2007-11-07 07:30:05 · 9 answers · asked by dannielle w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
What I did with my now one year old daughter really worked well for us.
If ever she would touch or reach for something I didn't want her to have, I would gently but firmly say no, and hold her hand against her chest so she couldn't move it for 10-30 seconds.
It didn't hurt her at all and she started putting together that when mom says no, she wants me to stop. I would then redirect her to something I wanted her to play with.
When I was confident that she understood what no meant, she would hesitate and look at me when I said it, then I would swat her hand and say no if she was reaching for something dangerous. I would then give her lots of love. When she would stop if I said no, I gave her a ton of praise and gave her lots of love. It took about a month or so to get to that point, but I started a little younger.
She is now a very good listener, although she does need to be reminded on occasion and like all children, whenever she hits a new milestone, she regresses a little in other areas.
The key as with most parenting is consistency.
2007-11-07 07:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth G 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't teach her no. She will become more strong-willed, the more you oppose her and teach her no. Instead, at this age, if she is going somewhere she isn't supposed to or doing something wrong, pick her up and put her somewhere else or distract her. This will work for another year or two.
Then, you can start doing time-outs. However, don't attach strong emotions to wrong conduct. That only makes it worse. Calmly re-direct her or put her in a time-out (at a later age).
Baby-proof your house so she can't get into trouble. You need to keep a safe environment.
Take a parenting class. They are really good and you learn a lot.
Best wishes.
2007-11-07 07:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ron L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First make sure your house is ultra safe and baby proofed. Better safe than sorry. Once your house is baby proofed, if your daughter finds something unsafe, simply say "No, Ma'am" in a firm but friendly voice. Then use redirection to direct her attention away from the unsafe item. If it is something movable such as a plant, you may want to relocate the plant up high or out of reach so that your daughter is not tempted by that item. Best of luck to you!
2007-11-07 07:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Amy G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children can start to understand the concept of no at her age, but you can't expect them to follow it. They're just babies, and it's nearly impossible for them to remember rules. I am absolutely appalled that someone suggested you spank a BABY! My goodness, I hope that person reads up on child development - you can't "punish" a little baby! That said, the best thing to do at this age is to redirect. When she starts doing something you don't want her to do, it's OK to say no - but just saying no isn't enough. After you say it, redirect her - guide her to something else that should hold her attention. Make sure anything you don't want her touching is out of reach (your house should be baby - proofed by now). For example, if she tries to take all of the pots and pans out of the cabinets, redirect her to some baby - safe blocks to play with after telling her no playing in the cabinet. But save the time - outs (or spanking - not my method of choice, but whatever) until she's closer to 18 months old.
2007-11-07 07:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good luck with that. LOL It just takes time and consistency. My son was walking by 10.5 months old. He is still working on the NO part of life. haha (21 months)
2007-11-07 07:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by sweetbeesma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly, 9 months is a bit young to teach no. and my son is 2 and avery well behaved child, but he still does not listen to no if he is tired or just does not feel like it. all i can say is be consistent, do not make "threats" and not follow in on them (by threats i mean, telling them they will have a time out, no dessert, etc) you must follow through every time. give in once and it could be a long term problem.
2007-11-07 07:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by 1 Hott Mami 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A swat in the diaper area and the word no works wonders and has been utilized for hundreds of years. Discipline is part of parenting get used to it before the kid is doing all the wrong things and driving you to the point of insanity.
2007-11-07 07:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Children do not have a concept of the word NO!. You can use it and child proof the house and get everything out of her reach, chase her, move her, etc. But she does not have the brain capabilities of the word NO. ABSOLUTELY NO CONCEPT.
2007-11-07 07:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You could do both at the same time.
2007-11-07 07:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by Cierra S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋