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Its been 6 months since we broke up and we started talking again for about a month. So I decided to ask her to get back with me. She sounded doubtful but she said ok...I assured her that I was gonna be a great boyfriend not to worry.. we talked on the phone she said she'll call me back that night but never did. I called her the next day and she didnt answer at first, so I decided to call her again later, then she answered and we talked, but she sounded all full of attitude, I asked if she was busy, she said no. Then after 3 minutes of good conversation she says lemme call you back. Then she never did! I asked her later if she even takes me serious, and she said yes, dont' worry I love you more than anything...But her actions don't show it! I love her so much, We were together for 3 years before the breakup..She said theres no other guy, and she even wants to marry me later in life! So why is she acting like this? We've only been together for 3 days, I want us to work, what should I do?

2007-11-07 13:47:54 · 16 answers · asked by clay 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

16 answers

She may still be holding a grudge about your past relationship. It could also be that the new relationship is a lot to deal with in a small amount of time. Remember that Rome wasn't built in a day, so don't expect a quick fix. If it's going to work out, things may not be peachy right away.

2007-11-07 13:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by . . . . . . . 2 · 0 0

wow, she could be playing you dude, either shes almost falling for someone else or she just likes being a puppet master. and you went about it all wrong, but its not too late, but keep on and it will be. i cant talk much so i'll be brief.
from the breakup to getting back you shouldve done a few things, its still not to late cuz your just back with her for 3 days. Do this and it will work , promise, i dont know how your grooming or esteem issues are but
rules:
1) gel your hair, groom yourself. you must reinvent yourself.
2) put on a different cologne
3) make pretend your busy even if your not.
Women want something they cant have, if she knows she has you , whats the point of a challenge. be somewhat bi-polar. my point: Ignore her. Treat her beautiful , kiss her on the neck , grab her hard, she wants a man , not someone she can feel sorry for. Talk with a strong possitive attitude. Take her on a date and emphasise these points. have that nice night , then DONT CALL HER . wait 2, 3 days ..she'll say to herself "whats happening" and she'll call you. If not then call her out on a date again, somewhere fun and different. remember your trying to show that your a new diffeent and better person. change is good. if she sais she'll call you and doesnt , dont call her back cuz she knows she has you, instead switch things up. if she calls you , then say ..even if your home . "sweetie, im in the gym , let me call you back" ...dont ask "can i call you back ? " NO ..be commanding, , and call her but not so soon , not when the "workout" finishes, call maybe 3 hours later, have her wanting more. Give her samples...bread crumbs as you lead her back to you. have so many other points but gotta go. ,
remember , dont sound depressed or sad or needy....womena hate that . do that and your doomed to fail. Be confident.

2007-11-07 14:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by JayP 2 · 0 0

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 15 years we have split up once for a month that was due to me being such an a__. I had to have her in my life she is the mother of my children and I love her. I had to prove to her that I was the man of her dreams I worked hard and paid the way and showered her with love all day long everyday, I showed her that I was a good man that wanted someone good in my life and it has been good since then although we have had our ups and downs we still stick together. Before you can truly love someone you have to love yourself, and the rest will fall in place. But don't get me wrong if you let the past get in the was then the end is eventually going to come for the both of you. It has to be a fifty fifty relationship and if it's not then it's not worth the time. So let her know how you feel and tell her you love her and say your sorry for all the thing in the past, if she excepts then the new beginning is just around the corner for the both of you only if you both agree the relationship is going to be fifty fifty will this work for you.
I hope this is helpfull.

2007-11-07 14:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You have not been together for 3 days; you have been chasing her for 3 days. What is going on now depends on why the original breakup. Since you were promising to be a great boyfriend, the breakup must have been your fault?

You made your effort; stop chasing. Don't call every night. .
Apologize, send flowers or something she likes, then back away for about 3 days before you call again. If she does return calls or respond, go on with your life as if nothing happens and give her some time to be on her own. If she don't come back, it will hurt, but it wasn't meant to be.

2007-11-07 13:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Carole Q 6 · 0 0

She is stringing you along with some agenda to pay you back for something from the past that she must still be holding a grudge about. Unless you can find out what's got her dancing you on a string, you are walking in a field of dynamite. She's not being straight with you. I hope she stops the playing and takes you seriously. If not, you need to take a close look at why you want to resume a relationship with someone who has no respect for you by her actions. Actions speak louder than words. Good luck.

2007-11-07 13:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 0 0

This girl sounds like she either doesn't know what she wants or knows what she wants and is unsure of how to get it. It must be so frustrating that her words and actions do not match up! Someone who "loves you more than anything" and "wants to marry you later in life" should not be playing mind games and basically refusing to talk to you. Give her an ultimatum--that you care about her more than anything in this world and you want to make this work, but she has to be in it with you. It can't be just you alone trying to make this work. She has to give some effort too and be honest. If she doesn't really want to be in this relationship with you, encourage her to say so. Better that you risk heartbreak and ask her to be honest with you now than wait who knows how many months for her to tell her it was all a lie.

Hope this helps! :)

2007-11-07 13:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if u love her i think that u should not give up ,she said she loves u, and hopes that u 2 could get married later in life,right now she is testing and waiting 2 c if u mess up again.if u love her dont mess up work at being a good boyfriend dont just say it show it, take her out try 2 spend more time with her ,try cooking a meal 2gether, if u love her and she loves u ,it will work .try not to worry so much it will prolong the making up, go back into ur reltionship with confidence.good luck.

2007-11-07 14:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by kim27 2 · 0 1

I think that you two need to have a serious talk. There mgiht be something going on with her that you don't know about (and this may or maynot involve another person). You are getting mixed signals so it would be good for you to tell her what you just stating in your question. Being open and honest doesn't hurt.

2007-11-07 13:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by ameri0903 3 · 0 0

I go thru this all the time with my husband. You lose that trust and it takes forever to get it back. You just have to prove yourself and watch your step. Every little tiny lie or slip up will only make things worse. She wants you to prove that you want to be with her, not the other way around.

2007-11-07 13:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by amber 3 · 0 0

She might have someone else, she maybe has not started anything with this guy (meaning she is not or might not be cheating on you) but she is in the dilemma for sure.... let her go my friend, she does not love you as much as you love her or at least she has not realize of it

2007-11-07 13:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by GaLa 2 · 0 0

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