55:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm not married to someone with bipolar, but my wife has been very ill for over 15 years - Endometriosis, Adenomyosis, PCOS and at times depression, both post-natal and the ordinary kind. I think some of what I've experienced might be similar to what your husband has been through.
For me, its been quite tough. Its hard to get on with life when someone in the family is too ill to do things or is depressed and doesn't have the motivation to get going.
Its an unwelcome stress in the relationship when "physical closeness" is not a regular part of life. This aspect makes me feel pretty bad inside, kind of unlovable, and that can poison the relationship when its not kept in check.
It can be a financial strain too. My wife's not really well enough to work regularly and obviously living on one income is harder than living on two.
On the other hand, a marriage isn't supposed to be a 60 year long honeymoon. When I said "for richer, for poorer" and "in sickness and in health" I meant it. For me there's a great deal of reward in keeping my commitments; this one more than most.
On the plus side, we have a happy marriage and that's something that lots of people with "normal" marriages never experience.
I hope you and your husband make it.
Life throws difficulties at all of us. Someone has poor health. Someone else has an arsonist, car-jacking drug dealer for a teenage son. Some third person is married to jerk who comes home drunk and beats them.
Its not easy to be the person who's always on the receiving end, but its just as hard to be the person who's got the problem. We try to tackle life as a team, not two individuals who are expected to contribute the same thing.
I'll stop rambling now. I hope some of this has been helpful.
2007-11-07 15:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not married to a person with bipolar disorder but I work in the mental health field with people with mental illnesses every day. I just wanted to tell you that your husband chose you and knew what he was getting into. I'm sure you had this illness when you met and he still picked you to marry. Try to remember that. It's enough that you have to deal with the mood swings and it's very thoughtful of you to think of how he's dealing with it too but as long as you are taking the best care of yourself by taking your medications regularly and seeking help when needed that's all that you can do. You didn't choose to be bipolar but he chose to be with you. Don't forget that.
2016-04-03 01:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After the second affair, after the 500th screaming match, after the 6 month long face in the pillow event, after the 5th trip to the emergency room and being told there was nothing they could do for her, after the 1000th time she asked for a divorce, I gave her one.
In my case it was abuse. Lithium finally evened her out, but by that time I had moved on. My ex was a severe depressive and had long episodes. The manic parts by contrast were the good times.
She was never satisfied with what she had and was always looking for something better.
Try as hard as you can to convince yourself you have a great guy for a husband. Whenever you can, make it a good time for him and try to trust that he is telling you the truth. If he's still with you, he is telling the truth. I didn't give up until that last request for a divorce.
2007-11-07 14:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not married to a person who is bipolar, but my best friend is bipolar, so there's some similarities. I think it pretty much just sucks to watch the person with their low lows, because it feels like there's nothing you can do to help, no matter how hard you try. So it's sad and frustrating.
2007-11-07 14:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am glad I saw this question because recently I was told I may just be Bipolar because my symptoms and the meds for depression did nothing. I am newly married only 3 months and we have big fights because I get extremely lows and get angry fast. He tells me the same thing "your difficult but I love you". Hell I will take that atleast he doesn't hate me for my issues.
2007-11-07 15:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Cjsmom04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋