Soulmates? Do they really exist?

Question

Do u think that there is a such thing as your soulmate? That 1 person who will complete u & make u completely happy? I have always had my "fairytale" dream. After my husband left me, all my dreams basically went down the drain. Now I don't know what I believe in anymore. Relationships to me r a waste of time...Marriage is not what it used to be. Everyones so quick to get divorced instead of working things out together...And soulmates...I dont know if they even exist. U think someone is "The One" for so long, only to end up heartbroken & bruised in the end. Now u r hurt for 2 reasons - 1 because the relationship ended & 2 because so did your dream of a soulmate. If soulmates exist then why do people concentrate on the material things - like the kind of car someone has, or how much money they have, the house they have. Shouldn't we be with someone because of their heart? I personally make pretty good money & live a decent lifestyle & I dont date someone for what they have or dont have.

Answer 1

do soul mates exist? yes they do. in fact most any guy that you are attracted to can in fact be a soul mate or life partner. you do have to work at it though, both of you. remember that monogamy is still fairly new to humans. as late as the 19th century, there were many cultures who accepted, and even encouraged, multiple wives/mistresses. in japan for instance, a man could marry one woman at a time. he could however have as many concubines and mistresses as his wife allowed. even today many arab and african cultures allow men to marry more than one woman.

something else to understand is that life expectancy, again as recently as the late 19th century, was only age 40. it has only been recently that life expectancy has gone up.

if two people do not open their hearts to each other fully, then there is no way they will be together for long.

Answer 2

Unfortunately we live in a age where many look for what they can get from someone (materially) than what they can find in their hearts. This is the age of materialism. It doesn't mean soulmates do not exist. I personally believe that sometimes you choose to marry someone because of the initialy infatuation, you don't make enough time to really get to know this person or their heart then as the years go by you start to really see them for what they really are, then you get hurt. I was also left after 25 years. I married my husband at the age of 18. I realized that he wasn't my soulmate a few years ago, but stuck by him because it's what I was supposed to do. Well, time took care of that and removed him from my life. I'll always remain his friend but that's where it will stay.

My soulmate is still out there. I believe I may have found him, but I will not jump the gun until I am sure of it. You see, if it's meant to be it will, no matter what we do.

Continue being the person you are and don't change anything you are not comfortable changing about yourself. Godspeed~

Answer 3

Hon, the man I thought was my soulmate left me after 24 years of marriage.

But I was WRONG about him, because not long after that, I met my REAL soulmate. He is everything the ex was not, and everything I needed in my life.

If we had crossed paths any earlier than we did, we would not have been ready for each other.
Hang in there, and never give up. Yours is out there too---but the timing might be wrong.

Answer 4

The only soul mate that I know of who is continuously and constantly fitting my needs is spiritual and I call him Jesus. It/He has saved me many an hour of anguish, knowing that I have a soul mate in the spiritual realm, and the relationships that i have here, (a husband of 38 long years, who has a mild, mental disability and who is mine and I am his.) are vivid and exciting. However, without my husband's and my spiritual connection (we are both radical Christians) we would be divorced LONG ago. But my life is "hid with Christ", and I can endure with grace all that happens, the good and g\the bad.

Concentrate on the spiritual. It will serve you better.

Answer 5

No, I don't believe in the idea of a "soul mate". I have certainly never met mine.