Ok mark and i have been living together for 3yrs(both in our 30s) heres what he does when we fight
1.Has told me in my face to shut up
2. Throws/slams things around
3.Threatens to leave me all the time
4.Drops the "f" bomb(only with me)
5.Drives dangerously when we are fighting
6.Its ALLWAYS me not him at fault
7. Never says i'm sorry
8. Will give me the silent treatment to punish me
Now he would never do any of this stuff in front of his family/friends it only when we are alone. I never yell or sware at him but if i just bring up something that is bothering me he will start in with this crap. Its to the point where i'm walking on eggshells all the time as i never know how he will react to a issue i bring up.
2007-11-07 12:59:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
emotional abuse. i think you need to move on if you can no longer handle it or before it really gets out of hand because things could get worse or tell him the truth about how u really feel about it all.
2007-11-07 13:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by MistyBlu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's more going on here. Mark has a lot of resentment built up over issues that have never been truly resolved. He may also be somewhat manipulative. If he sees that his behavior has you walking on eggshells, that would be a good way to avoid talking about things he doesn't want to talk about. It's rare that relationship problems are as one-sided as you present here. If you think about things honestly I suspect you'll come up with some things that you do that annoy him.
Open and honest communication is the key to any successful relationship. Men and women speak different languages. The book that helped me tremendously in understanding how to communicate with a man is "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" by John Grey. It opened up a whole new world. I was able to see myself in many of the examples I was also able to see the male I was trying to communicate with. I highly recommend it.
In the meantime, try to pick a time when things are calm and the two of you are getting along. Ask him if he would mind talking about something that's been bothering you. Tell him you're concerned about the way the two of you communicate and ask him if there is anything you could do differently to help him. By taking this approach, you aren't "attacking" or "laying blame", you're trying to problem solve and you're showing a willingness to share the responsibility for effective communication. If the two of you can find some common ground to start building toward, you have a better chance of resloving things. Don't see him as the bad guy. See you both as needing to learn better communication skills.
2007-11-07 21:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes, how have you ever put up with his spoiled child irrational behavior. Thank goodness, you are not married to him. If you think he is worthy of another chance, you might tell him that one more incident and you are out of there. Just to let him know you are serious, you might start organizing stuff and boxing some of it up. Oh yes, you might also pack a little overnight bag so he will know that you are prepared to go.
2007-11-07 22:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely emotional abuse and you are entering dangerous territory. If you are changing your behaviors to try and appease him, you are giving in and allowing him to have more control over you. You need to end this relationship. It is unhealthy for you emotionally and you are putting yourself in great danger to become a victim of domestic violence.
2007-11-07 22:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been throught this and thats how it started then it got alot worse to the point of physical abuse. Get out while you can
2007-11-11 20:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never deal with any kind of abuse whether its emotional or physical. Leave his *** girl you can do better. Anyway tell him how you feel and tell him he doesn't stop the emotional abuse your gonna leave.
2007-11-07 21:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by friskpurple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friggin move on. He's nuts an totally abusing you. You need to leave him before it gets worse.
2007-11-07 22:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely emotional abuse and I suggest you move on.
2007-11-07 21:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Don't know everything ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, emotional abuse...wake up and move on, sis!
2007-11-11 20:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is not a keeper. Move out and get on with your life.
2007-11-07 22:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋