Why are doctor's so mean like when it comes to telling things to the family about a loved one?

Question

I mean i asked my mom's doctor woul dshe be okay and how the surgery went. (She had a blood clot removed from her brain and she is now out of the icu)

But when i had asked him the day after she came out of surgery how she was and would be and he said she is doing great, that every bit of the blood clot was removed but then in the next breath he said "She could die tonight or tomorrow night"

Why are doctors so uncaring and he knew that i was her daughter.?

I am lost please pray for my family.
Thanks

Answer 1

some doctors just don't care about the patient and only care about the paycheck they get every week as sad as that sounds.
The other thing is it isn't their family so they cannot feel compassion as readily as we do, because they have patient after patient come in and out all the time and i'm assuming after a while it can take its toll on your emotions if you get emotionally involved with every patient.
The doctor should never have said that to you, he should have just gone with his gut instincts as a doctor and told you what he honestly thought instead of getting you so upset.
I hope your mother has a safe recovery.

Answer 2

I really wish I could give you a hug and tell you you are not alone .I wished I could think of something to comfort you at this difficult time.If someone has not been in this situation with a parent they cannot imagine how it sets your whole world upside down.On a positive note your mom is out of the I.C.U. She may still face some medical challenges but only time will tell.Sometimes recovery is painfully slow. I found sometimes I just had to cry my heart out just to face the next day.Your faith and the support of your family will give you the strength to be their for your mother.I don't know if your mom is alert and talking but if she isn't continue to talk to her and hold her hand.I've been told that the patient can still hear you.I will keep you and your family in my prayers .Take time to take care of yourself as well.

Answer 3

Unfortunately,there has been a major crackdown in the health system regarding what information about patients can be released.Also,doctor's are afraid to be too optimistic about outcomes of surgeries such as that for fear of malpractice suits.If the doctor would have said that everything was going to be ok,and something happened,it would leave him wide open.Also,as someone who worked in a hospital for a long period of time,you tend to get synnical.After a while,it's hard to tell when someone is legitimately sick,or when they are just whining for attention.Unless the person actually shows physical signs of illness,it is hard to tell without running tests.Unfortunately,the hospitals tend to discourage that as there are so many drug seekers who come in wanting medication,but refuse to pay their medical bills.

Answer 4

Well, your right. He shouldn't have said that after he said that she was fine. He should have said this: "I'm sorry, but your mother may die soon." Then you would ask how soon and he would tell you. I hate when doctors are like that!

My mom is currently pregnat and she almost lost the baby. To confort her, the doc said "Oh don't worry, the baby will be fine" But then like a second later he said "But you could lose the baby if you contunuie your lifestyle." I was sooo mad. We switched doctors and I am not going to him again for my baby!

Answer 5

Remember, "You are responsible for your ignorance and nobody elses." Some people are just cruel and heartless people, we will encounter these type of people everywhere we go. That is why we must be responsible for what we do when we enconter these people.

I must say not all doctors are the way that your mother's doctor is. I remember when my aunt was in the hospital they hospital staff, doctors, and more made sure we were informed and was a active part in her care.

A family that prays together stays together. I will pray for your family.