My girlfriends parents asked us to attend a church dinner that they were also invited to go to, they don't attend the church they just didn't want to go alone. Having Christian beliefs myself I agreed, my girlfriend agreed and the dinner is tonight.
I used to attend this church, before I was out... in fact I was dating a guy who was VERY good friends with someone who worked for the church.
I am sure I have nothing to worry about as it's been over a year, but I can't help but feel very nervous and scared about going back with my girlfriend. What do you think? Do you think I have any reason to be nervous?
2007-11-07 09:26:10 · 23 answers · asked by u_fas_n8me 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am not gay, but have a lot of pull in the gay community here (being the only minister around that will marry them), and I have to say without a doubt, if you do not feel comfortable, you should not be there.
It is not good you to put yourself in a position to be the target of abuse, and the church has enough problems in its infastructure to keep it busy anyway.
I am in no way, shape, or form saying not to be part of any religious activity in your community, but your spirituality and sexuality do not need to be on display for everyone to judge you by. You can be a christian at home just as easily as in a church, and make yourself accountable for what you think is right or not. Half the sins that im supposedly going to hell for anyway arent in the bible anyway (premarital sex as opposed to extramarital sex), but thats all open to interpretations since adultery is in the book, not fornication.
Ultimately what it boils down to is what do YOU want. And Grats on coming out! Its not an easy decision to make, and I hope your family and friends honestly support you in your decision, but be aware of alternative lifestyle support groups in the community if they dont.
2007-11-07 09:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by ReadyForChange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know more than we do what the views of the people in the church will be. Are they open to everyone? Are they very judgmental? Are you just worried that they will treat you differently than before? You may be pleasantly surprised. At least you will have the support of your girlfriend and her parents. I assume you had a few friends in the church. Go say hello unless you think they will throw you out, in which case, why even bother to ask?
2007-11-07 09:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I would be nervous.
Gays and Bi's are VERY frowned upon at church.
I have been in contact with my old pastor and talkig with him about coming abck to church, but I can't quite get the girl itch out of me yet. lol
I would love to go to church more often but I know it is wrong the way I am living, so I don't go.
2007-11-07 09:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go and you walk in with your head held high. If people have a problem with you then you don't need them in your life. If it's easier to find another Church then do that. But this dinner is important as you are coming as your true self. Nothing to be ashamed of from my perspective. Many blessings to you
2007-11-07 09:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Yogini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive converted to Wicca and went back to my old church. Ya i was nervous and almost didn't go in, i sat in my car in the parking lot for a while till i worked up the courage, didn't work up the courage to tell my old pastor that i was wiccan though. All and all, it turned out alright.
2007-11-07 09:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Me, Myself, and thats it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be nervouse...because I to was raised in a very strict christian background...I was a leader in my youth group and sang on the praise team...however its not like the church needs to know that you are "with" your g/f...but thats up to you...you know? People respond to you how you present yourself...if you expect respect then you will get it...you know?
2007-11-08 01:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by jennaveevee25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any reasons to be nervous or uncomfortable. If the people at the church are uncomfortable with who you are, then that is their problem.
But I think solo gave the best advise.
2007-11-07 09:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Take it from Toby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should go. Why are you nervous? You are going to a social event at a church. If anyone there shuns you or gossips about you, they are not following the gospel.
2007-11-07 09:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gal from Yellow Flat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley, if it's obvious the person your going with is your girlfriend I'd imagine you'll draw a lot of accusing glances. I wouldnt bother.
2007-11-07 09:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to be nervous about unless you think there might be some kind of confrontation.
2007-11-07 09:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋