What's Mother in-law trying to do?

Question

I came home from work&my husband was sleeping while my 6month old was in a room on the other end of the house with the door closed.My 4yr old was walking around the house with dirty,urine smelling clothes on.I wake him up 2 find that he hadn't fed our 6mth old since morning(6.5 hrs ago) and he left her in her crib with the door closed 6hrsago because she wouldn't stop crying(I wonder why).He walks into the front room,goes to sleep& was awoke by me.My 4yr old hadn't eaten at all & had just been walking around the house all day(all the lights out,just as I left them).I was irate and pissed off,He acted like he'd done nothing wrong and mocked me for crying and being upset.He got on the phone with his mom and she's telling him I need to get self control & stop bringing up "the past" IE;All the other times he's pulled stuff like this(even left our kid by herself in the middle of the night once!).How could She try 2 turn the situation on me? What could be her motive for this?

This is what I plan to do.

I've filed already...I just wonder how she could say something like this.

Answer 1

Take your kids and leave him. He doesnt deserve to watch or be around his children.

Answer 2

Making HER tea, at the risk of your own health was silly, and YOUR fault. Her buying them Christmas outfits was NOT a crime on her part. I don't want to waste my time going through your whole list again (BTW, paragraphs are a GOOD thing), but basically, you need to start distinguishing things that SHE did that were wrong, and all the rest of the stuff, and stop blaming her wrongly for acceptable things, and things you did. THEN you need to distinguish things that are really trivial from things that matter. If she's an in-law, that means you have a husband. (You don't say where he was most of the time, but he should support you in your LEGITIMATE and significant complaints.) IF you want to cause a rift in your marriage, then denying HIS mother visitation with HER grands is a good way to go. What would make SENSE to do is get your husband's agreement on a few BIG things, and get his support on those. Why not also talk to your FiL and clear up the misunderstandings there (but do NOT insult his wife when you do this).

Answer 3

The first and fore most thing that concerns me is this is not the first time but she brings up things from the past! That this has happened to these children before! Yikes! That baby could have smothered! Heaven alone was looking out for that four year old.She could have been out side in the street kidnapped,eaten something poison , bit by the dog,cat whatever . Girl your concern should be your CHILDREN! Forget him and her. Those kids are neglected and it's a miracle something didn't happen to them.Never leave them alone with that man again or his mother if you divorce him make sure this is the reason stated in the papers so it will be court ordered visitation with a guardian.Good luck and bless those babies.

Answer 4

I really don't think the most important problem here is the mother-in-law. Tell your husband to shape up and start helping and acting like a parent. Maybe when he can see that he is the main problem, he won't be so likely to call mommy and tattle on you. You might want to seek counseling because this kind of husband doesn't change easily. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Take your kids and leave, he is a neglectful parent and will end up either hurting or something worse to those kids, or take them to a day care where u know they will be watched and take care of... tell mil to mind her own business or kick hubby to her house with nothing but his clothes on his back... either way protect your kids first and foremost...

Answer 6

I am concerned. Do you know why? Because you are asking for help with your freakin' mother in law who was on the phone with your husband, rather than asking for advice on what to do about your abusive, neglectful husband. Are you not of right mind? You need to get your children into a safe environment and get your home life taken care of. Forget about the damn mother in law. You have a husband to deal with first.

Answer 7

Pack his gears drop him and his s*it at his mums and tell her to have her baby back and see how she likes looking after a lazy good for nothing ****ole .......mate your kids first you done need him . Your kids are the ones you need to worry about not the mother in law

Answer 8

you need to take your kids out of that house or take them somewhere else during the day when you are at work. your mother in law is crazy those kids should not be left alone with him or her. you need to look out for them what if something happens to them you would never be able to forgive yourself. you need to just go he don't care about you or your kids.

Answer 9

Srry. this may make u mad BUT DUMP HIS LOSER *** he has no right to be around those kids if he aint gonna take care of them. She doesnt want to admit taht her son is a loser and a waste of space. It's her son, she is gonna stick up for him, even when she knows he is wrong (trust me experience in that one)

Answer 10

She's a b i t ch is how she can do it. He's putting your children in danger with his behavior and she is condoning it. I'd give both of them a piece of my mind and then take the kids and leave his sorry a $ $. What a loser. You deserve better.

Answer 11

take your kids in the middle of the night pack what you need and pack lots of food and go to someone you trust.

P.S. i will be mad too. if my children had not eaten for 6 hours
he is shi* and a biotch