why are parents so got damn over protective?, they don't want you to do anything.?

Question

my mom doesn't want me to do ANYTHING or go ANYWHERE!!!!!!!1

Answer 1

Aren't you kind of exaggerating? You must be able to go some places and do some things. But you might not be able to do all the things you want to do. You don't say your age, but I have to assume from your question that you're in the low teens. You're at an age where your judgment, naturally, is not all that good. You're easily influenced by your peers and you will follow the pack, so to speak, to ensure your social standing.

I don't mean to generalize, but that's just a developmental aspect of being a teenager. You instinctively want to break away from your parents, and so you turn to your friends as the driving influences in your choices and actions.

Meanwhile, your parents (who were once your age and went though this stage in development themselves) know how you feel and want to make sure you don't do anything you'll later regret. So they do what adults have to do: They act like the adults in your relationship. They look at you, make assumptions about your level of maturity, assess the choices you've made in the past, and try to predict how you might behave in certain future situations. If their predictions are, in their minds, scary, they won't let you do something. If they think you'll be OK in a situation, they let you do it.

The truth is, until you become a parent yourself, you'll never really appreciate just how hard a job it is. Raising a teenager is a never-ending challenge. Parents have to deal with constant mood swings, rebellion, and bad social influences. Plus, they have to start letting the child in you go as they see you mature into adulthood, which is a very bittersweet experience.

Try to cut your parents some slack. The more honest you are with them about who you're spending time with and what you're doing, and the more you demonstrate responsibility and good judgment, the more freedom you'll be given. But don't expect to be treated like a full adult until you really are one.

Answer 2

Couple reasons for this,
one~ you maybe to young to do the things you want too.
or the people you choose to hang with are not the type your parents feel comfortable with.

Maybe Something horrible happened to your mom and she is trying to protect you from what happened to her.

Or she truly needs you around so she wont worry so much about you because she truly does love you.

You see these kids doing whatever they want, going where ever they want. Getting into all sorts of trouble, ever thought there parents might not care?

Some day you will become a parent and look back at your feelings right now, then the light will go off in your head and it will all make sense.

Answer 3

Stop exaggerating, you only make yourself sound like a whiny child who won't listen to reason, not a mature adult with an insane parent.

This forum is for questions, not rants; go find a blog or chat with your friends if you want to blow off steam.

Of course your parents are protective and restrictive - they love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. They have enough experience to know that bad stuff can happen no matter how careful you are - and how much more easily it can happen if you're a headstrong teen who's more focused on having fun and getting her way than on paying attention to the consequences.

Calm down and compromise with your parents. You'll never convince them or anyone that you're mature enough to handle the world if you can't handle a simple disagreement with your own parents.

Answer 4

Most kids don't listen to the news about kids disappearing ,raped , abused or murdered.They just want to protect you from all the things that happen everyday in life.You may not realize it until you are grown and have children of your own.I'm sure you will do what they are doing now.So until you are older just try to understand that they are only protecting you because they love you.Be glad they do,as a lot of kids don't have the guidance of a parent and are in juvenile or jail or homeless.You will grow up and then you can do the things you want.Be patient as hard as that might be.

Answer 5

You need to prove to her that you are responsible and mature. If you've given her trouble in the past, it is less likely that she will give you more abilities. You haven't given your age, but I'm assuming you're younger than 16; that's pretty normal of a parent. They want to protect you from all the things they dealt with when they were your age. Show your mom some respect, do what you should do, and eventually you'll be given more rights as well.

Answer 6

im 17 and my mom is VERY over protective!
I basically live in a bubble.
I know shes trying to keep me safe- but think about it-- since you know what its like out there and what kids do (like get into trouble) would you let your kids out? My mom isnt stupid--which is why shes strict. IT shows how other parents are.
when friends ask me "how come you can't do anything?"
and i say cause if i tried and get caught i'd be in deep ****.
then they tell me to lie or get around it
and I said-- been there, done that.. my mom isnt stupid.

just wait until college. Besides - the experience will be much more fun for you since most kids try to do stuff when they're young to brag n be cool. WHen really-- who cares? You'll have fun later. And it will be 10x more enjoyable when you get to break free! :)

Answer 7

It's because they love you. Of course it feels restricting - but far worse to have parents who just don't care what happens. One day you will be independant - and you will also be better off in the meantime because they did protect you. If they didn't care, you might never get to that day - or at least not in one safe piece. When you become a parent one day, you will understand - right now, and only naturally, you want to feel free. Just remember, that day WILL come. Be patient

Answer 8

This may sound crazy but one day you'll appreciate that your parents were a little overprotective. Your parents realize what you'll realize when you get older: half the things that seem like good ideas now are actually terrible ideas. Down the road you'll breathe a sigh of relief that they kept you from doing the stupid things your friends did.

Answer 9

try this...it worked wit my parents....just sit down and have a talk wit them calmy like adults...don't over react...be more adult then they are...u can be like "mom/dad how will i ever understand anything if i always have u as a safety net...unless you want me to be screwed in the real world you need to give me responsibility?" Also use reasoning like if u get good grades or haven't run into the law be like i've proven responsible in the past...y would i screw up now?

Answer 10

First of all how old are you? That probably has a lot to do with it. Most parents just want whats best for their children. It keeps them out of trouble. Most kids if their was no rules then they would get into a lot of trouble.