Why is does this upset me so much?

Question

Today in my last mod this boy just went on me. He was like do u have a bf? I was like yeah. His respond was like yeah right. Ur @ss is lying, who would date u? Ur ugly as hell, 4 real. Then every body just laughed saying dam n stuff. I said dats mean. He said, but dat just mine opinion. I al most cried, but I don’t now why. I now I’m not ugly. I think I look on a scale 1 through 10. I’m a 7/8, but dat just mine opinion. My bf thinks I’m cute and dat have a nice @ss. How I know is, he told me like the first couple of weeks when we were dating. A lot of guys hit on me, but still it upset me when people think ur ugly. Ya know? Most people say I’m kinda cute and have a nice figer wit thick hair.

I listen to this song called “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilere. It made me feel better a littlie.
Can I have yawl advice on how I should have handle this situation? What do u think?

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Answer 1

Don't worry about what people think about you. There's more to a person than just outward appearance and even if that guy was the best looking guy in the world, so what, he obviously has an ugly personality.

Just feel confortable in your own skin, don't listen to what others say because you know who you are as a person and the opinion of others don't mean a thing.

Answer 2

First, don't listen to people with negative opinions about your looks, especially when they try to hit on you, and get nowhere, because it means they are mad that they couldn't get with you. Second, if your bf thinks your pretty, that's all you need to know, and third, never let anyone fool you into thinking that having a nice @ss, or figure is important, because a long time from now, you'll have to rely on other things in your life besides your look...like your heart, mind and personality (nobody beats time, babe), and if those things haven't been polished to a wonderful glow, you're in trouble. Be beautiful inside, and the outside will follow, trust me.

Answer 3

Don't worry about what other people think or say. Who cares? Some people can say mean, hateful things because they want to hurt their feelings and to get a reaction out of them. If it ever happens again then don't say anything back and just try to ignore the person. Some people like saying mean things to people because they have nothing better to do. As long as your boyfriend likes you then don't give the other person the time of day.

Answer 4

Have you ever heard the term "sour grapes"? It refers to a fox who was trying to get to the grapes at the top of a vine that were believed to be the best around. He never could reach them, and eventually grew tired of trying, so he exclaimed something to the effect that they must have been worthless, sour grapes and not desirable anyway. In this way, the fox felt better about his failure. You rejected this guy, so he explodes into a personal attack to keep from feeling as if this rejection mattered to him. It did...otherwise, why were you two even talking in the first place? You don't have to justify or even wonder about your attractiveness...it's not in question. That incident was more about his issues than yours. As distasteful as that incident was, it's common immature behavior that we grow out of eventually (girls and boys) but it's predictably apparent in your age group. Just another life lesson; and you just passed.

Answer 5

Everybody sees beauty differently. I wouldn't take it personally.

I'm sure what this jerk was doing was trying to impress his friends by making fun of you. Maybe he considers you an easy target because he knows it upsets you. The key is, if it ever happens again, just ignore him. I got picked on a ton in school, until I just decided not to let it bother me. When people stopped getting the reaction they wanted, they left me alone!

School is rough. Don't let losers like that get you down!

Answer 6

HAH, girlie what I would have done to that boy, wouldnt even cover all the swear words in the book!

I would just say "If im ugly then why would you ask me out?, ya like to daten ugly chicks you moron!?"

Just ignore ignore it now because theres nothing you can do about it the past is the past.

Answer 7

First of all realize that it's easy for people who have no idea who you are and aren't speaking to you face to face to put you down. What you think about yourself is what actually matters, not what some 12 yr old punk thinks. Just stick to what you and your b/f believe. Nothing else matters.

Answer 8

It is always hard to be told anything about you which is hurt-full. It is one of those things that young men think is "cool" to put others down.Good people popular or not don't act that way.It hard to accept but there are plenty more people like that in this world but they never seem to make it very far.

Answer 9

You need to be secure with yourself and not worry about what anyone else thinks if your a good person you are beautiful regardless. He is just mad because you turned him down and hurt his ego. Keep being a good girl and stay true to yourself and the ones who really love you .

Answer 10

My advice. . . ignore this loser who obviously likes you or thinks you're attractive because he had to take the time to put you down. I bet if you said you were single he would have hit on you instead of putting you down. Now. . more importantly. . . go take some ENGLISH LESSONS!!!! You sound like a ghetto chick with all your rap culture language. Stop watching the thugs on MTV for your speech lessons and listen to your teachers. The rap culture is a cancer on our society!! IT'S TIME TO TAKE AMERICA BACK FROM THE THUGS!!!! VOTE FOR CAPITAL PUNISHMENT!!!