2007-11-07 06:55:44 · 9 answers · asked by lil1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When I was a young teenager I was determined to never have children no matter what people said. However I will be eighteen next year and I now certainly want children when I am young- at least one. I am surprised that I changed my mind by this age.
2007-11-07 08:10:02 · update #1
My husband never wanted children. I had a 12 yr old daughter so I was fine with that decision. Then a surprise boy came along and my husband was 42 when he was born. He now says (at 45) that we (3) are the best things that have ever happened to him and he is grateful that even though we didn't choose to get pregnant we did anyway.
He also says that even though he has a niece and nephew and most of his friends have kids that it was impossible to understand until he saw his baby growing in my belly and be born. Now he gets it and I am grateful that he gets it more than most men that wanted children.
2007-11-07 07:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had three unplanned children between the ages of 18 and 22, like most parents as soon as they were born I fell in love with them and wouldn't change it for the world. (especially since the youngest will be an adult and I'll only be 40.. probably the only women I know of looking forward to 40) I had a tubal done when I had the last one because the law wouldn't let me do it before then and I haven't looked back. Although raising children brings joy and a new view of the world, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who 1) isn't financially secure 2) values their personal identity as anything but mom or dad 3) hasn't discussed this with their partner and made sure you both realize the effect this will have on your relationship, not just in that first difficult year when child is a baby but forever... every day 4) MOST IMPORTANT you cannot be selfish and be a good parent everything is about them not you...ever again. I guess I'm saying if you think you do not want them do not have them. If you get fixed and change your mind why not adopt? I was reading a lot of men are banking sperm then having a vasectomy, if I were not an irresponsible teenager/young adult this is what I would have encouraged my partner to do/ something tells me that sperm would still be there.
2007-11-07 15:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by reallybored 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted children. I didn't want anything to do with kids, ever, as far as I concerned. Then I accidentally got pregnant after I joined the Navy. My husband and I have 4 children now, and if I didn't have to be pregnant again, I'd probably have 2 more.. .I love being a mom more than I thought I could.
2007-11-07 15:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I decided when I was 16 that I didn't want them. I am 41, and still feel the same way. I only date women that feel the same way, None of them changed their minds.
My girlfriend and I are members of a child-free club. Most everyone is in their 40's and 50's. None want children.
2007-11-07 21:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Marvin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to not (15), then did (19), then didn't again (21) T_T now I do, but not for a while.
Typically if they don't want kids it's usually for "logical" reasons.
A lot of people who didn't want kids but ended up with them can't imagine life without them now. And then there are those who really....really shouldn't have had kids lol
It depends on the person's disposition, really.
2007-11-07 15:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tacc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I changed my mind about having kids after I had 4 of them....just kidding! I always knew I'd have kids but I didn't expect to have them as young as I did. But you know, I'm really glad it worked out the way it did.
2007-11-07 18:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't want kids when I was a teen, I was going to live for myself, never "bothering" myself with kids, I wanted to not have to worry about someone else.
I was 19 when I changed my mind, when I met my (now) husband. I went from "I'm never having kids" to "I want six kids!" almost overnight. I never had the six (stopped at three) but we're still planning to adopt a fourth.
2007-11-07 15:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by Arwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As i was growing up i didn't want children, things change though. I know have 4 kids !!! whom are my life !!
I can't imagine where I'd be or what life would be like without them, Your life just rearranges itself, to accommodate your extending family.
2007-11-07 15:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, around 25.
2007-11-07 15:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Tusia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋