2007-11-07 09:39:11 · 5 answers · asked by tring to make it last 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The potential downsides...jealousy, insecurity, etc. A relationship has to be 100% stable, no jealousy, no distrust, absolute respect of rules/boundaries, and excellent communication in order for something like this to work. The third party must either be a total stranger (ie., someone met through a swinger website...don't be stupid and just pick someone up off the street) or someone you can with whom you have the same trust, respect, etc mentioned above.
Everyone has to be 100% into it...nobody going into it with "well, ok, I guess..."
Establish rules up front, making sure everyone has the option to call it off at ANY time.
Threesomes can be a recipe for disaster in a relationship and friendship, or they can be a lot of fun. Do not rush into it, make sure you are absolutely certain that everyone involved wants to do it, etc.
I highly recommend spending some time on some swinger websites, reading the forums and such. This is a good way to gain some insight into why some people do threesomes, what works, what doesn't, and things to be aware of.
2007-11-07 13:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Danger. Danger. A threesome has become every guys fantasy. Why not? If one girl is good, two have got to be better, right? Not so. My g/f of 8 months thought our love life was flattening out and wanted to spice it up. She asked if I wanted a three way. I said I didn't think it was a good idea (she was a jealous girl). She insisted so we had a friend of hers over a couple of different times. All was well....for a short time. Soon, even though my g/f was beautiful, she thought I was more attracted to her friend, which I wasn't. But no amount of convincing could change her mind.
Then she started making little comments like, "I'd like to hang out with her tonight, but you'd want to lay her." I was just sitting there, not suggesting anything. In the end I got so sick of her insecurities I just broke it off. So yeah, it was great fun the few times it happened, but was it worth losing my g/f over? I don't think it was. You'll have to make the call, if you have a jealous lover it could be the end of your relationship. It also caused my g/f and her friend to not speak anymore. She thought her friend had put me up to breaking up with her.
2007-11-07 09:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by So True 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay in what way? It all depends on you and why you want to do it and most importantly how you will feel about it afterwards. In general, if two of the three are in a relationship, as a practice it tends to eventually destroy the relationship. If it is just "recreational" sex, which is common enough, then the harm, if any, is to you and you have to think about your own mental health.
2007-11-07 09:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing against it that I know of. I've done it twice and was for a long time two.
A downfall is that they might want to be in a one-on-one relationship and you might get hurt. Another thing is that the risk of spreading a disease will increase.
2007-11-07 09:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by swiftyman08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have thought that the downfall would be not having that exclusiveness of it being one on one. Someone may feel left out or whatever. I'm ot speaking from experience though, so I don't know lol
2007-11-07 09:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋