and my fiance didnt want to get married until 2010 but i got him to agree to 2009 but oct. and i am fine with oct i am just not wanting to wait two whole years. am I crazy? should I just agree to 2009 and be happy about it.
2007-11-07 11:56:02 · 27 answers · asked by *Diamond J* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he wants to save money but only $5000. we could save that much in 6 months he just doesnt want to... but we love eachother we have been together for two and a half yrs.
2007-11-07 13:28:09 · update #1
if your happy about it-that would be fine
i mean why does he want to get married in two years-pretty long-
but i think it'll be cool, i mean you'll have more time to get ready and stuff!
HOPE I HELPED!
2007-11-07 11:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some people just prefer longer engagements. I think it's unfortunate that woman are led to believe that if their fiances want long engagements it means they aren't really committed or they're having second thoughts.
My boyfriend doesn't believe in engagements longer than a year, but we're waiting until autumn of 2009 too....I just want to take my time with planning and enjoy the excitement of being engaged. No need to rush. Also, who knows? By waiting and spending time comparison shopping you might find that you can stretch that $5,000 budget further -- or be able to set aside more and not have to worry about the finances as much.
2007-11-07 22:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Waiting and saving up is a good thing. Why does everyone have to get married right away?
I've been engaged since Aug 2006 and our wedding date is June 2008.
IT gives plenty of time to get all the details taken care of without totally going nuts with all the planning you have to do in a short time.
2007-11-08 06:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a set amount of time that people are supposed to be engaged. I've been engaged 2 years (getting married Nov. 17) and I can tell you that it's been the fastest 2 years of my life! There is SO much to plan that if you don't have a lot of time, you will not get everything done. Have you told him that you want to get married sooner? If so, why? You have your whole lives to be together. Take your time and enjoy your planning. This is the only time you get to plan a party this big in your life girl!
2007-11-07 12:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by firebetty74 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your recent engagement. Here is a thought to ponder......
When i was in my twenties i got engaged to a man whom i had been dating three years. After he proposed he then informed me he wanted to wait another three years for the big day.Needless to say he cheated on me and I found out later on he had only proposed to me because all my friends were getting engaged and he was afraid I'd leave him. Now I'm in my thirties and have found my true love and have recently gotten married....whom i would've waited years for if money was the objective. If he is the love you can't live without the wait may not seem as long. Hope i helped. Good luck on the wedding planning!
2007-11-07 14:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Jo Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known each other? I wouldn't be able to suggest anything until I knew that, plus the reasons for becoming engaged in the first place. If you are waiting so you can finish college, pay off your bills, put money aside for a home...those are all really good reasons. If you aren't ready to commit, you shouldn't be engaged. You might still need time and freedom to date around and be sure.
2007-11-07 12:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance proposed in March 07 and we decided on May of 09 as a date. Mostly my decision. Mostly due to saving money though. He has a very very very large family and we will need to save a significant amount of money for it since we are paying ourselves. I think that if your relationship is stable and you have already been together that long, then what's the rush, is is for kids? If not just relax, you have the whole rest of your life to be married
2007-11-07 14:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by sden2616 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter if the knot is tied or not in a couple years or less? Are you living your lives with each other? Sharing each others feelings? What would change if you married that much sooner? Just ask him why he wants to wait. Maybe he wants to make sure he will have the cash to give you the wedding he feels you deserve. Just a little extra in case of mis-haps.
2007-11-07 14:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might make him feel like you are trying to push him. You should ask him why he wants to wait so long. When you get engaged, that is a promise to wed. 3 years seems like a long time to me. Is there something holding you guys back from getting married? If its a money thing, there are many ways to save thousands, and have a beautiful wedding.
2007-11-08 05:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scoob-E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When i popped the question, I said "Will you marry me in 5 years" he said yes. I didn't really want to get married straight away, purely because i wanted to start a family, etc. Not because I didn't love him.
He decided he wanted to get married the next year and I said it had to be early then so I could start having children.
I don't think it really matters how long you wait. Hes comprimised slightly, try not to push it. Tell him you'd prefer to be married earlier, like 2008 but if he really wants to wait that long you'll respect his feelings and wait.
2007-11-08 09:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Why does he want to wait so long? Are you both in school and he wants to finish school before getting married? Unless there is some really good reason, I totally AGREE with you. I would not want to be engaged for 2 more years! What's wrong with October 2008???
Good luck!
2007-11-07 12:07:52 · answer #11 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋