Spanking? tell me?

Question

when i spank what should i use

Answer 1

Your hand

Answer 2

Using ANY object other than an open hand would be considerd Criminal Child Abuse under most state laws.

If you were to leave a bruise or welt on your child (very easy to do if you use an object) and a teacher were to see it, you would be reported to Child Welfare and your children would be taken away.

Hitting a child with an object is very dangerious. Childern are not big adults, and if an adult hits them they can be hurt, seriously. An adult who uses an object not only increases the force they hit the child with, (it's simple physics) but is also often unaware of how much force they are using on their child, especially if they are very angry at the time. Spanking your child with anything other than your open palm could result in your unintentionally doing very serious medical damage to the child, and perhaps even killing your child.

As I said before teachers, doctors, day care workers are trained to look for signs of abuse... if they see them you will be reported and CPS will come and take your kids BEFORE they ask any questions.

Answer 3

Given your previous questions, you are making yourself out to look like a fool by asking these spanking questions. Please stop abusing the internet.

You asked if you need to pull down your child's pants to spank. A real parent doesn't ask such questions. You also stated in one question that you were wondering if braces hurt. You are obviously a young person just getting some kicks by asking inane questions on the internet. Grow up.

Answer 4

You shouldn't spank at all! Spanking is evil, primitive, inhumane, barbaric, and outdated! Spanking is a brutal form of violence, and if you spank your child(ren), you will only teach them that violence is acceptable and they will grow up to be violent criminals as a result. Spanking is also a form of sexual assault becuase the buttocks are a sexual region. Don't believe me? Try typing "spanking" into a search engine and see how many sex websites you get compared to the number of parenting websites. I can't believe so many people deny that spanking is sexual. Also, since spankign involves beating children on a private, sexua region of their bodies, it teaches them that their bodies, including their private areas, are not their own but subject to the will of any adult. The child who submits to a spankign on Monday is not likely to say "no" to a sexual predator on Tuesday. Spankign sets children up as the perfect targets for child molesters. Most experts agree that spanking is harmful to children, and much scientific research has shown it is harmful. Since spanking is such a sexualized form of child abuse, your children may become spanking fetishists later in life if they are spanked. There is no worse fate than becoming a spanking fetishist. Spanking is not really an effective method of discipline. If it does work, it is only because your children are afraid of you, since you will beat them into submission unless they obey your evry command. You should never, ever spank you children!

Answer 5

I hate when people say that it is wrong to spank your child. What about when they get older and hit you or talk to you any type of way they want to . That's because you spared the rod. If you don't spank your children the law will. They say don't spank your child, but kids who grow up without consequences will act out as if there are none. It's ok to spank your child with your hand if you're heavy handed. Soft pats will not get the job done. If your open hands don't land hard enough, then use a belt. It's ok to spank a child as long as you don't hit them in their head, chest or back. Kids are stronger than you think. The only way your child will resent you is if you hit him/her for no reason or let people disagree with your methods infront of your child.

Answer 6

just about anything can be used but from what they are saying on here there is a flaw.
you can use anything to punish ur kid but if it causes a welt, bruise or cut then it is considered child abuse.
ive had the belt on my butt or hands, a hickory switch, hand or soap in my mouth and ive turned out just fine compared to these whiners. if you can hold a grudge that long to say that nothing good will come out of spanking a child then there is something wrong with you.

Answer 7

i substitute into 12 and that i substitute into caught with a boy my mom and dad did not be responsive to approximately miles away (we've been horseback using). the 1st component my dad did is he led the horses domicile and made us walk collectively as he rided for 5 miles... Than the boy had to wallk domicile.... yet another 2 miles... My dad pronounced you are able to anticipate a spanking tommorow. those words to my sisters and that i are horrid..... the subsequent morning after breakfest he grabbed my arm and pulled me out to the barn. He gave me a 4 minute hand spanking, strapped 13 situations with the belt, and four strokes with the paddle...... The worst ever.

Answer 8

I would use your hand before anything else. In the privacy of your own home you can use a belt. But be careful even with that. I guess a lot of people are very sensitive and can't deal with people punishing their children. I had a close family friend for years who was over one night for a friendly get together and one of my other friends had her children here and they were being naughty so she spanked the little boy on his behind and sat him on the couch, and the woman tried to get her in trouble for child abuse. Basically what I'm trying to get to is; just make sure you're careful who you do it around, as it accepted by most as a perfectly normal way of punishment for children, sometimes you'll come across a person who is very offended.

also in addition to that, using your hand would be the best means in my opinion because it's not as painful but still gets the point through. The idea of physical punishment isn't to seriously injure or traumatize but to make sure they know they've done something wrong and that there will be consequences. Good luck and I hope this info is useful =)

Answer 9

I think you should use better judgment! When you spank, you feel better, but it impinges on your child's opinion of him/herself. Why on earth would you want to do this?

I highly recommend that you read a book on parenting. Do not spank this poor child. Talk to him, at his level, at make the kid understand what he did wrong. Give him a time-out but don't spank!

Answer 10

Sorry don't believe in spankings. I put my son in time-out for 4 min. He is 4 years old and when he is five he will go in time-out for 5 min.

I see no reason to cause physical pain to teach my son a lesson. I think my words work better.

Answer 11

It depends on how old the child is, if he is a teenager, then I'd say use something that will not hurt your hand. If they are little, just a little swift spank across the bottom with your hand should be fine. ♥..... when in doubt, communication and love are best! ♥