Ok, so I have been in a few serious relationships. One I was married in, but it seems that I am getting a track record of not being able to keep them around or if they do they just end up cheating. Are men that difficult to keep from getting bored. I'm not saying that I am boring, acutally I am pretty fun to be around. I feel like a I am developing a phobia to relationships, since they probably leave anyway. I am finding it is easier to just date people and not make commitments, but that isn't what I want. It just works. So,how is it that I see so many couples that have been together for so long and seem perfectly content? I know this is a wide range question, but is there just some hint that I have missed?
2007-11-07 08:55:37 · 11 answers · asked by Gohappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many couples always fight over small things, and really overexagerate the problem. Just focus on the positive, and ignore the small flaw in your bf/parter. My parents have been happily married for 20 years! Thats what they always told me they did. Oh, if you ever have a big fight, ALWAYS say goodnight, no matter what!
Good Luck!
2007-11-07 09:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by -:-vInTaGe PaSsIon-:- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Wow, tough question. It really is a bit tough to answer because of the human factor.
I guess I'd ask if you see any patteren to the type of guys you seem to fall for? Where do you meet them? If you meet them at clubs and such, (while there are exceptions to the rule), I would think most guys there are players.
Consider getting invovled in other activites, such as taking a class or two at a J.C. (even if you have a degree), you'll meet guys that are into getting an education. Of if you're spiritual, get involved in church functions where you'll meet guys that are also, more spiritual.
I've been married for just over 10 years. I love my wife, and don't see us going our seperate ways....ever, quite frankly. We dated for about 1 year, and we met when we were in our mid 20's. I think we both had figured out what we wanted in a spouse, and have several deep conversations about it BEFORE we got married. I think it was worth the investment.
I wish you the best of luck. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders...you've just not found the right guy yet.
2007-11-07 17:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? people who get married young have a higher tendency to get divorced. I think you just need to find a guy who has been in a few serious relationships and is willing to settle down. IMO i wouldn't get married before 25, and probably around 30 is a better age. Unfortunately you have had bad luck. All I can say is if you're a needy girl, it gets old after a while to most men. Independence is hot!
2007-11-07 17:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that (right down to the 'being cheated on' part). I've found that I was never truly happy with those guys. They got boring, I wasn't that into them, they didn't thrill me or make me happy. I was jaded as well. But I finally found someone great, a relationship that isn't boring and that makes me truly happy and that I don't want to end.
You keep a relationship by finding one that's right for you. You know the saying "You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince"? Very true. Keep looking - the right guy is waiting, you just need to open your eyes to him and be willing to jump in with both feet.
2007-11-07 17:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody should have to try to keep a relationship.
I believe that if you have to try and the relationship becomes work then that's more like having a coworker. When that happens to a relationship the odds are that you stick it out because nobody wants to be alone. When you find the person that fits you.. there wont be no type of work. Matter of fact you will have to convince yourself to go to work because you don't want to leave your partners side.
2007-11-07 23:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pauly aka that guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i was married for 22yrs., it ended up that we are no longer together.I met a lovly woman last year over the internet well her two daugther's moved back in with their boyfriends also the youngest one just had a baby.I thought i had it all but just a week ago we had an arguement over you guessed it her daughter's i'm out they are still there.So you have done nothing wrong it is just the way thing's happen to people that try and do the right thing's just keep your head up and MR., right will show up someday.
2007-11-07 17:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by hew_zak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take sometime. SOmetime for you to figure out who you want to date. 2nd make them earn it, I am sure you have attributes that are desirable. Use your assets and mind to restraine a little untill you put all of your dating Ideas under control.If you want a nice guy and commitment It might take a few, but hitting everybody is just gonna say **** shes a bar fly, or shes been with everybody, then the rumors.......just hang back, ppick and choose.....Always Date Me. Ken 44though
2007-11-07 22:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by mrliteman001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things:
1. 1st you have to be ok with yourself. love yourself, take care of yourself, respect yourself, be emotionally, physically and spiritually as healthy as you can be.
2. relationships are hard work. they require submission, forgiveness, healthy boundaries, patience.
once you have started taking care of yourself and becoming a healthier person you should be able to spot whether potential men are also reasonable healthy and compatible.
i suppose i could write an entire book about this. but in short, this is what i think. i hope it makes sense.
2007-11-07 17:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships take work. what about you attracts the wrong guys?
2007-11-07 17:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just bad luck
2007-11-07 17:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by tinker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋