Can I have some advice please?

Question

Salaam,
I have been considering wearing a hijab for some time now but I'm still a little unsure. Atm, I wear indian/pakistani type tunic and trousers with head scarf but my hair is not fully covered. I have seriously been considering wearing the hijab but as you may have read from my previous question, my family aren't exactly...supportive. I want to cover myself properly for the sake of Allah but I don't know how my family will take this. What shall I do? Any advice would be great, thanks!

Answer 1

wear it. u already cover some part of ur head, why not all of it!

Answer 2

Sister Lavendar:

I fully and wholeheartedly support you and I pray that Allah will guide you and make it easy for you. If your family doesnt support you fully on this I would do it anyway. You will always find someone who doesnt like or support what you do. I think it is more important to do what you want rather than worry about what others think. In my family, a revert decided to cover and she was the only one. Everyone tried to talk her out of it and tell her that she didnt have to do it. 7 years later, some of her inlaws have decided to wear the hijab because of her strength and determination. I am absolutely sure that if this lady can do it so can you. Muhajaba women are strong, determined, smart and absolutely a million times more beautiful than any non covered woman. Do it for Allah!! Maybe you should pray istikhara about this subject.

Good luck sister and may Allah guide you and protect you and make it easy for you.

Answer 3

sweet heart just pray astakhara and do it.
the family that raised me during my high school yrs where against the hijab totally, they thought it was back words, and they totally believed in that only uneducated women wore it. sight* and they where Muslims.
Subhannallaah what is amazing is my aunt is now more religious than I'm. and she reminds me of my wrong doings. you never know.
you might open a door of good deeds for your family and they inshaAllaah will follow you.

I did wear the hijab and I started wearing skirts at the same time. I remember I started it on Eid day, prayed to Allaah to make it easy for me. and after two months I started to wear the niqab too.lolz imagine how my uncle reacted to that. He was afraid of what the neighbors might think or say about us.:P

I had no support but I had Allaah. Allaah made it so easy for me the hijab became part of me instantly, Alhamdullillaah.

So just decide InshaAllaah and do it. You are very knowledgeable from your answers you are one of my favz. I would have never thought that you do not wear the full hijab.
Take it easy inshaAllaah, tell your mom and dad you are doing this for Allaah(swt) and you need their support, if they do alhamdullillaah if they don't alhamdullillaah Allaah is with you.

if you already cover it wont be that bad, plus no one will notice.

take it easy inshaAllaah. You are in our prayers.

Answer 4

hijab is necessary for the women. it is not necessary for the woman to put a veil on her face (niqab) but it is still a good thing. for a woman, all parts of her body should be covered, leaving aside her hands and her face. you should wear a head scarf that completely covers your hair. that would be sufficient. and if u want to veil your face, that is even better, but not a necessity.
your religion has a higher priority than anything else, so you have to do what you are told to do and you should discuss this with your parents as well and make them understand. tell them why hijab and modesty is important. Inshallah they will understand.

Answer 5

I feel from your q that your family is the only obstacle in front of you to wear hijab, if this is the case then my advice is to talk to them and do your best to convince them that you do so to satisfy Allah and by doing so you make yourself like a precious gem saved in safe instead of showing your hair or part of your body to all people which is haram and is not the way Allah wanted you live. And in case they stick to their opinion, I hope they won't, then you'll have to face them with doing what you see right and what Allah commanded you to do, there's a golden rule in Islam that no human to be obeyed as long as they command you to something haram or prohibit you from doing Allah's commands.

Otherwise, if you have an "internal" reason fro inside of you not to wear hijab, be sure that it's Satan, don't follow Satan and do what Allah has chose for you, and you'll be definitely success.

Hope you the best.

Answer 6

Walaykum Assalaam

It takes courage to do a such thing, and what more better to do it purely for the sake of Allah (swt).

I was in the same situation it was difficult, but I sincerely begged and cried for Allah (swt)s help, and what do you know I witnessed a miracle, a change in me Alhamdulillah!

I will be honest as possible, it sometimes is not so easy when you have mnay condeming you for wearing it, but Sis just think (well this is what I used to think) If I was to die 2mro, how would I answer to Allah (swt)?? We should strive futher for Allah (swt) first.

Just wear it, they'll give comments but trust me they will get bored and find something new to turn to. As I started to learn about the Deen wore my hijab (just the head scarf) yet I didn't cover properly, but within time I realised I should, so slowly I did, it was difficult as I had to leave my job and family wasn't pleased, i was called all sorts, extremist and the lot he, he!!! But Allah pulled me through, just put your trust In Allah.

Remember after Sorrow/pain there is happiness (",)

May it be easy for you insha'Allah.

Answer 7

I would advise you to ask Allah sincerely for His guidance and strength and to keep you firm in your resolve. Try to remember to make this dua at prayer time. Sometimes we forget that Allah is there ready to smooth the way for us, if only we remember to ask!

No matter what grief your family may give you, remember that all can be overcome with Allah's help and blessing. Your situation doesn't seem to be too extreme. Remember your sisters who suffer true persecution for their hijab. If they can stand up regardless, surely you can too.

And you don't know how your actions may soften the hearts of your family members. I have a friend who decided to wear her hijab against her family's wishes. It wasn't that her parents were anti-Islam, they just weren't educated on the issue of hijab. Her mother used to pull the scarf off of her head and tell her all sorts of nasty things. Subhannah, years later now, her mother is wearing the hijab as well.

The last piece of advice I would give you is to be humble with your family. Understand that they may see your move as a kind of rebellion. When they ask, just assure them that you only want to please Allah and that you've learned more now and realize that the hijab is ordained for women and you've learned more about what that entails. Be prepared to show them ayahs and hadiths in a calm and humble manner. If you approach it as a purely religious growth issue, how can they not be proud of you? But if you approach from a self-righteous and arrogant manner, they may not listen to your reasoning.

Answer 8

i personally find the hijab very attractive, it shows deep respect for Allah and to the self, again the choice is truly your own, this worlds view of hijab is a little mixed, but i would advise go with god on this one, i know many muslimah who dont where hijab and it doesnt make them any less islamic, i hope your family come to terms with what ever you decide is your way to fullfillment in Islam and i wish you well on your journey of discovery, sometimes the path is a little rocky but as you progress you will eventually find the road to be extremely smooth and easy to traverse, all praise to Allah

Answer 9

Salaam Alaykum. Sister firstly alot of girls live in Muslim Countries don't wear hijab anymore...lots of girls like western attire you will see sister in tshirt and jeans in Palestine,Morocco,Egypt,Algeria,Morrocco,Jordan, and Lebanon. Some Do Some don't. Your Iman is inside you...my family didn't like it either and I don't always dress halal...Masha Allah for your effort but understand you might want to consider meeting some of the women in your areas mosque...there are ar many countries and you will see a wide variety of clothes region from region. We all wear hijab in the mosque They are very cheap and good at Al Hannah.com.
Also you can buy very sophisticated clothing that is halal but are also geared for us younger Muslims and are very fashionable and you can't really tell if they came from a designer at Dillards...WWW.Shukr.com. Also you can dress modestly buy a very fashionable one like a simple black or white...browse and get an idea of what you want on these sites....tell your mom and dad it's "In style" now...How are you able to pray salah without them noticing? If they are going to give you a problem just go to the Mosque on Friday and then get some advice from the sisters there. Wa Salaam

Answer 10

you could either obey Allah and the more you go through troubles with anyone for Hijab, the more Allah is pleased with you. Or, you might obey your parents and displease Allah. Obviously, Mulims should ovey Allah, and no one else. We obey parents to obey Allah, as long as they, themselves, obey Allah. Also, believe me, they will get over sooner or later, just keep holding on to what you know is right. May Allah be with you and all our brothers and sister, and may Allah guide our families.

Answer 11

Salam sister
I dont completley knoe wat ur saying becaus emy family was very supportive so it was easy for me to start Hijab. But I go to public school and sometimes I feel like i would have alot more friends if I didnt. but then i think of tthe wifes of th eprophet.
In a world where a lady is raped every 6 seconds Allah knows its better for us to wear Hijab. Allah knows how we feel.

Sister I know it will be hard but just keep looking ahead.
The future is bright for the worshippers of Allah

Assalam