i had been going out with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years and we just broke up because we argued a lot. now idk wut to do without him and i miss him because he was my BEST friend, and its soo hard to see him wiht other ppl. were still friends, and talk but it hurts soo much. what do i do?
p.s. (were keeping the door open for eachother in the future)
2007-11-07 08:53:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hard situation... you really should try to leave each other alone for awhile. By keeping each other on that little string your not fully letting go. You need to for awhile even though it may hurt just to see what it is you both really want. Time will tell you everything. If the door is supposed to be open for you two in the future, it will. Don't stand there and hold it open, let it close and if it's meant to be reopened it will. Cheesy i know, but true :)
2007-11-07 09:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Roxy1316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went throught this is July. We were together for a 1 1/2 too. We are still friends, but it is so hard. How long is that door going to be open to keep your hope up? Do you think that is going to hurt you more wondering when.. when? I wouldn't be able to take it. Just don't leave it open thinking that he is going to come in whenever he feels like and leave when he feels like it. He needs to bring something to the table. I know it is hard. Take your time and your space and spend your time with good friends and keep yourself busy. He can be your best friend again, but not right now. It is too hard.
2007-11-07 17:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Gohappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hun,im going through the exsact same thing! I know it hurts very much,but theres not much you can do. If you really want him back then let him know that,and see if you can work things out. Maybe he just wants a little break. If not,then you have to try and get over him. My ex dumped me 1 month ago,and already has a new girlfriend,and although the process was sooo hard to go through,im glad to say im getting over him quickly. See if there are other guys you can date in the meantime,that could help you get over him. And try doing things you love doing,to take your mind off of it. Just keep yourself occupied. And who knows...maybe all he needs is a break. defidently DONT chase him. if learned that the hard way,it only makes guys pissed off. Just give him time. I wish you good luck!
2007-11-07 16:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by Maddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm sorry that you are still crushing on this guy. Ok so I have had some first hand experience with this issue. I dated my ex for about a year and a half. We had a rocky break-up and I moved out. I was really not in good shape after that, I actually decided to seek therapy for going for depression. And yeah it was bad. I started to take everything one day at a time. I began to fill my time with stuff that I always wanted to do, or did before I met her. I started to focus on myself and how to make myself really happy. I found that by doing that I was building up the person I was before I met my ex, and what orignally made me attractive. And I began to think about her less. I didn't keep contact with her, because I knew if I still talked to her I would be sucked back into things, and wouldn't be able to get over her like I needed to. So my advice is to not talk with him or hold out for you two. The chances are if you do that you run the risk of getting hurt again, in the event he gets with someone else. You need to focus on yourself now, and what is going to make you happy. And you need to realize that sometimes it doesn't work out. That doesn't mean you didn't care about him, or he didn't care about you, but you need to progress with your life. I really do understand what you are going through and it is a bummer, and I do from time to time think about my ex, but I am so much happier now then I was when I was with her, and to be honest I think I'm better for dating her, because now I know what I want in a person. hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-11-07 17:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on. I'm in the same sit. I was in love with my ex and he was on probation. Once he got off probation he started doing drugs. I swore to myself I would never date a druggy so I broke up with him. Hardest thing I ever had to do. I still love him and now everytime I see him I can feel the tears comming. It's hard to get over someone you've loved. But things worked out. I moved on and I feel better. I miss him at times but I get over it. Try to move on. You can find someone better. If you argued then then you'll argue if you get back together. GOOD LUCK! : )
2007-11-07 17:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hang out with your girlfriends and make some new friends that are not in his social circle. I don't advise talking to him - that will only make it worse.
2007-11-07 16:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest with your feelings as your being now......times heals ALL......
2007-11-07 16:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by craftsmanunltd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋