My fiance and I are trying to plan a destination (Caribbean) wedding for November of 2008 without having to take his kids (from his first marriage) out of school for the entire week to make the trip. A lot of people have suggested the week of Thanksgiving. Do you think it is acceptable to have it in a holiday week? Do you think it increases or decreases the chances that people will attend? We would be able to give people nearly a year's notice if we decide to do it. Thoughts?
2007-11-07 06:37:40 · 11 answers · asked by Deanrijo 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that would be a great time to do it! Many people have off from not only school but work as well during that time. Those who can go will be glad to go. I think it would be cool too if you could in some way incorporate Thanksgiving Dinner in with your wedding or at least while everyone is there since they probably wont be having that dinner with the rest of their families. It could be your way of thanking them for putting out such a generous effort to attend your wedding. I think for a destination wedding a year's notice should always be given! Good for you!!!
2007-11-07 06:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that having it during Thanksgiving is a good idea based on personal experience. One of our friends got married last year the day before Thanksgiving and it was such a hassel. My fiance couldn't get off work because he had just started a new job and they needed people so desperately because too many people were taking off during that time. Also, we have a dog and couldn't bring her with us so we had to try to find someone to take car of her or board her. All the boarding places within a 30 mile radius were booked from last year! Also, we had to stay in a hotel when we got there and all the hotels were booked too! We ended up driving the 5 hour ride back home the night of the wedding which was not fun! Many people RSVP'd to their wedding but ended up not showing. I would never recommend that unless you're planning on having either no one show up or everyone show up because Tthanksgiving is usually a time where families get together. I think they'll either skip your wedding or too many of them will want to come just to be together for Thanksgiving.
JMO.
2007-11-07 06:52:11 · answer #2 · answered by chaychayolei 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It may decrease the amount of people that can attend because thats a bit of a costly trip (i think).. My best advice is send out save the date's to your guests in a good amount of time...esp if it's during a holiday weekend so you've got a double whammy there...
destination wedding during thanksgiving week.. im not dissing you so don't think that but it's gonna be a tough one. Do it soon i would say so people can make sure they not only have the time off from work but they can make sure they are able to afford it!
Hope this was helpful
2007-11-07 06:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married the first part of November. We didn't want to do it too close to Thanksgiving for a few reasons. 1. flights and hotels are more expensive (and crazy) at that time and 2. we wanted to spread out the days of celebration more.
If you do it earlier, you could also have your kids make up the work they miss during the Thanksgiving break, just give the teachers a heads up and don't let your kids know it was my idea ;)
p.s. we went to the Caribbean for our honeymoon and LOVED it!!! Congrats, I'm excited for you!
2007-11-07 17:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would pick a different week as it will likely decrease the people who attend. Unless you know that all the people you want there will make it. Around here our schools only close Thur. & Fri. for Thanksgiving, so what's an extra couple of days.
2007-11-07 07:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is not a good idea at all. People do not want to break tradition and spend all kinds of money going to the carribean right before they have to spend all kinds of money on christmas. Spring Break is more appropriate if you want people to attend and the kids not to miss school. Or even better yet, get married locally and then drop the kids off with grandma or aunt jane or whoever and then take a private vacation with just the two of you.
2007-11-07 06:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Derek L 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well it is kinda up in the air, i think that the fact that you are having a destination wedding dramatically decreases you chances of ppl attending, i would maybe consider inviting only close friends and family and then having a reception back home for everyone to attend.
2007-11-07 07:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by sweet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a wonderful idea for a destination wedding. I think it might actually enable more of your friends/family to be able to make the trip as they probably would be out of work anyway.
You are not going to please everyone, but if you want a destination - just do it when you like and give everyone as much notice as possible.
2007-11-07 07:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people have family commitments on t-giving week. i guess you could ask those few you would want there and see how it goes. it is not so much t-giving week, either, it is very close to christmas and i would be concerned that people would not be budgeting a huge expensive vacation in november and so close to christmas which is an expensive time. so, i think it may not fit into peoples budgets at that time of year.
2007-11-07 07:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys should announce it to your family over Thanksgiving this year so thy can be prepared. You shouldn;t have a problem. It sounds very special and I am sure it will go as planned
2007-11-07 07:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by nyjae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋