So I just came out with a few of my friends and well they are cool about it. i mean really just fine about it. totally fine and supportave and still cheat me as it was before they knew. Well so they keep asking me which girl im into. I told them that i dont want to make them feel weird. Should i talk to them about it or find a gay friend to talk to?
2007-11-07 07:36:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure you'd benefit from having someone to talk to who knows where you're coming from, but it sounds like your friends want to be there for you, too. If they're really not treating you any differently, you should give them a chance.
2007-11-07 07:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by MM 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you Just "came out" does that mean you have a thing going with another girl????, If so is this girl "out" . If there is not a person you are involved with and you are still a teenager i would keep very discreet and private about the entire situation. Letting your closest friends know you lean that direction and declaring a relationship are way far apart for now.. letting friends speculate about a third person would be un cool....
find a gay person privately and becareful what you declare and insinuate, this is a whole new world for you and it is every bit as complicated and more so than the straight relationship path.
2007-11-07 07:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Judy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instincts are correct in that if the person you like is not gay also, or is not out, you could make them feel weird.
It would be the same if say a gay guy said he liked a straight guy. The potential for disaster isn't as high for a female, but high school can be very hard and it's best to not sir up the pot too much.
Congratulations by the way on coming out to your friends, that took allot of trust and guts. I'm proud of both you and your friends!
If you want to talk about girls you like choose a celebrity, they are always fair "game" to talk about.
Best wishes!
2007-11-07 07:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe high-school kids aren't the most understanding creatures, and their past-time is laughing at people's differences. Becareful.
You should find a friend who's been through the obstacles you are now dealing with. That way you know you can trust their response, rather that risk being ridiculed behind your back by straight kids, not to say that their heterosexuality makes them mean or vindictive, but, like you, they are only teenagers, trying to fit in.
If you let them know who you like, they might embarass you or hurt you once armed with that knowledge. Just remember, highschool doesn't last forever. Friends from highschool can last a life time, but usually don't.
2007-11-07 07:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by hailey998 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know them better than we do. I can tell you as a straight person with a lesbian sister and several lesbian friends, that most people try to be cool about it but often aren't as cool as they act. Not because they are prejudice or anti-gay but just inexperienced with dealing with it.
I would just take it slowly and see how they react etc.., Also having a good base of gay/lesbian friends who have been there done that is a great resource.
Good Luck!
2007-11-07 07:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust them, there's no harm in talking to them. I have lesbian friends, and I ask them which women they find attractive, just as they ask me which men I find attractive. The're interested in your life and your likes and dislikes. You're still the same person you were before; nothing has changed, really. If they're supportive of that and recognize that, you can go on in the same way. Any questions regarding how to attract said female, however, should be asked to a fellow lesbian friend; don't make them feel too uncomfortable by giving them too much information.
2007-11-07 07:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello hun.well done for being honest and telling your friends,if they keep asking who you fancy just say none of them the person you like is not local that way they may let it drop especially if you make like you miss this person . Don`t lose your long term friends over it, they will still be mates whether you are gay or straight,so dropping them will not solve anything ,but you could end up lonely and wishing you still had them around.Just be you hunni whatever orientaion you have you are still the person that they know and love. i hope this helps xx
2007-11-07 07:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by her with the mad ginger hair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriends are being supportive and accepting of your sexuality, than you can most certainly talk about it. It sounds like you are uncomfortable and feeling 'weird' ...not them. Take it slow. You don't have to reveal anything that you don't want to, but if you need to talk let them be there to hear you.
Oh, and congrats by the way
2007-11-07 07:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are really trying to be supportive. If you aren't ready to talk to them about it then don't. Only you know how comfortable you are about discussing something like that. It might be a little easier if you had a gay friend to talk to about it...they will have gone through the same things that you are going through now. Don't push your other friends away...they are trying to be there for you.
2007-11-07 07:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~irish~moon~star~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. Good idea of not telling them who your into. They will feel weird and they might think their coming on to you. I'm not gay but I seen these things before. Just talk to your friends like the way you were before you came out.
2007-11-07 07:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋