Why is life playing a joke on me?

Question

I haven't had a gf ever. I am in my late twenties.

I pray all the time to find one. I don't ask for money or expensive things....just a girlfriend.

But everytime I like a girl, she has a boyfriend.

And every girl that likes me and flirts with me has a boyfriend as well.

Why does God and life want to play with my mind like this? Why is it that the one girl that is madly flirting with me has a boyfriend?

I won't make her cheat. I just want to know why God insults me like this when all I ask is for someone simply to love.

Answer 1

I would suggest to start of with making friends. You can be a friend to someone who has a boyfriend. A lot of times the boyfriend-girlfriend thing does not last....but the friend thing does. A little secret for you......the BEST boyfriend-girlfriend thing starts as a friend. Those are the ones that last the longest. God would not play a joke on you. He wants you to be happy...but He knows what is best for you and may need you to be patient. Just have fun and be a good friend while you are looking and the right one will come along. I will pray for you to find someone that would help you stay close to God and will make you happy.


† On-call Prayer Warrior †

Answer 2

Praying doesn't do anything but make you irresponsible for your life. You need to put faith in yourself rather than in a god to change things. I don't know you but there is obviously something that turns girls off about you if you are in your late 20s and never had a girlfriend. Figure out what that is and work on it. Maybe you are spending too much of your focus on finding a woman and you are coming off as creepy. Maybe you are being too shy. What ever it is, late 20s is not normal to have never been with someone.

Answer 3

I can't speak to why you can't find a gf -- my best friend is 49 and hasn't found one who'll stick with him. But if you really think God is playing with your mind or insulting you, that's why He's not listening to your prayers.
God isn't some genie you rub the right way to get what you want. He does things to reach His OWN objectives (Proverbs 16:4) and prayer (and the Bible) are for finding out what those objectives are. Make them YOUR goals and everything else will fall into place (Matthew 6:33). Which does not necessarily mean you'll find a woman.

Answer 4

Have you ever heard that old adage, "God helps those that help themselves?" Well, I think God is telling you that you are looking in the wrong places for a girlfriend. Why are you hanging out with girls that will flirt with another man when they are already committed? That's a pretty skanky thing to do whether or not you involve God.

Go find a Christians singles group in your community or church and start doing activities that interest you with young Christian singles.

Answer 5

Brother,
Humans are made so that they are attracted to the opposite sex. This life is your test. Where you are attracted towards things over which you have no right. They are not lawfully yours. (i.e. you have not married them). Would you like to have a wife who has been flirting all her life having a lot of boyfriends.
NO.
Then why spoil yourself. Even your wife will be expecting a husband who is clean and She being the only women in your life.

In the bible it is mentioned

Matt 18:9
And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out, and cast it from you: it is better for you to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into the fire of hell.


Quran Sura 24. An-Nur.
30
Enjoin the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that is chaster for them. Surely Allah is well aware
of their actions.

31
Likewise enjoin the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; not to display their beauty and
ornaments except what normally appears thereof; let them draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their charms
except to their husbands,....



In the above books revealed by God , we are told not to look with lust at the opposite sex. Other wise we have to face a horrible punishment.


Each and everything can be used in good ways and in bad ways. You can use a kitchen knife to cook food as well as steal.
Similiarly you can use your eyes to look with lust or read religious text books.
This life is not a play . it is our examination as to who obey the LORD, OUR GOD.

Answer 6

I think you are wise not to want someone who would cheat on her partner. If she is not trustworthy with him, why expect it with you?

God is not insulting you, but waiting for you to be ready. Stop trying to be what you think women want you to be. Pursue your own interests. Join groups (real life not internet) who like the same hobbies as you do. Make platonic friends with males and females, and couples. When you are happy with yourself and your friendships, you will be ready. Then your netowrk will consider you highly available and will try to hook you up with single gals so often it will get annoying.

Answer 7

All we need in this life is God. This could be a test. If you fill like you need a girl friend to make you complete then the Lord my be holding this back unto you surrounder yourself completely to him.

1 Corthinians 11: 11In the Lord, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. 12For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.

Answer 8

Stop praying to god and go out and get one.He's not responsible for your life or you getting a girlfriend.If he could do something don't you think he'd help someone who really needs it like the people in the twin towers,or people starving.Get my point? Go out and live your life she'll turn up sooner or later meanwhile stop worrying and have a blast with life.

Answer 9

Life just is; it isn't deliberately trying to make a joke of you.

My beloved spouse was a virgin in his late 20s when we met. He just never met a person with whom he wished to commit who was free to commit to him. We now have the happiest marriage imaginable, three kids and one on the way.

Be patient. Live a happy life, fulfil your own ambitions and dreams and wait for love to come. If it does not, you will not have wasted your life waiting. If it does come, you will be a full, rich person ready to share yourself with your lover.

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Answer 10

My friend, because you pray to God, he has a beautiful plan for you, yes as you say, You like some girls, but who knows God doesn't like her for you, Brother how about becoming a priest? just email me, we will help the church of Australia together...it badly needs priests now....just a suggestion....