What am I supposed to do with my life?

Question

Besides my son, I am not happy with my life. I just left his father, who was emotionally, and physically abusive and I moved back home with mom. I work at a job I hate, but I have good benifits, so I stick with it. I don't know what to go to school for because I don't like anything, or anybody at this point so I am just a fixture at the university. I am talking to a guy who is 2 hours away and wants me and my child to move in with him. My son has autisim. I don't know if I put enough faith into God because sometimes I feel alone. I don't have friends I can talk to because I end up hearing about their problems. I pray, pray, pray and pray, coming up with no answers. I am confused, tired, and emotional. I also am looking for a job, my present one makes me want to vomit. I would continue on, but if I do someone may recommend Dr Phil Lol. I just don't know who to go to with any problm at this point. Everyone's input will be appreciated

Answer 1

If you hate your job and no other career interests you (there are literally thousands to choose from), then it sounds like youre depressed. See a Dr.
I do advise you talk to a counselor at a college and they can test you to see what you might like in a career. Its gotta be better than wanting to vomit everyday.

Answer 2

As someone else suggested, the fact that you don't have any possible areas of interest as far as a job go imply that you may be depressed. You have been through a lot emotionally, and I would first and foremost seek counceling. If you don't know where to start, but need to do something, i would suggest going back to school part time and taking a variety of courses. Maybe you will find an interest that you didn't know you had. I would be hesistant to move in with this guy two hours away unless you are in a comitted relationship. Your son needs stability at this point. Good luck.

Answer 3

Until you fix what is on the inside, all you will be able to do is what you are doing, running from thing to thing looking for something you can't describe. Its not your life that you are unhappy with, its you.

You just left one bad relationship and are seriously considering someone you've talked to for 2 weeks. Think this one through. Why would anyone invite you to live in their home after simply talking to you for two weeks. If you don't see what's wrong with that picture, please consider your child and ask why you would consider putting your autistic son in another environment after just pulling him out of the last one. If you don't think this won't effect him, you are dead wrong.

You aren't ever going to be satisfied with the job you are in because you aren't satisfied with you. Again, its not the job, its you.

While going back to school is admirable, what exactly is the point right now? You don't know who you are and what you want and you don't like yourself at all. Don't waste your time or your money.

Your friends probably say the same thing about you, its really hard to listen to someone with this much negativity who will not own her own problems and take responsibility for them.

Dr. Phil isn't going to help you, you have to help you. Start with counseling. Stick with it. Until you learn the tools to cope with life and to like the person you are, you will be still asking this question in 30 years.

Answer 4

For starters, I congratulate you on making one of probably the toughest decisions emotionally for someone. Which is to remove yourself from that situation with your sons father. Praying is a good start, they say theres power in prayer. Maybe you should seek some guidance from a professional to cope with some of the emotional damage that may reside from being with a man that treated you horrible. At that I can imagine that its not just leaving him, and your worries about your son. It sounds like its everything. I can imagine what you feel like going back home for a little bit. Thats not easy in itself especially when we become used to doing things our way, etc. You can always ask your mom and fill her in how you feel emotionally so that she can help you walk thru this.
Your going to make it thru this and your going to be fine. If i can even help and you need to vent shoot me an email and i will personally give you my email, or i.m. so you can vent.

For now take it one day at a time, try and mediate so you CAN focus. try and think of what your passion is, was what made you just thrive at just the thought. Was it something you had a knack for? A talent, cooking, making things? Whatever it was try and remember that and try to see if that helps lighten your mood. As far as work that can effect you to such a degree and spill over into everything else. If you think about it we are at work more then we are at home, so your peace of mind is valuable so that you can continue with your mission to progress ..

Answer 5

oh honey!! here is my advise ok take it or leave it! your not happy right ? (with your self) so def. do not move in with a guy it prolly wouldn't work you need to be happy with your self!! then go to school ONLINE it is flexible and just great all around I just started like 2 weeks ago i love it. I can only magine what it would be like raising an autistic child on your own. keep your head up it can only get better from here and it will you have to make it happen tho.!!! i wish you well if oyu are that depressed go to the dr. (no not phil) they will help you get what you need rather that be med or counciling

Answer 6

Wow. You do have a lot to think about. I know that when I was at a similar point in my life, I called my insurance company, and found out about how much they would pay for me to see a therapist. It wasn't to deal with my 'past', or get over something that happened when I was 10, it was for someone who had knowledge to hear me bi++h out loud, and not then hit me with their story of life's woes. I went, and she gave me tips on how to think straight, and get out from under my black cloud. Never was one for 'journaling' think its stupid, but I talk out loud in the car and work things out. You have lots to say, and I know it really really helps when you say it to someone who is not a friend or relative. A different perspective, and different ideas that you might already know, but are so bogged down with crap, that you miss it.

I my own opinion, I would not worry about the guy who lives far away, and focus on you. Sounds selfish, but you are your own champion, and if you don't fight for your own piece of mind, no one will hand it to you. You have a son, who needs you to be on top of the game, and thats where you should be working to get. I so know about a suck job, but if you get your mind right, things will fall into place. I left a crap job that paid LOTS of money to be a poor student. Happy doesn't even scratch the surface of where I am now. you can go to a college and ask about a placement test that will put your skills, likes and ability into a program and it comes up with different fields that you would be best suited for. I wish I could remember what its called, but if you describe it to academic advising they will know what its called.

Help is there, go find it, and you will be 1/2 way to getting it together. I know you don't know me, but trust me on that!

Also, congrats on taking back your life, and leaving an abuser. You are a strong woman, and can find your way, you already started. Good for you!

Answer 7

i know how you feel about your job mine makes me want to stay in bed all day and never get out, it sucks to wake up in the morning in a good mood then be sad because you know you have to go to work. god has a plan for you he has a plan for all of us it may seem hard right now but it will get batter. i always have to tell myself hay its could get worse. the guy that wants you to move in with his two hours away i don't know that's a big move to make i would want to be sure he was the one before i made that kind of move. maybe god i speaking to you but you cant hear him through all the other noise and worry. i hope you find a new job and find peace in your life. god will help you, you might just have to wait.

Answer 8

First, stay away from men for awhile, they cloud your mind with different issues. You have to find out who you are before you can have a relationship with someone. You have to love yourself, and respect yourself, before anyone will love and respect you.Be happy in the moment too! Don't waste your time worrying about the past or the future. Live for now.Change yourself and your life will change too! Good Luck!