I really really like this guy, we've been together for almost two months, we get along great. Okay, i'm 20 yrs old and still a virgin, he's 21 and not a virgin...i'm waiting until i'm in love and married (catholic girl). The thing is he gets me so hot sometimes that i just want to rip his close off and have my way with him...he does too...but I'm not sure if i love him. I dont want to give it away on a whim (lustful whim) if he's not the one. Please...any advice??? I dont care what kind...just give me advice....has anyone been through this??? What did you do to make the lust go away and keep your virginity??? Or did you give it away and regret it or was it the best thing you did??? Thank you, i appreciate it.
2007-11-07 07:04:41 · 12 answers · asked by Ingenua...or something like it 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey it's really cool you've got enough heart to reach out and look for help looking inside yourself. It's awesome and beautiful that you are a virgin. Kissing is ok and if the guy is truly what you want him to be then he will stop on his own. Unfortunately the only way to know he wouldn't is if he doesn't. It's hard but so worth it-what you are doing. Let your hearts and your souls become familiar with each other first. That kind of intimacy will last you so much longer than sex. It's over not long after you start. It's hard especially in that kind of moment not to get caught up and just go with it. And you know, if you do it, you are not a horrible person. You are a normal girl. I'm betting it wouldn't have gotten this far if your heart wasn't there. The problem with guys dear is that when we are in our early 20's its like Puberty 2 for us and things change quickly, including what we feel about girlfriends. Rather, especially. I hope he's a good guy. Never regret your choice.
2007-11-07 07:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same situation, but luckily, you haven't given up your goods yet. Trust your instincts and don't let lust take control of you. Especially if you don't think you love the person. If you have a strong relationship with God, just continue to pray about the situation.
In my opinion, two months is a very short time and not worth you giving yourself to someone physically. When you feel like you guys are getting closer and closer to that point, try to cool down. Take a walk outside or do something that takes both of your minds off it. If this is somewhat helpful, you can drop me an email (babydoll_976@yahoo.com) or send an IM in which I could be more specific. Hope this helps a little. Stay strong and stand by your morals.
2007-11-07 07:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Enigmatic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been two months, it's lust. Wait at least six before you try to decide how you really feel about him.
Are there any activities you can do that would not be against your beliefs? You could do those. Or avoid any situation where sex could be a potential issue.
Only you can decide what you want to do, but don't throw it away for lust. Losing your virginity is huge to some people, and to others, it doesn't really matter - they're just casting it aside so they know what it feels like and can focus on the good parts. But it sounds like it means something to you, so wait until you know him better.
2007-11-07 07:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all a personal question and it all comes down to what you want... I was with someone for 9 months before I had sex with my first guy and I dont regret anything but that is me...You may regret it...If you wanna wait then wait and if he cant understand that then you are better off not being with him...And as far as the hot and heavy thing you can still have fun without having sex...There is oral both ways and feeling eachother up and dry sex with your clothes on and you can still both get off and trust me if it develops into love it will be a million times better since you waited and played for however long...Best advise...you will know when it is right and dont give in until you are ready if you wanna wait til marriage then wait if you love him and think you are ready for that experience then talk it over and go for it...but just do what feels right and what YOU are ready for not what he is...if you wanna talk more feel free to email me!!!
2007-11-07 07:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by MissingLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a virgin, but I may be able to help...
I am also religious and I have been in a relationship and have wanted to "wait." I suggest you staying away from tempting situations. Try going out in the day and going home at night. Hang out with friends together or at least in open areas around people. We can't always trust our bodies you know. Sometimes you have to create an enviroment you know nothing would ever happen in.
sweetsouth
2007-11-07 07:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, keep your virginity, don't give it away , you don't even know if you like him . Don't never give a guy your virginity , if you really don't like him . A best way a good guy can respect you is when you virgin. That's the truth.
2007-11-07 07:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by melinda_1991_meme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep THIINGS INTACT. I wouldnt get things started. Sounds like you guys get hot and heavy. Either go for it or dont, but dont put yourself in a situation that makes you think with your horemones instead of your head. Dont rely on him to stop anyting from happining either. God gave man 2 heads, but only enuff blood to run one at a time. Make sure teh blood stays in the head you want to function!!
2007-11-07 07:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he respects you & is not just out for a little action then he won't pressure you.
You're the one in charge of your body.
Don't let lust confuse you with real love.
2007-11-07 07:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what you should do here. You have to stick to your morals and wait until you are 100% sure you are ready to give it up. I promise you that even though he might want it now, he will be glad you waited.
2007-11-07 07:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jim C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some other activities besides getting each other hot. Go out in public more often, you won't get as hot if you're out in public.
Good luck!
2007-11-07 07:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by justsomeguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋