How do I get my kids to like each other?.?

Question

They are grown, and got along well from small thru high school. It really started at my son's wedding when his married sister and some friends messed his apartment up as a joke. They did not destroy anything. Now my son can't get past this and has said I always loved my daughter best and he wants really nothing to do with his family anymore. I am devastated.

Answer 1

I am going to assume your son is an adult ( at least 19 years old )

There is something more to this than a 'decorated' apartment. Something has torqued this boy up to where he sees or believes he sees you treating him differently from his sister.

Direct question and answer. Nicely and constructively. Sit Mr. Unhappy down and tell him you care about him and want to know EXACTLY what is bothering him. Now be careful. When moms ask for the honest answer, the answer can be nasty and sometimes even down right distasteful. Brace yourself. It may have had something to do with something you did or something you said.

I had to have the 'talk' with my mother a few years ago. I had to tell her that when she and my father wanted X they always got it -- regardless of whether I wanted to do Y or Z. We were a military family and everything was "Yes, sir. How High?" She wasn't really prepared to hear that, but I did say it. She is much better about it now, but I had to make her realise that being in the family was much tougher than being in the military. At least in the military, you get the "Well, done" message every once in a while.

Talk to your son and he will hopefully be honest and open with you......Finn.

Answer 2

if you think you are devistated, just imagine how your son feels... what his sister did was rude, and cruel... especially if she didn't return to clean up the mess or apologize

i say, let your son know you do love him unconditionally, and let him know you are there anytime he needs someone to listen.

since your children are adults, they will need to fight their own battles....