We have been together for at least 2 years. He is high maintenance, he needs pampering all the time. He does not do any chores (may be garbage once and a while) and he does not have a real job. He plays cards (looses more often than other), work a few hours on a small strugging business that he has and plays Xbox 360 (that i bought) with his friends during week days... and i have to not mind the few joints here and there (which i do)... he pays for the house, i pay for food, entertainment and restaurants (and his gifts to his family and friends) which costs me over 1000$ a month cause he has no money ... i am working 55 to 60hrs a week and feel just tired of all this... i feel like he is abusing of the situation... i get the speach : <> almost everyday...but i just do not feel it from him... i feel like a commodity...Last Valentines... i got a <
2007-11-07 08:17:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has been said that they never miss the water 'till the well runs dry. Leave him. He needs to grow up and be a man. You are not helping the situation by supplying all the needs to him and his family. He is using you and you are letting him. You need to give him an ultimatum and stick to it. Easier said than done huh.... Well god gave us all Will and you have the power to be strong and take a stand and mean it and you also have will. NOW use what god gave you and take a stand. Good luck I hope it all works out for you. :)
2007-11-07 08:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question sounds like you just woke up one day and found yourself - innocently - in the middle of this problem. That suggests that at least part of the problem here isn't him, but you. Find out what you want from a relationship, go for it without a second thought, and then if it doesn't go the way you set your mind to, then at least take responsibility for letting it get to the point where you have a lazy slug on your hands and get rid of him.
2007-11-07 08:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Beb B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to unload! My man doesn't do 'much' around the home either, but at least he works. He works long hours! Doesn't sit around playing Xbox 360.
2007-11-07 08:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
classic potato. how can a man not act like a man? totally embarassing the male species. even I wanna smack him good, don't even say you. give him an ultimatum, break/switch the agreement, pay the house instead, ask him to pay everything else, break up with him if that doesn't work.
2007-11-07 08:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loser and needs to grow up, get out of it! Move on, sounds like you can and are supporting yourself!
2007-11-07 08:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by taurus_lynne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship works when both people work at it.
2007-11-07 08:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jolly Rancher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anika, Move on darling this is not who you want for all eternity !
2007-11-07 08:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him in a heartbeat!
do it fast -- you're already 2 years overdue!
2007-11-07 08:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him to start pulling his own weight, and if he refused. I would make him pull his own weight by dumping him.
2007-11-07 08:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump his ***, he isnt worth your stress and work. find a new man
2007-11-07 08:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋