I work helping a blind guy who is attending college. A few times recently he has been late or not come in at all-and I'm often dubious of his excuses, though I haven't said anything yet. Although it is his learning that is affected, I find myself being annoyed by this-when you are all set to do a job helping somebody, its frustrating when they don't turn up.
But I don't want to fall out with someone I have to spend 6 hours a day with. How can I say how I feel about this tactfully?
2007-11-07 09:53:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
This guy needs to learn some manners . Not only is he letting you down but also himself .
The fact that he has been given support in order to maximise his learning is excellent and I am sure you do a great job , but all that effort is going to be wasted if he does not fall in line with expectations.
If I were you I would take a quiet moment to speak to this guy about his attendance and timekeeping , maybe he has a genuine problem that he has not yet shared , and it could be something that he can be helped with.
However if it is just he is too lazy to get up then perhaps a more stern word needs to be given , also would it not be possible for someone to speak to his parents
I hope that a quiet word with him will bring him to his senses and you can then carry on the good work you have been doing.
2007-11-07 10:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are getting paid for this as if you are volunteering your time I believe you would have said so. I also take it you are getting paid for his time, not there as well. Shorten the time spent with him by the time he is late. Or add it up and take a 1/2 day at the end of the week. When he says why...let him know...Personally, I run late. I am always doing too much just as I have to leave. I make up my time at the end of the day. Now I am home, retired and loving it. I would also take something to do while I wait for him to show up. And let him wait for a few minutes while you finish up with what you are doing. Another person suggested you be late a couple times and not let him know. Sometimes, that works too. As far as you feeling annoyed and not telling him....that is a waste of energy on your part. Negative feelings grow and become quite nasty if they get out of control. That doesn't seem to be the case yet. But it happens to some people. Well, try some of the suggestions and see if that helps.....
2007-11-07 18:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Toffy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Colleges have to keep attendance registers. You can ask the Course Tutor to work out his percentage attendance and sent one copy to the student and one to his employer whose name and address should also be found in the register. The Course Tutor should really deal with this and most Colleges have close relationship with the students' employers. If the student is blind then there might be special arrangements and you should discus it with the Course Tutor and other members of staff to find out what the College Policy is.
2007-11-07 18:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can he easily contact you if he is going to be late? If so, ask him to let you know so you can go on to other projects. If you have a way to contact him, call him! Your time is precious too. If he refuses then it's best to tell him he'll have to find another assistant. Being blind isn't an excuse for being rude. You can quote that last line. Sometimes they need a verbal nudge to get them motiviated again.
2007-11-07 18:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by fluffernut 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to submit a progress report for the week or some sort of tracking, accountability report? if so just note it in there (wouldn't worry about he few minutes late) but when your productivity stops because he isn't there for several hours..
What do you do when he isnt there? do you have other responsibilities? if not seems like a non future job..
2007-11-07 17:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might have personal problems which he may not wish to tell you,but you can ask if he needs any help that you can offer. If your efforts to find out the real reason for being late is failed, then advise him of your concern.
2007-11-08 02:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have noticed that there have been several occasions when he has failed to turn up on time and ask him if there are any difficulties which make this so. Tell him that you take time to prepare his lessons and that you find it discourteous when he fails to make full use of the time which has been allocated to him. Would he think it fair if you were to adopt the same approach?
2007-11-07 18:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Eddie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he has trouble keeping organised and time keeping - say how you find it a big help to do various things.
I do this with the students I work with. If your there to support him then tell him. Ask him why he wasn't there and say that you feel a bit let down when he doesn't show up.
2007-11-07 17:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you are finding it a problem, and particularly an inconvenience, as there other things you could be taking care of whilst you are waiting for him to turn up. Ask him to stick to a definite time,
2007-11-08 05:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u in charge?You didn't say! If not then ask yourself if your frustration says more about u than it does about your colleague. If it is your job to tell him his place then get on with it and tell him! We dont know enough to be either frustrated or disappointed by his tardiness. Chill is my advise and be happy! It is better to be happy than right you know!
2007-11-07 18:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋