ok, well, alot of things have happened to me lately, and i've done the research, and i think i might be depressed, i was talking to my boyfriend of 1+ years, and he says i need to get help and if i dont he is going to for me, but my freinds i've known for ever are telling me im fine and that theyre there and i will get through it, what should i do? who do i need to listne to, my boyfreind means the world to me but so do my friends, is my boyfreind being over protective?
2007-11-07 07:59:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, the boyfriend might be right 'cause you feel yourself "something is wrong". Rather than asking people OUTSIDE yourself, ask yourself: what am I feeling? When did this start? Why ask others how you seem or behave when you yourself know something is wrong? It doesn't have to be forever; no long term shrink and a lifetime of psychoanalysis, just make an appointment with say a child (if you are under 18 you can use them)pyschologist, a school counselor if you trust that source. Ask Mom for advise. She should know if you live at home or keep close, what you've been through. A good heart to heart talk with Mom or Dad (if alive or available to you) will really help. So will a close sis. Or bro.
Depression tends to run in families. Don't be shy, get some help, talking is excellent. Don't listen to opionions about "how fine you seem" when you know inside something is bothering YOU. Losses and a lot of "things happening" create anxiety and sometimes grief over losses, that is normal. It can lead to depression if you cannot experience it and talk about it openly. Cheers.
2007-11-07 08:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by flowerlady60 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to listen to yourself!
Your boyfriend sounds kinda controlling if he won't let you decide whether or not you'll get help.
But your friends can't tell you you don't need it either. Only you know what you need. Go with what your gut tells you! Some people are happier working through the recovery process alone, others need the support. Neither way is wrong and whatever is right for you, is right!
Tell the people in your life that you know they care and you love them for caring but this is your decision. You don't want it to become a fight if you don't go with what one side says! This is your problem, not theirs. Own it! Don't depend on the advice of others to get better. They can't feel what you do and the only person who can really determine what is best for you is you!!
Lol, I think I've reinforced that point enough now!
Good luck. Whatever you decide, make sure it is you who decides.
xx
Cara
2007-11-07 16:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are depressed because of an identifiable situation, then it will pass with time and you don't need to see a doctor or a therapist really, unless you need greivance counselling. However, if you are depressed for no apparent reason, then yeah, you would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist.
As for your boyfriend, while he may be well meaning, he cannot MAKE you get help or accept help, to say that he will indicates to me that he may be a very manipulative and controlling person, and he may actually be the one that needs therapy.
2007-11-07 16:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we do face some kind of personal problems....but it's different if you're already having personal crisis( these are the things where you really cannot cope up anymore, emotionally)...and that's when you need help....your friends said you're doing fine...but your boyfriend told you otherwise...hm
if these friends you're talking about are the who knows you inside out...chances are...you're fine...you're still coping...you just need to talk it out( with some real friends ok, it's quite unhealthy if they're there just to entertain themselves and pretend they're "geuinely" interested to listen to you, so watch out)
now about your boyfriend...maybe you over exaggerated the things you told him...sometimes girls do have a tendency of doing that you know to get a special attention from their significant others....and well that made him worried sick about you....unless you problem is him...:)
well...in the end...take a look at yourself....be self aware...before you get a pro to analyze you...analyze yourself first...maybe there's really nothing wrong with you....everybody in this world gets a share of bad and awful things in his or her life...do you think you can still handle it...there are problems that can wait...sometimes it resolves itself in time...all you have to do is wait...but their are problems too that needs priority...think about first things first...
and...ask for guidance...He may not give you all the answers...but He believes in you....
one last thing...we become what we think we are...if you think you're depressed...then maybe you are....don't be too hard on yourself...
2007-11-07 16:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by mhaikee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have a caring boyfriend and supportive friends who tell you what to do. But what do you think? Do you think it would help you to get some counseling? Or do you think you can work through issues yourself? What really matters is what you think.
2007-11-07 16:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋