Do you believe that you have to let go of the past to become who you can be in the future?

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Answer 1

Hi,
An interesting question. I believe we are the product of our past experiences in that what we have gone through has made us who we are today. But also it is how we have handled and coped with that experience that has helped to develop our character so in that, it's a mix of both. Also yes I think you do have to let go of the past to move on. Constantly remembering past hurts, past awful experiences can prevent a person from becoming who they can be. For instance they might allow these negative emotions to influence decisions in a far-from-helpful way. The best thing is to let go and leave it all behind. Forgive too if possible.
Just as someone might find it hard to let go of past 'good' experiences ... the good old days ... these memories warping what they could enjoy in the here-and-now.
So my answer is, yes I believe you can remember, you can learn from the past, but let go too!
Pollyanna

Answer 2

Yes I do. Let me explain my answer. This is my second marriage, and my last. I was married to a horrible person. He abused me. I was locked in his house for days, no TV, no phone, no car. Not only that but I was put into some situations that I could not control. My sisters and I have had some pretty bad fights, and have done things to eachother. If I had not let these things go, then I would still be dealing with them, and God would not have opened up another door for me. When one door closes which means to me- if you let the door close, if you let your past go, then and only then will another door open- YOUR FUTURE!!
I believe that you will go far, if you do these simple steps.
1. Resolve any issues that are still there. If you have had a fight with someone, tell them that you are sorry. If you have other issues with people resolve them.
2. After you resolve the issues, understand that you must tell yourself that it is over. Understand that once you resolve the issues then you are done. You are done with that past issue.
3. Write down 5 goals that you have for your future. Don't be to hard on yourself though. Think about what you really want.
You are off to a good start then.
I don't know you, but right now I am saying a prayer for you. You need to move on. Just Do what is best for you! By the way I am now married to a wonderful man, and we are trying to start a family. God opened up this door for me. He can for you too!

Answer 3

the two enable it pass or come across a particular and small place on your heart so as which you would be able to shop the undesirable interior the previous away. no person has lead an fullyyt charmed life. we've all had stumbling blocks to triumph over and a few would desire to be left interior the previous the place they're. donning around anger and negativity basically breeds negativity. you will continuously breathe plenty loose and not using a bunch of skeletons preserving you down!!!

Answer 4

I believe that you have to let go of the past-- so that you CAN- grow. But, that you learn from the past-- to become a better person for today and for the future.

Answer 5

I think that you have to remember that you ARE the person whose past it is and that is a real part of you, but also remember that you can change everything that is in your control and you have to use your past to mold yourself into who you want to be--no one has the same experiences as you, so there's always something unique that you can bring to a new situation, whether it's an outside influence, or something inside of you. just remember that and keep yourself moving so you don't end up in a stagnant stage. that's when you live the past and you don't go anywhere. keep reevaluating things and act accordingly. that is having a future where you "become who you can be"

Answer 6

I do believe that but the question is how do you do that? I am always trying to forget my mistakes from the past and I am worried about how my future will turn out. I have no idea how to live in the present which I think is the key to happiness and self discovery----I don't know how to do that though.

Answer 7

I think it depends. If your past is going to hold you back from having a good future, then yes, the person should let go.

If a person has a past that was hard, they can use that experience to persue a much better future. This is what I do...I use my bad memories/experiences of the past to help me be strong and go for all of my goals.

Answer 8

I believe you have to let go emotionally from the past but you must never forget the lessons the past has taught us. The past can offer us some valuable experience that will play a huge part in the decisions we make in the future. But we must not allow ourselves to become too emotionally involved with the past or it will affect us negatively. So we must detach emotionally but learn objectively from our past experiences.

Answer 9

Well it depends of what you are letting go of, most of us have an innate ability to be good citizens, would we want to let go of that? Most of us are kind, loving and generous, should we let go of that? We often need to let go of the past in order to progress, sometimes our past can be quite toxic and have a detrimental effect on our whole persona, yes I can perceive that one needs to let go of the old and bring in the new. After all this is how our body works on a daily basis, we do not wake up in the morning and think shall I go to the loo, no we need to rid ourselves of the unnecessary waste, surely a paradigm for life.

Answer 10

No, rather than 'believe,' I KNOW that the past has to be reframed, or we continue to fear the future will repeat past pain/loss. This condition keeps us from ever waking in the present (the eternal now) and therefore keeps us powerless.