2007-11-07 10:26:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother died when I was 9 that was 36yrs ago, and I still miss her, I am so sorry for your loss,but explain that grandma has gone to heaven if that's OK by you, and that she won't be around,let them know that it makes you sad. I t is alright to cry in front of them, it will help you and explain the grieving process to them. Answer any questions they may have as best as you can, don't lie and if you don't know say so. You'd be surprised how much kids can handle. Everyone grieves in different ways, so what ever way that helps you deal is right for you.
2007-11-07 10:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My own mother died when I was 22 and I have thought about how I will let my children get to know her when I have them. There is no one right way to handle this but I would base it on the maturity and ages of the kids. My cousin died when I was 11 and my beloved mother came to my room to tell me as clear as day I can remember her telling me there was a car crash and that my other cousin is fine but she was called by Jesus and will no longer be with us in a physical form. God Bless You
2007-11-07 10:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ginny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your mom, and i disagree with the other answerer who said not to cry in front of your kids... it's quite HUMAN and NORMAL to cry, and if you have to express your feelings, then do so.
You didn't mention the ages of your children, but there are a lot of websites about helping children to cope with death.
I have found a few for you, if you choose to take a look.
Human emotion is something which should never be hidden, nor should your children be shamed for expressing sadness, etc.
take care and i am sending heartfelt sympathy your way
2007-11-07 10:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your mother. I bet that is tough on you. The best way to explain to your children is to tell them that their grandmother is in heaven.
I don't know if you are religious, but if you are, you can explain that God though that her job here on Earth was finished and wanted her in heaven.
About coping yourself, you are going to have to let yourself grieve. It is hard losing a parent, but you need to grieve while still being there for your kids.
2007-11-07 10:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Valerie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry about your Mother.Now is the time to try to explain death to your children.You didn't state the ages of your children so i assume they are very young.Explain to them that Grandma has gone to live in heaven and she will not be coming back.If she was sick tell them that she was very ill and could not get well so God has called her home.Tell them that you all will miss her very deeply and if you cry it doesn't matter as we show our emotions when we love someone and then lose them.Tell them they can pray to her and she will hear them but cannot answer.
2007-11-07 10:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by mamaw2305 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cope your own way but try not to cry in front of your kids...I'm very sorry about your mother..were they close to their grandma?
2007-11-07 10:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋