2007-11-07 08:35:34 · 9 answers · asked by thearticfisherman 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Talk to her about choosing better friends. Try to get her to understand how her friend's bad behavior will reflect on her. Since you arent with her all day its impossible to stop her from hanging around but at least you can get her to look at some of the things that might happen if she does.
2007-11-07 08:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to her about your concerns. I think mostly though, talk to her about her goals for her future. What does she want to do with her life, where does she want to go? If she says she doesn't know, give her options - have a conversation with her about her and her life so that she knows that you (and your partner - her biological parent) are really interested in supporting her goals and such. She needs to know at this time that she has a soft place to fall if she does make mistakes (like making bad decisions in friends). You could also talk to her about some of your experiences in school when you were her age - situations you found difficult to dea with - find out if she has encountered similar situations and how she deals with them. Of course - do this causally - you don't want to draw attention to the fact that you are trying to get information about her, out of her!!! Teenagers clam up when you are deliberately trying to 'snoop'. Just don't become her best friend, make sure that there is a adult-child relationship that is maintained there but she needs to know you are interested in her life (even if you don't agree with everything she does).
You could also try and get her involved with some sort of extra-curricular activity in the area. Perhaps you guys could start volunteering together, and she can bring a friend along... just stay active in her life, but don't be over bearing.
Cheers
EDIT: A good venue to talk about these things 'causually' is by bringing it up at the dinner table, particularly if there are other kids around.. the attention is diverted but make sure she is involved in the conversation - asking leading questions if need be!
2007-11-07 16:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by elementoflife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean without just talking with her? My mom and dad always told me they didn't really like different ones I hung around and they told me why. As a kid, I would watch the kid from then on and see that my parents were right and shy away from them.
If you don't want to talk : Hang out with he more often doing projects or going fun places. You could get her into sports or activities after school that would make her realize that there is life outside school and it might make her see that this person(s) are only going to bring her down.
2007-11-07 16:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Janette L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, since you're the step-parent, it's not your place to discipline the girl.
Her biological parent should be the one to take care of that, it's your job just to be supportive.
If the parent can't step up, then recommend they seek help from the school counselor, clergyperson or someone they trust.
Good luck.
2007-11-07 16:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by MARY N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you encourage other activities outside of school. Get her to bring other friends home to build up better friendships with them. Do not ban her...the worst thing you can do as it will make her more want to stay friends to annoy you.
2007-11-07 17:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes her/him she likes them there is really not much u can do it is her friends if she starts to get in trouble discipline her u cant take away her friends
2007-11-11 15:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by BNicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her,don't try and stop her ,it usually breeds defiance
2007-11-11 16:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by mach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse psychology? Say you like the kid?
2007-11-07 17:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant but she will learn the hard way
start saving up for bail
2007-11-07 16:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by hello everyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋