I like a friend of mine, but one of my friends is his girlfriend. I love him alot and I feel bad for doing so. All his friends say he likes me, but he allways tells them that I know he has a girlfriend. I fell terrible. Should I still like him? Please give best advise.
2007-11-07 08:35:54 · 28 answers · asked by madison b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can practice now liking someone without allowing romantic feelings to develop, and especially without acting on any romantic feelings when it is inappropriate. It is inappropriate to behave like a girlfriend to this male friend of yours, because he already has a girlfriend.
You will run into this situation many times as you grow up and when you are an adult. There will be many people you like who are not available for romantic relationships. In fact, someday you yourself may be in a relationship, whether as a girlfriend or even a wife, and meet men you like.
Liking them is not a problem, but acting inappropriately is a problem.
2007-11-07 08:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Susan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just stop liking him but you can control your emotions for him seeing that he does have a girlfriend. If he is the one for you then you will have him. Just imagine how you would feel if you were in the other woman's place and someone was trying to take him from you. Don't waste time on what you don't have enjoy what you have. Sometimes you can get what you want by not looking for it too hard. If he likes you, let him make the move. That way you can always say that you did not come between him and the other girl.
2007-11-07 08:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lenab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*sigh* Situations like this are always frustrating.
Okay. Keep your boundaries clear.
He has a girlfriend. Don't let it get physical.
He has a girlfriend, who is a friend of yours. Don't f*ck up your friendship over a guy.
He has a girlfriend. He obviously liked her more than you at some point. Thus the "first come, first serve" rule applies.
If you love him, you won't mind waiting for a bit.
If you love him, you will be there for him when he breaks up with his current girlfriend.
If you are a true friend, you will back the hell away from HER man. No matter what your feelings are.
This is a moral test.
If you can remain strong, deny yourself, and wait it out. You'll be a better person because of it.
If you don't and it blows up in your face, you'll learn from that mistake.
Either way, you'll get valuable life experience from it.
My advice? Keep your feelings to yourself until they break up.
And be wary of the "rebound girlfriend" label. It sucks.
Luck,
Sam
2007-11-07 08:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he has a girlfriend, he should be off limits to you. After all, if he cheats on her, then he might be just as likely to cheat on you. There are plenty of fish in the sea as the saying goes, find someone new, or wait till their relationship dies out. Do NOT under any circumstances try to steal him away. That just leads to things you will regret.
2007-11-07 08:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by cryptotich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Liking him is one thing, but doing something about it is another. Knowing he has a gf, even if you did not know her, should make you keep your feelings in check. out of respect for her. You and he may have a romantic relationship in the future, but as long as he's dating this other girl, back off. He's doing the right thing by reminding you he is committed to someone else.
2007-11-07 08:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you like him and how close of a friend his girlfriend is to you. If you are really into him then you shouldn't let the feelings pass you by, but be prepared for it to take a hit on your friendship with the girl.
2007-11-07 08:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Shugah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember - if he will do it for you he will do it to you.
You don't want a man that can be stolen do you?
You can come to terms with your feelings by just accepting that you care for him (them). Then look for another suitable partner - there are plenty out there.
If in the future you find that they have broken up, talk to them and try to determine if your dating him would be okay or not.
Who knows, by then, you may be totally over him (or under another *wink*)
2007-11-07 08:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by amber ɹəqɯɐ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you keep it up and don't just let it go you will end up losing a friend and you probably won't end up with him either. My advice is try not to spend time with him. Distance yourself from him. And move on. There are plenty of guys out there.
2007-11-07 08:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lyndee J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't interfere with the current relationship. Just be friends if possible and if not then try to be as plutonic as possible. If, over time, things don't work between he and your friend then see where you stand on each other.
2007-11-07 08:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by icecardinal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still like him but you shouldn't step over your girlfriend to be with him. Believe me, relationships come and go but friendships usually last much longer. If it's meant to be, it will happen. You just need to move on for now.
2007-11-07 08:41:34 · answer #10 · answered by matt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋