Is there an easy way to tell my 4 year old son who is extremely close to his grandparents that they are getting a divorce?
2007-11-07 09:08:46 · 18 answers · asked by jadeandcas 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When my parents divorced my son was 2...a little younger. I didn't tell him anything until he asked. He asked when he was 5 or so. And all I said was that sometimes people decided they didn't want to be married anymore, for a lot of reasons, so Grandma and Grandpa weren't. He seemed fine with that. I wouldn't get too in detail about "dont' love each other" or any kind of personal details. Just generalities seem to work alright.
2007-11-07 09:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by amyguesswhat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do would let his grandparents tell him themselves because the one he is the closest with will help him to understand a bit better. For a 4 year old, it may be pretty hard but I wouldn't want to pressure him by saying anything too drastic but let his grandparents make him understand and talk to him themselves. You never know, maybe his love for them will bring them back together.
2007-11-07 17:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by ▪Toronto Mɑple Leɑfs Fɑn▪ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There isn't an easy way, but you can tell him that grandma and grandpa are not going to live together anymore or let the grandparents tell him.
2007-11-07 17:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by londy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's extremely hard like what happened to my son but what I said was "It's hard for them to live together, and they just want to work things out, so they think it's for the better, and it happens a lot"
-I hope this helps
2007-11-07 17:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no easy way. It will be hurtful and confusing to the child. Be prepared to answer questions and hope they both continue to spend quality time with the child.
2007-11-07 17:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by itchianna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him that they are going to live in separate houses now, but they both love him just the same. And he can go see them both one at a time. I would spare him the gory details so he doesn't need to worry about such adult issue.
2007-11-07 17:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i simply wouldn't say anything until he gets to grandma's and asks where grandpa is. then just explain that grandpa lives in a new house and leave it at that. if you make a big deal out of it, he may start to worry. it's amazing, but i've seen kids that young worry over things like that if you give them too much info.
2007-11-07 17:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should start taking him to each one individually. this will get him used to seeing them alone. then if he starts asking you why he doesn't see them both at the same time, say that they are going trough a divorce and they won't get to see him together. as sad as that sounds it is the only way that i can think of
2007-11-07 17:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have them explain it to them. You know, grandparents have a special way with kids. It's because they have had so much experience with them, you know? Maybe have them sit down with your son and try to explain it to him.
2007-11-07 17:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by LeAndra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandma and grandpa aren't going to be living together anymore, but they still love you and you will still get to see them both, maybe just not at the same time.
2007-11-07 17:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by srhbug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋