My boyfriend got me pregnant?

Question

im so scared!! it hurt a bit i am 14 and he did it today in the bathroom i had a doctors appointment and i found out i was pregnant. now i dont know what to do. im only in 8th grade and my parents kicked me out and now im over my boyfriends house just to spend the nice because the parents know they we are just friends but we are more then that!!!!! help plz!!

Answer 1

r u serious? wow. ur parents really kicked u out? marry him! lol

Answer 2

I am sorry to hear about your problem. I was in your position when I was in the 8th grade. I was 4 months pregnant I had no choice but to get an abortion. #1 I was too young and not even in high school. #2. I had my future ahead of me plus when my teachers found out they said I made the right choice.
As for your boyfriend you really don't know how long he will cope with this. Both of you are still to young and being a parent at that age could be really hard. Plus your parents may not help you with the baby. Since they were mean enough to kick you out of the house.

They could be thinking "She think she's grown so let her take care of the child". I'm not saying all of this to be mean I'm just saying some parents do act like that. Some are nice and understanding and some are mean. Judging by your post your parents are the mean type. You will know what is the best thing to do. I feel your pain and I understand what you are going through. GOD BLESS YOU SWEETIE

Answer 3

Kate,

I am empathic to your condition but some clarity is needed. Your "boyfriend did not get you pregnant." You were there and unless you are charging rape --- you are a co-equal cooperating participant in the growth of a new life.
Accept your responsibility --- you can not play the little girl victim card --- it is insulting.

You, your parents, your boyfriend, and his parents need to come together with some outside counsel and decide what is best for everyone including the foetus in utero.

I suggest that you see your priest/religious counselor and someone from legal aide --- The fact that your parents "kicked" you out may not be legal.

How old is your boyfriend? This may complicate matters greatly. Where and when did the act of coitus occur? These may have bearing.

Seek guidance but do not discount your participation and think of the consequences of your past, current, and future actions. Think hard if you would like this "boy" to be forced to live with a "sexual predator" label for the rest of his life and the problems he will have with such an appellation affixed to his name --- rejections of employment, etc.

You were there --- you wanted to play being an adult --- you now have an adult problem --- try to become the moral adult you thought you were.

Answer 4

I will give you the benefit of the doubt about the timing issue in what you wrote and assume you are confused...

You are going to have to tell the truth i'm afraid Honey. After all the will know soon enough if you keep it won't they?

You can't take all the blame either as it takes two to get pregnant. Talk to your boyfriend first and explain you both need help and support and then you will have to tell his parents too. Then be brave and tell them. I expect they will be angry and surprised but I hope once they calm down they will offer you some help and support. After all it is now done and you all need to deal with the here and now!

Also tell your teachers and youth councillor and ask them to help in anyway they can. Also you need to examine your optitions as to if you want to keep it , have an abortion or get it adopted. That's why you need all the help and support you can get. Don't rush into anything yet and as bad as it seems I can assure you there will be a way through this. The very best of luck!

Answer 5

Oh hunny, you got yourself a problem BUT...14 is really young baby to be having a baby, you've just limited yourself to at least 18 years of struggle..So, I'm not going to beat you up and be a judge and jury...

So, now what? You got a lot of careful planning to do. Are there any alternatives for you? How about an adult you trust? A counselor? Be prepared for alot of "pre-conceived" judgement, okay? Your mom threw you out, that sucks just when you need her the most. But again, you have to be focused on you. She is dissappointed but, things happen. Do you have an adult you look up to? You seriously need to talk to someome other than your boyfriend about what's best for you. You can't even begin to understand the difficulty and stress of having a child so young..

My heart goes out to you hunn. I wish you were mine, I'd help you-- not throw you out into the street. But again, I can't judge your mum either. When people are hurt they do thing's that may be a bit drastic. Life is unscripted....

The majority of the advice here can be negative however a few of the people here--perhaps we are older--have some good solid advice. I'd invite you to weed through all the criticismn and find something that will help you think..I'm here if you need my "e-mail ears"..I wish you all the best of love and happiness little sister. Remember that YOU are the most important to YOURSELF right now..Your focus should stay on you and your future..Be careful and think! think! think! about EVERY aspect of this..

Answer 6

See a lawyer and take help from social services.

If you are in USA you can see a school counsellor.
But any other non western country You are at the mercy of your parents or his parents.

Both of you were party to this act.

If the boy is older then you and at least 16 then he may do jail time for this.

Be calm, here we have 3 life at stake,so plead with your parent to take you back or have boy tell the parent what happened, you can have the child adopted with the help of a lawyer and adoption clinic, you will need written permission of the boy also to do any thing, other then keeping this child.

Please stay in school or transfer to the one that is for pregnant students, do not drop out.

You are very young and soon you will need medical attention. So act quick for your and the baby's sake.

Answer 7

You must ask yourself do you want this child? You are in 8th grade, and you are too young to have a child. You can have an abortion, I do not know much about abortions but i advice you to look them up and see if you have to pay for them. I think that it is a total shame for you to have been kicked out of your house, for not you have noone to turn too. Anothing thing is, you and your boyfriend are young. And I am sure he would not help you through your pregnancy. Go and seek medical help, talk to your doctor what you want to do. And if push comes to the crunch, you must speak to an adult, like your boyfriend's parents and get this sorted out. You have a full life ahead of you. Do what you feel you must do.

Answer 8

Ok, first of all you need to find a young mothers program. They will help you during your pregnancy and teach you how to take care of you baby the right way. You need to tell your boyfriend's parents what's going on even if it hard. They need to know that they have a grandkid on the way.......I pray that they have a heart and help you. If they don't that Young Mothers program will really help you. You also should go to a church and tell a children's director your needs.....or tell the missions director. They will help you!! Have the baby.....don't let an innocent life go!! For all you know you could be bringing the doctor who will find a cure for cancer into the world!! Don't have an abortion.......

You might want to think about getting small jobs that pay...like babysitting or something.....you'll need money. Hopefully your boyfriends parents will help you........

I'm very sorry that your parents kicked you out.....but I will be praying for you dear.....Good luck!!!!

Answer 9

If your parents kicked you out before you got pregnant, I don't think you can go back there just yet. If your bf's parents find out you are more than just friends then THEY may kick you out.

You need to talk to someone neutral like a teacher or your doctor. You are too young to be a mother. If your behavior is so immature that you parents threw you out then you are definitely too young and immature to be a parent. Get help now !

Answer 10

He did it today in the bathroom and you've already found out that you're expecting? That doesn't really add up and it doesn't work that way. Maybe someone else helped you get into your present condition? It didn't happen today, I promise.

If there was no one else and you truly did become active today and didn't protect youself, get down to a clinic and take the morning after pill. In three months, get an H IV test.

Don't do this again. You're way too young.

Answer 11

1. He didn't "get you" pregnant, you two had sex and you became pregnant. It's a team sport.
2, Call the police. Inform them that your parents kicked you out at age 14, and tell them you need to find a shelter. They'll get you a better environment than your babydaddy's house.