My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago (we went out for a year). At first he said we should just go on a break but now its more like a break up. He said he needed some space and he didnt want to have a girl friend right now. He also said that his feelings for me arnt as strong as they used to be. (this is because at the end of our relationship we fought a lot and disagreed about many situations) I still love him and i have this feeling that we will be back together in the future. We are still wicked close and talk on the phone once in a while and we always see eachother on the weekends. He says things that makes me think he still likes me but he is a really big flirt so i dont know what to think of it. Should i loose hope on us getting back together or should i try and get over him?
2007-11-07 12:40:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the last line you wrote was
"Should i loose hope on us getting back together or should i try and get over him?"
so either way you want to get over him?
well I suggest you hang out with friends more often and do something that interests you...
2007-11-07 12:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants to get back together. If he says no, then that is when you should give up on getting back together.
It hurts, but you will heal... I think of Rascal Flatt's song A Broken Road (that led me straight to you)... which recounts how many broken hearts he had that were "like Northern Stars pointing straight to you." Some day you will remember this guy fondly as you snuggle up with "the one".
So, my advice is "try and get over him." As you get older you will realize that the first instinct is usually the best... and if his is to end the relationship now, then it is best. He could string you along for years, but if that thought is a even a possibility (breaking up) then you are with the wrong person. You will know when you are with Mr. Right when the thought is absolutely unthinkable to either of you. When you have found the person that can't stand to be away from you for a day, much less need time apart to think. There is no thinking in love... it will consume you.
As a general rule: I need time apart to think translates as I care about your feelings & don't want to crush you, but you and I are not going to work as a couple. Respect those feelings & his inability to just hit the road with no consideration for the friendship the two of you have built.
2007-11-07 12:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lexas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the future holds for the two of you, but I think it would be best if you try to move on. There's a possibility you may get back together, but what if you don't? You can't just wait on him to decide if he wants you back or not. I held out hope that me and an ex of mine would get back together for several months, and all it did was make me feel miserable, and we didn't get back together. So I understand that it's hard to let go, but by just hanging around waiting on him to decide, you're just showing him that he has control over you, as if you're there in case he wants you later. Try dating some other people... it will either give him a kick in the head that you aren't waiting, or help you to start moving on. Good luck! :)
2007-11-07 12:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on, if you guys have this much trouble at your age and at such an early stage in your relationship, it will be exponentially harder if you get serious or married.
you should cut all ties with him and start meeting many different people. you'll start to realize that there are so many great people out there and will wonder why you wasted so much time with this one guy.
plus being the flirt that he is, he is probably doing another girl and only coming back around when he's bored or is not having much luck. if a guy really has genuine feelings for you he doesn't need time away or extra space. those are just excuses to play the field.
I know, because all of us men do that.
2007-11-07 12:47:07 · answer #4 · answered by Thunder W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just cuz you broke up doesn't mean you should never get back together, and you don't always break up for a reason, sometimes its something stupid. I have had many boyfriends that we have broke up and got back together, and sometimes it was actually better. Just give it time, if you are comfortable hanging out at just friends, then do that, if not then don't. he may just need time, who knows hes a guy. I would go out with friends, and make sure you do your own thing, you can stay friends, and hang out, but make sure you are doing ok and happy.
2007-11-07 12:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by jellybean91404 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like you and I are going through the same thing, but luckily I've been down this road before and from what I've learned, don't take him seriously. If he truly wanted to be with you, he would and only God could stop him. When a man truly wants something he goes all out to get it. If the two of you are meant to be together in the future it will happen on its own, you don't have to waste your time waiting on him. I love my ex too, but I love me more and if your love isn't willing to give you what you need and desire of him, then find someone who can.
2007-11-07 12:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by Survivor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its best to let go of the past. He wanted out, don't give him any more excuses to get back in with you. Tell him as much. Its ok to miss him, but you have both got to accept the fact, that your relationship is finished. Don't look for any reason to think otherwise.
Perhaps one day, when the wind blows a different way, you could resume your relationship. In the meantime, do not think, even for 1 minute that it is anything but history.
Move on.
2007-11-07 12:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by John L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should concentrate on moving on and getting over him. Yea its going to be hard for awhile, but its for the best. You shouldnt want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you. He broke up with you - if he cared about you then he would have tried working things out, not just giving up. Now he can tell any girl whatever he wants or do whatever he wants with anyone and then still give you mixed signals. You deserve better than that. Hang out with your friends or try to meet someone new to occupy your mind and your time. It will be worth it in the end...Good luck :)
2007-11-07 12:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by тяιηα 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on with your life it seems like your ex wants to stay just that your ex he probably wants to be on the prowl and date other girls so you do the same date other people stop making yourself so available to him in order for you to get over him you have to give yourself sometime away from him and after that maybe then you can be friends
2007-11-07 12:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy and move on with your life. Years from now you'll probably look back, laugh and wonder what you saw in him. Just one of life's many experiences we go through and learn from. Good Luck!
2007-11-07 12:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋